Page 15 | To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

GingerPirate · 26/06/2024 20:19

But why?
What does this actually give you?
😳

Ellie1015 · 26/06/2024 20:19

I would not enjoy her boasting about it either, but that's her being shit. Being happy she is having to take child out of school is you being shit. I would try not to.

Mummy2024 · 26/06/2024 20:19

NeedToChangeName · 26/06/2024 20:15

poor kid is gonna lose all his friends etc and the chance of a top notch education

@Mummy2024 not all private schools offer a top notch education. And some state schools do. My cousin teaches in a private school. She would get a huge discount on fees, but still doesn't send her children there

Maybe she can't afford it?? There isn't a single high school in my town with an outstanding ofsted report! They are all abysmal.

My younger kids go to an outstanding primary school and I'm left with no choices for decent secondary schools absolutely none! If I could afford private I would do it In a heart beat

soupfiend · 26/06/2024 20:19

WithACatLikeTread · 26/06/2024 20:15

It is like bragging you have plenty of money and lots of holidays to someone living in poverty.

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Was she bragging, or just talking, probably in response to OP chit chatting. Thats what people do, they tend to talk about themselves or their lives.

People are so defensive and paranoid now, so what if someone else can have something or do something that you cant?

notthedressiwanted · 26/06/2024 20:18

Have one of my grapes op. Yours are sour!

nearlylovemyusername · 26/06/2024 20:18

Your kids will never be on level playing field.
I won't bother to attempt to explain why if you don't get it

pinklemonsparkle · 26/06/2024 20:17

I assume this is a goady made up thread to get folks frothing.

Well played op.

summersofdoom · 26/06/2024 20:17

Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened.

instead of the constant race to the bottom, why not being sad for your own kids not having access to better opportunities, and why not being angry that state schools kids are missing out on better education?

Your kids won't achieve better in life because others lose a spot in a better school.

If private schools were only about fancy uniform, posh grounds and fancy school trips, fine. But it's more than that isn't it?

Radiatorrung · 26/06/2024 20:17

Schadenfreude

yep not uncommon.

Muddysockchase · 26/06/2024 20:17

You are a mean spirited, envious woman - and you know it.

Marinerscove · 26/06/2024 20:17

Wow! Thats an awful way to look at this. You sound bitter and jealous! You are not a good human.

WithACatLikeTread · 26/06/2024 20:17

Mummy2024 · 26/06/2024 20:13

YABU sorry OP, I get it from the point of view that she was bragging all the time but the poor kid is gonna lose all his friends etc and the chance of a top notch education.

Her kid shouldn't have to go to state school for your kid to be on a level playing field with hers.... just shows what a state this country is in tbh...

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He can get a decent education in many state schools. Might have to mix with the plebs though.

Br1ll1ant · 26/06/2024 20:16

She probably mentioned it all the time because she was trying to justify to herself the choice they’d made to stretch themselves so much, and how it was worth it. I feel for the child. Moving mid year from somewhere you’re happy isn’t easy.

Chickpea17 · 26/06/2024 20:16

You sound like a lovely person

NeedToChangeName · 26/06/2024 20:15

poor kid is gonna lose all his friends etc and the chance of a top notch education

@Mummy2024 not all private schools offer a top notch education. And some state schools do. My cousin teaches in a private school. She would get a huge discount on fees, but still doesn't send her children there

Mummy2024 · 26/06/2024 20:15

LadyFeatheringt0n · 26/06/2024 20:13

I think that is bloody horrible to take joy in a child's disappointment

You've misread the thread. It isn't the child's disappointment she'd taking joy in.

Schadenfreude.

Doesn't really matter the end result is the same. The child loses all his friends, has to start again in a state school which is hard enough but to be the new kid from private school....

The child will suffer there's absolutely nothing to be joyful about.

Whattodo112222 · 26/06/2024 20:15

You're just as bad as your neighbour imo.

Jc2001 · 26/06/2024 20:15

grengat · 26/06/2024 20:07

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

You sound very bitter.

WithACatLikeTread · 26/06/2024 20:15

soupfiend · 26/06/2024 20:13

In what way, because she is chit chatting about her life and OP is defensive, and jealous about other people so takes it the wrong way

OP sounds awful.

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It is like bragging you have plenty of money and lots of holidays to someone living in poverty.

paasll · 26/06/2024 20:15

Your neighbour brags. You could have solved this by spending less time with her or ignoring the bragging or asking her not to talk about schools as it’s clearly a sore point for you.

But you feel gleeful that her kid is going to be pulled from his school and friends. Nasty.

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edwinbear · 26/06/2024 20:14

That’s an opinion I’d be too ashamed to share, even anonymously on the internet.

VeryQuaintIrene · 26/06/2024 20:14

How mean.

Xyz1234567 · 26/06/2024 20:14

You really are scraping the bottom of the barrel here aren't you? It's a sad world when you get pleasure from seeing a child's life disrupted so much.
As for a level playing field, not a chance. Genetics play a large part in intelligence and future prospects and it looks like your kids haven't struck lucky on any front.

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