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To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

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grengat · 26/06/2024 20:07

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

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TikehauLilly · 26/06/2024 20:13

I don't think you are being unreasonable to post what you know is unreasonable in an anonymous way to vocalise it acknowledge it and move on.

But do acknowledge it's not the nicest of thoughts

soupfiend · 26/06/2024 20:13

WithACatLikeTread · 26/06/2024 20:10

Doesn't sound like her neighbour was pleasant.

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In what way, because she is chit chatting about her life and OP is defensive, and jealous about other people so takes it the wrong way

OP sounds awful.

Mummy2024 · 26/06/2024 20:13

grengat · 26/06/2024 20:07

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

YABU sorry OP, I get it from the point of view that she was bragging all the time but the poor kid is gonna lose all his friends etc and the chance of a top notch education.

Her kid shouldn't have to go to state school for your kid to be on a level playing field with hers.... just shows what a state this country is in tbh...

LadyFeatheringt0n · 26/06/2024 20:13

I think that is bloody horrible to take joy in a child's disappointment

You've misread the thread. It isn't the child's disappointment she'd taking joy in.

Schadenfreude.

Createausername1970 · 26/06/2024 20:13

Poor child.

SpudleyLass · 26/06/2024 20:13

Teddybarr · 26/06/2024 20:11

What?

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My siblings sound exactly like this to me

I am supportive of them, but its entirely tactless.

Dentistlakes · 26/06/2024 20:13

Well I guess you can’t help how you feel. Probably best to leave it there.

wutheringkites · 26/06/2024 20:12

You both sound unpleasant.

Jeschara · 26/06/2024 20:12

You sound spiteful OP.

thequickbrowndog · 26/06/2024 20:12

Grow up! Little green monster syndrome

LlynTegid · 26/06/2024 20:11

Given the boasting, I feel sorry for the child having parents like that.

jeaux90 · 26/06/2024 20:11

I think that is bloody horrible to take joy in a child's disappointment

Berga · 26/06/2024 20:11

YABU. I'm the first to denounce private schools, but I couldn't feel gleeful about a child being made to leave their school no matter what their parents had been like.

And I know the VAT private school thing might mean this happens more, and I'm not against VAT on private schools, but again, I wouldn't feel pleased. Hope this isn't some kind of weird reverse to make a point.

WithACatLikeTread · 26/06/2024 20:11

Comedycook · 26/06/2024 20:10

Schadenfreude

Love that word.

Teddybarr · 26/06/2024 20:11

SpudleyLass · 26/06/2024 20:10

Some NT parents finally experiencing what its like for those of us with children with disabilities.

What?

Marblessolveeverything · 26/06/2024 20:11

Wow, to take joy in a child losing their friends and having to leave their school. That's a certain kind of low to me.

EthanofAthos · 26/06/2024 20:10

We have friends who can no longer afford private school. They are devastated, worried about how their kids will adapt, and the kids are upset. It’s really nasty for you to be so gleeful.

GagCityBitch · 26/06/2024 20:10

Strange, very strange indeed

ClemmyTine · 26/06/2024 20:10

I think this is called Schadenfreude.

SpudleyLass · 26/06/2024 20:10

Some NT parents finally experiencing what its like for those of us with children with disabilities.

Teddybarr · 26/06/2024 20:10

It's a myth that children are on an equal playing field just because they attend state schools. Presumably if they could afford private school in the first place even if they can't now they're okay for money; they'll be able to afford tutors, extra curricular activities, sports, enriching holidays and experiences etc. It's not worth focusing on anyone else really, but I get you want to vent somewhere anonymously as you recognise it'd be savage to say in real life. Sounds like she was happy enough to rub it in your face which I'm guessing was the annoying part.

notnowmarmaduke · 26/06/2024 20:10

They were on a level playing field anyway

Comedycook · 26/06/2024 20:10

Schadenfreude

WithACatLikeTread · 26/06/2024 20:10

WindowViper · 26/06/2024 20:09

What an utterly unpleasant thing to say.

Doesn't sound like her neighbour was pleasant.

OnceICaughtACold · 26/06/2024 20:10

You and your neighbour sound well matched…

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