To not organise playdates because I don’t want other parents to judge our flat

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FreeBeeBird · 26/06/2024 21:07

We live in a lovely but small 2 bed conversion flat on a very affluent area.
I don’t know all parents in DC class but out of the 7 or 8 I know, only an other couple lives in a similar flat to ours, everyone else has a nice house. I’d like to more actively encourage playdates for DC but I am a bit concerned that other parents might get a bit snobby about our place and judge where we live. I know it’s stupid and I shouldn’t care but I do and cannot shake this feeling off. How do I overcome this!
AIBU to feel this way?

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GRex · 26/06/2024 21:15

Few will care about your size of home, but a refusal to host is problematic. If you won't do things at your flat, then it would be best to arrange park play dates, activity play dates etc - so that you take on some of the hosting role. I have stopped inviting some kids whose parents have never reciprocated play dates, because honestly it's just rude; kids like to see other kids' bedrooms and root round their toys. And kids in my experience are really much more likely to get judgmental about random things like the exciting double bed, or weird orange wall, or whether the apples were green, than about size of home.

Hopingforno2in2024 · 26/06/2024 21:15

Please don’t worry about it. DS’ friends live in a wide variety of houses, neither I nor DS judge any of them and DS has an amazing time whichever house he is in.

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FreeBeeBird · 26/06/2024 21:13

I should add that our flat is lovely and very nicely decorated, we bought it a few years ago and it was the max we could afford so I am proud of my little home but just struggle with comparison sometimes

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