To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

@Mummy2024 This policy will not help state schools as those unable to stay in the private sector will flood the state system and so all that will happen is class sizes will get bigger and your teachers will be more stretched. Even Rachel Reeves recognises that so has said she will give a years transition time to try and stagger the influx. This policy will not make any money for the same reason. More people for an amount of money that won't touch the sides.

Clearly everyone should have a decent education but there is always inequality with some able to afford private school, tutors or houses with room for a pony or whatever. It doesn't mean that there should be a policy of you have it so I should share even though you were taxed before you got it and as was said by @ChurchCats this policy is just about jealousy. Sounds like my MIL and it gets extremely grating.

Well, OP, you sound like a thoroughly unpleasant jealous bitch.

Well given she said in front of my dc that ‘somewhere has to produce doctors and lawyers’ … yes I think she’s pretty unkind and made my dc feel worthless.

How old are your children? I’m finding it hard to picture children who even listen to a conversation between their mother and a neighbour she doesn’t even like, let alone who feel “worthless” because of some vague implication that people from private schools get better jobs.

Meh, I get it OP. I understand what you mean and would probably feel the same way although would be afraid to say so out loud especially here on MN! ;-)

Was the neighbour bragging though? Or was the neighbour just sharing information about her life, talking about her kid and being proud, much like most mum's like to do?
Its possible you have been feeling like she was bragging when she wasn't meaning to, she could just be a bit thoughtless. Either way, this is not a nice post about someone you're meant to be friends with.

Is the child in question going to go to your DCs school? I would be making sure my kids make friends with him and reassure him that he is going to be fine.

As for the mother, a boaster is a boaster whatever the sector so if she will be in your DCs class I doubt it will stop.

Because they are moving to a new school and that’s a big change? I’d have thought that was obvious- not all kids react well to massive change, they’ll miss their friends, take time to settle in etc.

Seriously OP, do some work on yourself. Don't consume yourself with this bitterness and resentment. It's hardly something to be joyful about.

mostly true. Private schools dont get better grades

Not a pleasant thing to say.

I'm glad you're not my "friend".

I think regardless of private schools, state schools or wherever children go to learn if they want to learn they will learn.

This.
How unkind.

Gosh what a nasty OP. I'm really surprised you said that 'out loud'. Not a good look.

Why's he going back in September just for the first term? Seems a bit of a waste of time.

You are an envious jealous person OP.
Hopefully your children don't learn from you.
Better to show them how to be kind considerate and tolerant of others.
Learn to accept we are all different and never be unkind.

Very petty, evil in fact.

so why didn't you just point out to her that most doctors and lawyers are state educated? I don't understand why you have been having these conversations at all, and not saying this

The kids will be fine, why wouldn't they be?

To feel that way, you're obviously a very unhappy and jealous person OP. This will not make you truly happy because your life will still be the same. This high you're feeling will only be temporary.

Address what is making you so unhappy in your own life or you'll just be a miserable, jealous person forever.

She just sounded proud and you jealous. The negative trait there is jealousy. I've got a neighbour whose kids go to the private school and I would be worried for them if she had to pull them out, not gloat!

Let’s not forget the utter disdain for “stealth boasting” which comes up often on MN. Neighbour has been stealth boasting, which is annoying as hell. OP finds some satisfaction in the neighbour being shut down. It’s nothing to do with the child. I understand how she feels. Some of the nasty posts on this thread are bonkers.

My neighbour was made redundant last year and lost her private healthcare. Maybe I should be gleeful about her now struggling with the NHS.

Or maybe I realise that taking glee in another person's downfall (even if that person wasn't particularly pleasant) says more about me than it does about them - mainly that I'm bitter and spiteful and no matter what happens I'll always remain that way unless I change my attitude.

Your comment opening with - "I am friends ish with my neighbour", alerted me to your feelings of resentment. You were not friendly or wishing your neighbour the best.

I hope your child and their child can reach their dreams of being doctors and lawyers; I hope that the local schools are well equipped with great staff and facilities and that the kids try their best and reach their potential.
Very sad that one child is having to leave their friends and start again but mt bet is that they will succeed.

You seem mean, Op.
You possibly talk about your own kids as much as she did hers.

It's very sad for the child. Hopefully he will adjust and flourish in his new school - and reach his goals.

How very disappointing to hear of an adult gleefully announcing that a child's family failed to afford his education.

Parents are allowed to be proud of their kids.