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To not understand why she messages me?

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millennialboss · 27/06/2024 15:14

I’m in a group teams chat at work where it’s general work chat but then sometimes a team meal will be decided on.

She will then message me privately to say, there’s a meal on the 10th. She knows I’m in the group??

I’d understand if it was a couple of days after and I’d not acknowledged it but she will literally tell me within minutes of it being posted.

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Poolstream · 27/06/2024 16:27

I’d reply.
Really? Well hot diggety dog.

Amy8 · 27/06/2024 16:25

malmi · 27/06/2024 15:19

You don't say who "she" is so I'll assume it's your MIL.

Remove her from your work Teams chat. She has no business involving herself there.

Bloody hilarious

butterpuffed · 27/06/2024 16:19

I think so too .

kitsuneghost · 27/06/2024 16:19

I would think she was trying to get more friendly with you on a personal level rather than just a colleague.

loropianalover · 27/06/2024 16:13

The MIL comment has me laughing at my desk 😂 OP you explained nothing, unless there’s more context to this then this is such a non-issue… she’s obviously just trying to make conversation and get your attention, she wants to know if you’re going.

Headingtowardsdivorce · 27/06/2024 16:12

Maybe she wants to be friends and is hoping that you'll reply with, "yes, I saw, are you going to go?"

BobbyBiscuits · 27/06/2024 16:10

She might have social anxiety and wants to try and confirm in her own mind that the people she gets on with are attending?
Either that or it's just a quirk, she may have been an office manager or something before where she had to try and corral people into stuff.
Just ignore it and don't take it in a horrible way. Unless she's an arse in general of course.

sweetpickle2 · 27/06/2024 16:10

Have you asked her?

Sounds like she wants to engage you in conversation separately about the meal, for whatever reason, not that she doesn't realise you're on the group. Only one way to know!

mondaytosunday · 27/06/2024 16:08

So what do you say? I'd say 'thanks Sue but I saw that on the group chat'.

greenpolarbear · 27/06/2024 16:07

Either she isn't aware you're in the group or she's being sarcastic. As in so many people have already said there's a meal on the 10th so it's like a "(in case you didn't get the memo 25 times already), there's a meal on the 10th"

PossumintheHouse · 27/06/2024 16:00

malmi · 27/06/2024 15:19

You don't say who "she" is so I'll assume it's your MIL.

Remove her from your work Teams chat. She has no business involving herself there.

😂👹

Testina · 27/06/2024 15:58

millennialboss · 27/06/2024 15:31

I think they were trying to be sarcastic and funny, but it failed miserably.

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Not a failure at all, made me smile!

Stealthmodemama · 27/06/2024 15:56

I wonder if she likes you - and wants to make sure you are going .. perhaps she wants to be your work bestie?!?

Ginnnny · 27/06/2024 15:55

malmi · 27/06/2024 15:19

You don't say who "she" is so I'll assume it's your MIL.

Remove her from your work Teams chat. She has no business involving herself there.

This made me laugh so fucking hard 😂

Scruffily · 27/06/2024 15:53

Have you tried asking her?

Whataweirdsituation · 27/06/2024 15:47

millennialboss · 27/06/2024 15:31

I think they were trying to be sarcastic and funny, but it failed miserably.

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It made me LOL at my desk 😂

BingoMarieHeeler · 27/06/2024 15:45

malmi · 27/06/2024 15:19

You don't say who "she" is so I'll assume it's your MIL.

Remove her from your work Teams chat. She has no business involving herself there.

🤣🤣 that’s hilarious

OP context is a thing for a reason - it’s useful. Otherwise people will assume ‘she’ is your MIL, for example.

Just do as PP say and tell her she doesn’t need to tell you.

Donotneedit · 27/06/2024 15:42

millennialboss · 27/06/2024 15:31

I think they were trying to be sarcastic and funny, but it failed miserably.

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I thought it was funny

Differentstarts · 27/06/2024 15:39

Just msg back yeah I see it on the group chat thanks. Is it really that big a deal

IncompleteSenten · 27/06/2024 15:31

Do you need to reply?

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millennialboss · 27/06/2024 15:31

Justcallmebebes · 27/06/2024 15:27

Well that's a stretch!!

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I think they were trying to be sarcastic and funny, but it failed miserably.

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EveryOtherNameTaken · 27/06/2024 15:31

FOJN · 27/06/2024 15:18

Who is she?

Can't you respond with, "thanks for letting me know but I'm already in the group chat".

As simple as this.

Either ignore any pms in future or just repeat the reply every time she does it.

DuckyLuck · 27/06/2024 15:28

Are you a bit scatty? I used to have another Mum at school remind me of stuff like that, as I often missed newsletters etc. I was grateful as she was helping me out ... but if you're not and you are active on the group chat, that's annoying.

ArgonautCycle · 27/06/2024 15:28

Just say 'Yes, I'm in the group chat' and don't give it another thought?

beckybarefoot · 27/06/2024 15:28

Justcallmebebes · 27/06/2024 15:27

Well that's a stretch!!

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i was wondering myself how we had gone straight to MIL?