To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

Why? What on earth has her son done to you? Why does it matter what other people do? Really, get a grip, or, do you want your children to grow up feeling gleeful over other people's misfortune too? Somebody will think you are privileged, do you want them to cheer when bad things happen to your son?

I also understand you somewhere in my soul, OP. It isn't nice what you think, but I've sometimes had nasty thoughts as well.

This …OP you really need to have a word with yourself.

How did this make your DC feel worthless? It's not a true statement.

I'm really surprised by these comments. People that brag are awful! A bit of silent satisfaction is completely normal.

Oh gosh, maybe your neighbour was just a proud mama who couldn't stop talking about her amazing son, not neccasarily boasting or rubbing your face in it. I know some of us don't like hearing it but I love hearing about how well my friends' children are doing. With everything being so negative about this generation of kids, I love hearing how amazing many of them are.

OP is winding herself up, and rubbing hands like she’s ’won’. If the neighbour is a true ‘Elevenerifer’, all that will happen is she’ll use the saved school money to brag about the new thing she’s spending it on, be it, pension, cruise, loft extension, horse riding lessons, tutor’.

It’s not like the government can take away all the money she would have spent on fees.

OP, focus on your own life and kids, seriously. No good comes from comparing lives. There’s many things I wish I could have had but I’m grateful for what I do have, and I don’t worry about people who have more/less unless they are encroaching on my families lives

You'll always have more/less than someone. And it’s ok.

She said this in front of your DC?

you always this pleasant? 😳

You’re feeling schadenfreude and you’re gloating about it.

You could’ve stayed away from her if she annoyed you so much.

that's just it, it depends on the kid and not the school.

The neighbours' kids will still do better as they'll spend time taking them to educational places and doing other things to further their education instead of spending their time gloating on mumsnet.

So by haven’t you done more to give your kid the same chances that your neighbour’s kid has had?

leveling the field by pulling people down, rather than insisting that people are pulled up.

Spoken like a true socialist OP. Perhaps your kid struggles because you have an attitude towards life. Envious and small minded.

Your neighbour sounds thoroughly unpleasant to me. I am clearly in the minority but I can understand the schaudenfraude. You definitely appear to be feeling this in relation to the mum and not the boy.

Kind of get where you are coming from OP.

ds had a classmate in primary who went to private secondary school while ds went to local low performing catchment.

Every single time we saw the mum (she owns a popular local restaurant and bar we go to now and again) all she could talk about was how well he was doing, how bad she felt for our ds as his awful school (even though I said he was doing well), how her ds’s school focussed on the academics and really pushed and had aspirations for the kids, that the 90 min round trip drive twice a day was worth it to give him the best etc. Sometimes in front of ds.

She was speechless when she asked ds about his results to find out he got straight As in all his NAT5 and Higher exams (Scotland) and her son had more mixed results and I must admit, even though I wish them no ill will, I did enjoy it after her constant bragging about the private school and running down ds’s school.

I think it was more that the neighbour herself viewed herself as above the op in social status. It wasn't about the child

Wow.

Some posters think that the poor boy is going to some young offenders institution lol

Well given she said in front of my dc that ‘somewhere has to produce doctors and lawyers’ … yes I think she’s pretty unkind and made my dc feel worthless

Bit of a drop feed eh? Perhaps if you'd put this in your original post you'd have had a bit more sympathy.

As it stands, well done for being brave enough to post this anonymously on a public forum. I hope you can sleep better tonight now that you've got that off your chest

Why didn’t you lead with this if it is true?

Yes of course your kids are feeling worthless 🙄

"All kids should start from the same place."

They do.
Born naked and covered in bodily fluids.

It is your problem you did not sort your life enough to provide things for your child you are so obviously envy other children have.

You sound delightful!

I would worry less about her and more about the fact you sound like an immature bitch. But you do you I guess.

The child is losing his friends, his routine, everything he is used to at school and is likely to be unsettled and stressed and you are happy about it. Lovely.

and yes my kids are at a state school