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To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

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grengat · 26/06/2024 20:07

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

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LakeTiticaca · 26/06/2024 20:26

I think the state school experience would improve greatly if some parents actively parented their kids properly instead of allowing them to behave like savages and ruin it for those who actually want to learn

EasternStandard · 26/06/2024 20:26

Comedycook · 26/06/2024 20:24

Oh stop being so sickly sweet all of you.

Loads of people secretly take pleasure in other people's misfortune.

Meh

Do you? Do you feel hard done by. What a waste of time

OperationGoldDawn · 26/06/2024 20:26

grengat · 26/06/2024 20:07

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

With anyone the starting point may be the same after that its never an "level playing field" simply because some study more , some learn quicker and faster , some have tutors for extra, the school may be the same but its never level

Mummy2024 · 26/06/2024 20:25

Reugny · 26/06/2024 20:21

He may not be having a top notch education.

We also don't know the reasons why he had to leave the school. He may have been a naughty boy....

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No one pays massive fees every year for their child to have anything less.... and no he won't have been because plenty of other private schools would be queueing up to take him.... I imagine not many naughty kids get thrown out of private school they like the money to much. We all know this is about the taking away the tax relief or the parents financial situation has deteriorated. Either way the child is paying the price. It's not something anyone should be happy about!

nearlylovemyusername · 26/06/2024 20:25

Reugny · 26/06/2024 20:21

He may not be having a top notch education.

We also don't know the reasons why he had to leave the school. He may have been a naughty boy....

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To know now about moving by Christmas, not from September, they must have given a term notice to school. Given election it's nearly certain it's happened because of VAT.
Naughty boy would be excluded at the end of the term

Itsmyshadow · 26/06/2024 20:25

I bet the OP wouldn’t be taking any delight if the neighbour hadn’t been rubbing her nose in it all these years. What goes around comes around.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 26/06/2024 20:25

Gross.

Also OP, you are wrong. you are NOT friends-ish with your neighbour.

TheFormidableMrsC · 26/06/2024 20:25

You sound absolutely horrible.

YourMommaWasASnowblower · 26/06/2024 20:25

I bet both your neighbours child and your own child have an eye roll or 2 for the pair of you.

2 Competitive mums who enjoy each others “failures” (using this word because clearly that’s how you view state schools sadly) isn’t a good look.

Comedycook · 26/06/2024 20:24

Oh stop being so sickly sweet all of you.

Loads of people secretly take pleasure in other people's misfortune.

Meh

Oldcroneandthreewitches · 26/06/2024 20:24

You lot are unhinged

NeedToChangeName · 26/06/2024 20:23

Mummy2024 · 26/06/2024 20:19

Maybe she can't afford it?? There isn't a single high school in my town with an outstanding ofsted report! They are all abysmal.

My younger kids go to an outstanding primary school and I'm left with no choices for decent secondary schools absolutely none! If I could afford private I would do it In a heart beat

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@Mummy2024 my cousin could afford the discounted fees, but doesn't feel it offers value for money

She's happy with her local state school options. I'm sorry it's not the same for you

But please don't assume that ALL private schools are good and ALL state schools are awful. That's absolutely not the case

Rachie1973 · 26/06/2024 20:23

You’re just a vile human really.

EasternStandard · 26/06/2024 20:22

All the tax does is give spiteful people a lift from a child having to move schools. Depressing

Comedycook · 26/06/2024 20:21

I don't think the op is being unpleasant. They sound quite boastful and that gets tedious quickly. I wouldn't be gleeful at the child's situation but I'd probably have a wry smile at the parents.

IncompleteSenten · 26/06/2024 20:21

🤷 You're saying it anonymously, not yelling it in her face while pulling party poppers. It's not a huge deal to have unpleasant thoughts from time to time.

Moveoverdarlin · 26/06/2024 20:21

With any luck the neighbours child will break his ankle in the summer holidays and then you can really crack open the champagne.

Reugny · 26/06/2024 20:21

Mummy2024 · 26/06/2024 20:13

YABU sorry OP, I get it from the point of view that she was bragging all the time but the poor kid is gonna lose all his friends etc and the chance of a top notch education.

Her kid shouldn't have to go to state school for your kid to be on a level playing field with hers.... just shows what a state this country is in tbh...

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He may not be having a top notch education.

We also don't know the reasons why he had to leave the school. He may have been a naughty boy....

PossumintheHouse · 26/06/2024 20:21

Well let's be honest, you aren't friends are you? You don't like her. If you're going to be fake as fuck, that's on you. And to be gleeful about a situation that is going to upset and quite probably affect a child is deeply unpleasant. Hope MN has helped you get it out of your system.

Universal99 · 26/06/2024 20:20

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Saschka · 26/06/2024 20:20

I don’t agree with private school. I still think you sound like a massive cow.

olympicsrock · 26/06/2024 20:20

What a cow you are

Justcallmebebes · 26/06/2024 20:20

You've no idea of the struggles and sacrifices they've made to send their son to private school. Hopefully, he'll thrive in the public sector and you can continue to seethe as he soars

Teddybarr · 26/06/2024 20:20

WithACatLikeTread · 26/06/2024 20:15

It is like bragging you have plenty of money and lots of holidays to someone living in poverty.

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Yeah it sounds tedious AF and bringing it up all of the time and how amazing it is to someone who can't afford the same for their child is crappy. I'd find it intolerable, whereas if it came up naturally in conversation now and again wouldn't even spend any time thinking about them going to private school.

Bumblebeeinatree · 26/06/2024 20:19

Sounds like he's smart and sporty so will do well wherever he goes to school.

He's not suddenly going to become stupid and not sporty just so you can gloat.

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