Neighbour films us from her house

Why is it always older women? Is there a specific MH issue this kind if behaviour relates to?

We have a weird neighbour like that
She doesnt record us (as far as im aware)
But she uses binoculars with night vision to look in our windows
Been here for nearly 2 years and have always got the curtains closed

We've similar with neighbour and ring doorbell in Terrace house situation...keeping quiet as want to move but hate it, honestly hate it...I get messages with a photo of some random delivery person and this person came past my door think for you... usually it for the one next to me and I don't care ..

Oh God, I have one of these. I moved to a new flat last year after sone traumatic neighbour related behaviour (that was very bad but not aimed at us in any way, think gang activity).

Unfortunately, I would take the drug addicts and dealers 10 times over, instead of this stress. Ours has come out many times during the 20 seconds or so the kids are in the communal hallway on the way to school. So much stuff, so many incidents. She has run out to shout and swear at us just coming and going. Stood in the hallway and stared at us in my mums car when we are just popping directions in the sat nav. Nasty letters through the door. Malicious reports to social services.

We made the mistake, having never experienced this, of being extremely shaken and upset and thinking there is something genuinely wrong with us, deserving this behaviour. Its been a year and we are still working on not being bothered. It is extremely hard and exhausting.

I would report her. In my limited experience the police dont care, especially when it is older single women. They really don’t see it as a threat or priority, but keep persevering as really it is harassment and at least antisocial behaviour. You may have better luck on the ASB side but I struggle with the fact that every agency looks at mediation; as people like this can’t be reasoned with, it is a waste of time and IMO puts you at further risk of being targeted.

After a year, a nervous breakdown, self referral to SS and MH support, and many tears and awful days, I have decided the next confrontation she instigates, I will be biting back and seeing how she likes it.

Did it work? Did you ever find out what their reasons were? Not that anything would make it ok but I’m curious as to what weird ideas lead to such odd behaviour.

Do you own your home? If so be careful what you put on the record as this will have to be declared if you want to sell. I had similar issues with a past neighbour, police didn’t help anyway.

Her behaviour is completely unreasonable and concerning and I think reporting it to the police so they have it on file is sensible.

I am curious, what are your best guesses as to why she is so angry with you and suspicious of you? When did you/they move in? Are there cultural differences? Parking issues? Garden management differences? What are the other neighbours like? How did you get the house and why did the last lot leave.

Nothing would make her behaviour OK but I just like to try and figure where unusual behaviour comes from. Helps me to decide how to tackle it.

How come they have so much time in their hands? Have you ever spoken to them?

Speaking as someone who once lived next door to someone who went from being amusingly odd to unnervingly erratic to a complete mental breakdown with psychotic episodes, in the space of 12 months or so, I would be wary indeed.

Phone the police OP. We have an unhinged neighbour..elderly who gestures at us , stares out the windows at us whilst making notes and filmed our dc. That was the final straw. I rang the police, they took it very seriously as Dc were under 12 and turned up later that day firstly to talk to me to collect evidence, (I had record of the times, dates and her escalating behaviour) and then interview her. She was issued with an ASBO and we were given a crime number to report any further harassment.

Is she the Baby Reindeer lady?

I had cause to park along my street. One neighbour hide under a table filming us. I told her to stop or would report her for being a pedophile.. She stopped then..

She's making rude gestures at you? Whatever for? I'd find that annoying and especially having to explain it to the kids. Does she do it to anyone else? I'd keep a record at least, it's very bizarre and it's already gone from staring to gesturing to possibly filming. It's just disturbing.

Report her to the police for filming the children!

How old is she? Does she have family visiting? She isn't committing an offence. I wouldn't escalate it, or engage in any way. It sounds like MH issues.

I think there is nothing to report her for right now (that's prob what the police would say, anyway) but I would be wary and def get a camera as she sounds a bit unhinged.