I’m going to try to keep this short. Husband is 45 works alongside a 20 year old 3/4 nights a week in a busy food place. In our relationship we set boundaries and he knows mine.
I noticed a message on the Apple Watch linked to his phone under a name I haven’t seen before . It was wrote to make me think this was a common Turkish name but I decided to WhatsApp check to see if it’s on there and up pops the profile photo of a young woman.
when he comes home I ask who this person is and he tells me a Turkish friend wanting to know a good chiropractor hence the message ) it was about that ) and I say really? It’s only when I say I ran the number through WhatsApp he says it’s the girl from work. He said I saved it under a fake name as I knew you would go mad . He has previous for seedy internet usage liking porn photos on public profiles alongside this visiting women’s profiles sometimes on Facebook. I thought it was all done with
I explained you knew my boundaries and you know the issues we have so why would you add her and hide who it is simply to be able to recommded a chiropractor? I couldn’t see any previous messages due to issues between the watch and his phone. Couldn’t you have just told her when she’s next to you at work!
of course I’m controlling I’m paranoid I want him to be a ‘ vegetable ‘ in terms of social media usage as I raised the fact last week he was back visiting random female profiles combined with this … I asked him two logical questions of which he responded don’t know too
1- if you knew it was crossing a boundary and she’s 20 your 45 and wouldn’t have a friendship why go to the effort of taking and hiding her number In your phone id you knew the reaction you would get
2 - why are you looking at random female profiles on Facebook all with a common theme - they are in sexy dressed or bikinis
He has told me I’m wrong I’m paranoid it’s all me and refused to talk to me this morning and won’t acknowledge what he’s done or see it from my point of view
quite telling to me I did send her a WhatsApp as he had her under a random name and simply said ‘ hi who is this xx ‘ she read it and hasn’t replied . My profile shows my name and our son so I think she would know who I am.
im sick to the very back teeth of being with someone who when I confront them I’m shouted at then like today he’s gone no communication with me like I don’t exist including not responding to a text his son sent him about a school event in the morning
honesty us important to me he knows this yet once again he’s lied to my face