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To not understand why she messages me?

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millennialboss · 27/06/2024 15:14

I’m in a group teams chat at work where it’s general work chat but then sometimes a team meal will be decided on.

She will then message me privately to say, there’s a meal on the 10th. She knows I’m in the group??

I’d understand if it was a couple of days after and I’d not acknowledged it but she will literally tell me within minutes of it being posted.

OP posts:
Justcallmebebes · 27/06/2024 15:27

malmi · 27/06/2024 15:19

You don't say who "she" is so I'll assume it's your MIL.

Remove her from your work Teams chat. She has no business involving herself there.

Well that's a stretch!!

FOJN · 27/06/2024 15:26

Respond once telling her you're in the group chat and ignore all future messages.

purplecorkheart · 27/06/2024 15:26

Maybe she thinks that you are not in the group or that you have the group on mute. Just reply with Thanks _. I saw that in the group chat. Repeat the exact same every single time.

beckybarefoot · 27/06/2024 15:24

millennialboss · 27/06/2024 15:24

She’s just a colleague, same level as me.

then as above... say yes thanks i saw in the group chat. sounds to me like she wants to start a bitch fest about the meal etc

Original poster
millennialboss · 27/06/2024 15:24

She’s just a colleague, same level as me.

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Nectarinesarenice · 27/06/2024 15:23

I would just message - ‘yes I know, I’m in the chat’

malmi · 27/06/2024 15:19

You don't say who "she" is so I'll assume it's your MIL.

Remove her from your work Teams chat. She has no business involving herself there.

Doltontweedle · 27/06/2024 15:19

Maybe she pms everyone to make sure they haven’t missed it in the group?

FOJN · 27/06/2024 15:18

Who is she?

Can't you respond with, "thanks for letting me know but I'm already in the group chat".

beckybarefoot · 27/06/2024 15:16

is she your boss? do you often gossip independantly from the other teams group? i tend to find this in our office, there's a main chat, then there are branches of chats by individuals who chat amongst themselves, usually about the ones they have left out of the chats.