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To think she didn’t need to try and embarrass me?

109 replies

squitnha · 26/06/2024 23:55

Today we had a meeting where we were given a starter and main:

Both lovely but I couldn’t each as much of the main as I was getting full.

The person cleared the plate and said loudly “oh didn’t you like it?” Like I’m not a child. Me liking or disliking it is irrelevant to the meeting.

I just hate it when people comment on your food.

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Clarinet1 · 27/06/2024 00:04

Surely the reply is “It’s lovely but just a bit much”!

Peeny · 27/06/2024 00:04

Was she just not asking if you disliked the main course? Is there a backstory to this?

Some people on MN have really weird colleagues and friends imo. If I eat a starter I never eat a full main course. Before anyone starts with the usual MN nonsense, I’ve never been someone who can eat 3 courses, I’m more of a grazer through the day due to a health condition.

Macaroni46 · 27/06/2024 00:03

I think this is another example of people looking for a reason to be offended tbh

Aquamarine1029 · 27/06/2024 00:01

I just hate it when people comment on your food.

I do, too. Unless it's an entirely positive comment like, "That looks delicious", any commentary should be kept to yourself.

WhereIsTheHare · 27/06/2024 00:00

Was this meeting at a restaurant, and the commenter waiting staff? If so, s/he might have wanted to offer you a different dish if you hadn’t liked what you were originally served, so that wouldn’t have been rude but goood customer service. I don’t really see it as rude anyway - you can just say, ‘no it was lovely but I’m full already’, without it causing an incident.

Why do you hate it so much when people comment on what you eat? Is it a sore point for you?

ToxicChristmas · 26/06/2024 23:59

Would that embarrass you though? I wouldn't give a shit. Seems a fairly normal thing to say to me.

HeddaGarbled · 26/06/2024 23:59

That could be interpreted as sympathetic, or it could be just a chatty comment. You interpreting it as deliberately trying to embarrass you suggests a back story.

NuffSaidSam · 26/06/2024 23:59

I doubt that she was trying to embarrass you.

I agree that you shouldn't comment on what other people are
/are not eating though.

Motnight · 26/06/2024 23:58

It sounds an innocuous remark to me