To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

This is so very accurate
Great comment

I don’t care how boastful your neighbour is.
I think that it is such a horrible thing to say.

I mean I have my own opinions about private schools, and this woman does sound a bit annoying but…

it sounds really mean spirited to say you feel great about this. The poor kid is gutted, will have to leave his friends at school, will have the difficulty of transitioning to a state after having been private which will undoubtedly come with certain issues.

of all the things to be pleased about, I don’t think this is one. You need to have a bit of a reevaluate.

You take pleasure in someone else's misfortune. Your neighbour didn't rob a bank; they paid for their son's education and there is nothing wrong with that.

But now there circumstances have changed so they have to adapt and go to state school.

How has neighbour's child going to state school IMPROVE YOUR QUALITY OF LIFE ? It doesn't. You are still stuck where you are.

Have you considered therapy?

Couldnt agree more. Sort of answers my earlier Q about why some people stretch themselves to pay for private schooling. Is it really because they want the best for their kids or is it because they can say "Oh we chose fee paying". Especially as the education at some of the non selective privates is....questionable. Most of them would do better in state, but ma and pa dont have bragging rights then......

Bit of a Margot and Jerry thing.

I think this goes deeper than the VAT levy on the fees IIRC. Private schools typically have charitable status so it really isn't a level playing field currently at all.

A few years back I offered to buy a couple of laptops for our local Primary School. I didn't in the end as the PCT was tied into a particular (overpriced) supplier and it seemed to be far more complex than it needed to. Point being a state Primary has far more hoops to jump through that waste huge amounts of money and than a (typically) smaller independent.

It's a shame for the child concerned - I would suspect the parents overstretched themselves to get there. Those proper, wealthy "old money" middle classes fund education through various grandparent trusts anyway - so not taxed there either.

A perfect example of this only hurting the middle ground.

That was way harsh Tai.

Poor kid. It'll be struggle & be difficult to cope with.

I actually feel for you OP because I think that a part of you probably doesn’t feel good for taking pleasure in their misfortune. It’s a sign you’ve been focusing on them, comparing, experiencing some envy and not been noticing the good stuff in your own life. There will always be people who have more money, bigger house, ‘better’ jobs, ‘cleverer’ kids.

As the saying goes, comparison really is the thief of joy, it means you’re not noticing the richness you have in your own life, hopefully some love, connections, laughter, some meaning… if someone shows off all the time (which, for what it’s worth, is probably because they feel they are lacking in some way), leave them to it, hang out with the people who leave you feeling great!

(by the way I’m working on doing the above, I still feel envious and compare… and then try to notice what I’m doing and remind myself what a total waste of time it is doing it!)

What area of the country do you live in that people can go “look round state schools” for a place in 6 months for an inter-year admission - especially at this time of year when schools are packed with activities and clubs?

Round here you can only look round schools if they have spaces, and that would be for an immediate place, not “pre booking” for a term in advance.

The kid who knows nothing other than his private school life and peer group and is leaving them behind, going into education with kids who have parents like you saying the new private school boy is here because he's run out of money and rubbing their ugly little hands together over it didn't say that comment about doctors and Lawyers though did he. Are you always this jealous of people? Get therapy you spiteful cow.

If she's awful why on earth are you friendly with her In the first place? It's odd.

I haven't read the full thread but your opening post is awful to read.
What a shame you have such bitterness and jealousy.

I’m all for VAT increases but being gleeful when a child is upset is especially distasteful.

10000 percent agree with you. People like the Op make me happy billionaires exist tbh, just so jealous pricks like her will always have someone to be jealous over. Imagine feeling great at someone else's misfortune, especially when living in one of the most fortunate and privileged places on earth. Op maybe worry less about people have more than you and be grateful you and your son have it so good here in the UK, or infact wherever you are compared to other parts of the world where trust me the people have a lot less than you and I'd put money on it they're a lot nicer than you are too. You never know what's round the corner, hopefully your neighbour finds her feet again financially whereas you will never prosper with your attitude and will always feel sorry for yourself and your circumstances. Pathetic really.

Nope, @Olidorjo
You're taking a pack out of your own sack if you think people have to be personally affected in order to recognise a shit when when they see one!

I have no skin in the game and don't need one to comment on one of the most shitty little posts I have seen for a long time..

its still crappy way to basically go haha so to speak

You're a truly horrible person Op.

Touched a nerve?
I don’t actually agree with OP but ..

The OP is exactly the type of person the Labour party is appealing to and, as her shitty little post shows, is doing so very successfully.

"I cant't afford...private schools....my own home...a pension...a gold plated dildo... Wahhhhh Wahhhhhh! Why should someone else have it if I can't.
Well, Ok. if I can't have it-the next best thing is that others can't have it either."

Imagine living your one precious life like this and, worryingly, there are enough of the fuckers about to install a government who tells them that if they can't have it, they'll make life harder for those who do,

Nasty little green slimed shits and you, OP , are a great example.

I imagine you as a miserable, envious person who amounts to very little and who will never amount, to very much. Still, plenty of hand rubbing and gurning for you, as after next Friday, you'll be able to witness all sorts of misery for those who might have had it better than you.

I knew you would incur the wrath of MN over this. I understand how you feel. It’s nothing to do with the child but everything to do with the bragging, condescending mum. I am weary of twatty bragging parents so if they were knocked down a bit …fine!

You do realise this involves upheaval and upset of a child?.. wTF?

Not a good look OP!

I can’t help but wonder what makes you think the children will be on an even playing field now.

They might not have the funds for private school, but they’ll have it for tutors etc.