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To think he wants to call our baby after his crush?

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isitjustaname · 27/06/2024 13:01

Been with dh over 10 years and I may be reading too much into this but when we first met we talked about crushes and I told him about a teenage crush I once had and he told me about his childhood crush.
Anyway ffwd over 10 years and we're expecting our first baby which is a boy.
Dh suggested a nice name and we've both agreed on it for a while but it's just occurred to me that it's shortened form is the same name as his childhood crush but a male version think Sam, Joe, Alex sort of abbreviations.
It has been a long time so could be coincidence but it's made me wonder if he's picked that name because of her.

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CyanideShake · 27/06/2024 18:44

I have a theory that if you asked a man to name a baby girl 87% of them will pick the name of the prettiest girl in their class, the cool girl in their group of friends, the girl they fancied when they were 15 etc.

So you'll get suggestions of Chloe, Gemma, Jennifer etc. Names that are that bit out of date. It doesn't mean they still have feelings for them just that they associate those names with happy, popular girls and they have the same aspiration for their own daughter.

almondflake · 27/06/2024 18:39

@Poolstream hi. Emma was called that because when she was born Rachel and Ross couldn't decide on a name so Monica volunteered that she always wanted to call her daughter when she had one Emma , Rachel begged Monica for the name so she let her use it , thus Emma was named .

Dontletme · 27/06/2024 16:12

I know someone with an Emma and Emily and always thought it was a bit unusual!

BeeDavis · 27/06/2024 15:52

beckybarefoot · 27/06/2024 13:09

my youngest daughter is named after my then husbands celebrity crush.. its just a name!

My son shares the same name as a member of One Direction 🤣🤣🤣 My husband thinks it’s hilarious

WhoGivesaSpit · 27/06/2024 15:31

I will forgive you because you are pregnant and honestly I went a bit batshit when I was.
..... so, with love, you sound absolutely cray cray. Just to spell it out you are concerned that your husband has suggested the boy's version of a female name that happens to be the same as someone he mentioned once in a fleeting conversation TEN YEARS AGO about a crush he had presumably at least ten years prior to that??? Feel free to re-read this to yourself until you realise the nuttiness 😂
P.S. what's the name?

Arlanymor · 27/06/2024 15:09

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/06/2024 14:59

People do - and far more similar than that - I've seen examples with the names changed because they would be absolutely identifying in their combination genuinely on a par with

Adele
Adela
Adesa
Adesia

Leanne
Reanne
Ciann
Sienna

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I know a brother and sister called David and Davina.

bridgetreilly · 27/06/2024 15:03

Why are you asking us? Ask him!

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/06/2024 14:59

Poolstream · 27/06/2024 13:20

Well I know that but they’re too similar imo.
If you had two DD’s you wouldn’t name them Emma and Emily.

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People do - and far more similar than that - I've seen examples with the names changed because they would be absolutely identifying in their combination genuinely on a par with

Adele
Adela
Adesa
Adesia

Leanne
Reanne
Ciann
Sienna

leeverarch · 27/06/2024 14:49

Apparently my dad wanted to call me after some famous film star that he liked, and my mum put her foot down and said no!

Crunchymum · 27/06/2024 14:44

So it's not even the same name? Just the male version of it?

I have a few naming no-no's (no exes, no same names as very close family members kids I don't subscribe to the whole "nobody owns a name" no unique spellings) but this wouldn't be on my radar.

MissingMoominMamma · 27/06/2024 14:40

Four of my boyfriends, including my now DH, have the same name, and both of my sons have it as a middle name 😂.

ClickClickety · 27/06/2024 14:37

I wouldn't read anything into it. There are far fewer boys' names than girls' names and it can be hard to settle on one that isn't associated with arseholes or weirdos you know.

Mydogisagentleman · 27/06/2024 14:35

My deluded father honestly thought that my mum would consider Wilhelmina as a reasonable name.
She declined. Not only because it is hideous, it was also name of his first girlfriend

C1N1C · 27/06/2024 14:14

lol, I had a theory about this back at uni, and I tested it...

When I was younger, I had always imagined my daughter would be called Sarah (my first crush, even at 6 years old!)... I got curious about this at uni and asked all my friends what they would call their children. They replied, and I then (so as not to influence their decision) whether they had known/fancied someone with that name at some point... a good 50% said yes.

I don't think it's unusual. Either way, it's a 'childhood' crush, I wouldn't be too offended.

LakeTiticaca · 27/06/2024 14:14

My next door neighbours DH wanted to call their baby daughter after one of his ex girlfriends. She nearly ran him out of town 🤣🤣

Nina9870 · 27/06/2024 13:59

We didn’t use it, but when I was pregnant, a name we liked was an ex bf’s name.
I didn’t even make the connection for a while, the reason I liked it had no bearing on the fact it was an exes name.
husband knew it was the name of an ex and didn’t care 🤷‍♀️ it’s not really a big deal is it

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 27/06/2024 13:49

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LesserSpottedAlligator · 27/06/2024 13:30

My middle name is the same as one of my Dad's exes! It was a name my mum loved as well though and they gave the make version to my youngest brother as a middle name as well.

TheFireflies · 27/06/2024 13:26

My husband has the same name as my childhood crush, I can confirm it had no bearing on my choice of partner nor have I even realised it until this very moment. I very much doubt your husband has given it a second thought outside of any specific conversations reminiscing. It’s not even the same name.

Dontletme · 27/06/2024 13:25

You are probably overthinking but if it puts you off just say you don’t like the name.

MissingKitty · 27/06/2024 13:21

Poolstream · 27/06/2024 13:20

Well I know that but they’re too similar imo.
If you had two DD’s you wouldn’t name them Emma and Emily.

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He doesn’t have 2 daughters and they aren’t real people. HTH

JurassicClark · 27/06/2024 13:21

You’re overthinking it.

Poolstream · 27/06/2024 13:20

MissingKitty · 27/06/2024 13:16

Emma is not a shortened version of Emily, the 2 names are not interchangeable.

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Well I know that but they’re too similar imo.
If you had two DD’s you wouldn’t name them Emma and Emily.

MissingKitty · 27/06/2024 13:16

Poolstream · 27/06/2024 13:12

Always baffled me that Ross married Emily and then he and Rachael named their dc Emma.
Why?

Emma is not a shortened version of Emily, the 2 names are not interchangeable.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 27/06/2024 13:16

Really? I have been with DH for 11 years and I have no idea what his previous GFs were called, let alone any random crushes.

Unless he refers to her as the one who got away or something, stick to the name you both like.

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