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To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

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grengat · 26/06/2024 20:07

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

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grengat · 26/06/2024 20:35

summersofdoom · 26/06/2024 20:17

Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened.

instead of the constant race to the bottom, why not being sad for your own kids not having access to better opportunities, and why not being angry that state schools kids are missing out on better education?

Your kids won't achieve better in life because others lose a spot in a better school.

If private schools were only about fancy uniform, posh grounds and fancy school trips, fine. But it's more than that isn't it?

@summersofdoom well this is why I feel our grossly unfair that all these years my dc have been at a disadvantage. All kids should start from the same place.

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TulipsAndForgetmenots · 26/06/2024 20:34

After Christmas? What, he's going back in September but only for a term?

Sunshine1500 · 26/06/2024 20:33

that’s a bit nasty to feel like this.. what a shame he’s having to move schools if it’s not voluntary.

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grengat · 26/06/2024 20:33

LadyFeatheringt0n · 26/06/2024 20:09

I know what you mean op
Its not about the DC, its about the boasting parent getting their comeuppance.

@LadyFeatheringt0n yep exactly this!!!

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Anywherebuthere · 26/06/2024 20:32

How nasty!

This child is about to be uprooted from his school and leaving his friends. I know its a small world problem. But its big feelings for kids.

He will have to adjust to a new school, new teachers and friends. It's also not easy on parents to have to make these choices.

But you're happy. How jealous and low can a person be.

Do your own kids a favour. Don't raise them to be like you.

MadinMarch · 26/06/2024 20:32

SpudleyLass · 26/06/2024 20:10

Some NT parents finally experiencing what its like for those of us with children with disabilities.

There's no mention of disabilities?

MartyFunkhouser · 26/06/2024 20:32

You sound like a PEACH.

Mummy2024 · 26/06/2024 20:32

LakeTiticaca · 26/06/2024 20:26

I think the state school experience would improve greatly if some parents actively parented their kids properly instead of allowing them to behave like savages and ruin it for those who actually want to learn

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Your probably right..... doesn't change anything though does it?

Personally I think the kids that behave like this should be placed into another provision, given work placements on some days and secure class room provision the rest and delivered there and dropped home. Like community service for children.

People will say I'm wrong idc, if they don't want to learn what's the point in them being there anyway and it may give them some compassion and a will to be a decent part of society.

Ap42 · 26/06/2024 20:32

Wow. Of all the things I've read on MN, this is probably one of the nastiest. You sound really bitter ans jealous.

Lavenderflower · 26/06/2024 20:32

I can understand you don't want to hear her gloat about her son, however, I am puzzled why you so invested in her downfall or her life.

DoreenonTill8 · 26/06/2024 20:31

AlpineSue · 26/06/2024 20:09

It sounds as if your neighbours have had some bad luck and possible financial troubles. And their child is upset and going through a hard time. And you are (a) pleased about it and (b) boasting about that online. You don't sound very nice.

This, what a horrible person you are op! Would you like it if you own and someone who rents took pleasure if you lost your job then house?

YourMommaWasASnowblower · 26/06/2024 20:31

WithACatLikeTread · 26/06/2024 20:27

Naughty kids go to private school as well.

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Very true.

A woman I know sent her son to private school because he had been bullied in state school unfortunately. The Private school was full of the cocaine dealers kids selling coke to the other kids, so the problems were just different.

Universal99 · 26/06/2024 20:29

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OperationGoldDawn · 26/06/2024 20:29

LakeTiticaca · 26/06/2024 20:26

I think the state school experience would improve greatly if some parents actively parented their kids properly instead of allowing them to behave like savages and ruin it for those who actually want to learn

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yep, why should lessons be disrupted because some dont want to learn wasting the teachers time.

purplecorkheart · 26/06/2024 20:29

Wow, what a sad reflection on you. You are glowing about the fact that a child's world has changed out of his control.
Sorry, but I think you need to take a hard look at yourself.
If your neighbour talking about her son's school bothers you so much, why did you not just distance yourself from her.
Seems like you are taking glee out of an unsettling time of a child because of his mother.

OhHelloMiss · 26/06/2024 20:29

SpudleyLass · 26/06/2024 20:10

Some NT parents finally experiencing what its like for those of us with children with disabilities.

Er, no! Nothing comparable

Idontunderstand2024 · 26/06/2024 20:29

Seriously, wtf is wrong with people? I am sick and tired of reading posts like this and I'm childfree!!! Do you know how much sacrifice being a high earner takes? How a 100k salary sounds loads but when you take away travel, tax,, NI and pension it isn't actually that much. And why the hell wouldn't put your child into private education if you have the money. My nieces classes were a lot smaller, they got the support on subjects they were struggling with. You are nothing short of jealous and I am sick and tired of the wealthy and hard working being penalised for 'the nhs' and the unemployed

FYI, I'm not wealthy, I am out the house for 12 hours a.day. I'm sorry but people like you are the problem, thinking the world owes you a free ride

Rosscameasdoody · 26/06/2024 20:28

Just wow. Revelling in someone else’s misfortune. Are you for real ?

KomodoOhno · 26/06/2024 20:28

BigCroc · 26/06/2024 20:08

Says a lot about you and not much about her tbh

This. I have second hand embarrassment for you posting this.

OhHelloMiss · 26/06/2024 20:28

'Pulled out' you mean they are just changing schools...

Butterflies878 · 26/06/2024 20:27

How unkind, he’s a child

WithACatLikeTread · 26/06/2024 20:27

LakeTiticaca · 26/06/2024 20:26

I think the state school experience would improve greatly if some parents actively parented their kids properly instead of allowing them to behave like savages and ruin it for those who actually want to learn

Edited

Naughty kids go to private school as well.

Mummy2024 · 26/06/2024 20:27

Itsmyshadow · 26/06/2024 20:25

I bet the OP wouldn’t be taking any delight if the neighbour hadn’t been rubbing her nose in it all these years. What goes around comes around.

Was the kid rubbing her nose in it??? Nope he wasn't and it's him this affects not the parents!

Strictlymad · 26/06/2024 20:27

whilst I think being gleeful for a child who’s about to have huge disruption is wrong, I do get where you are coming from, and I’m sure if the mum hadn’t been shoving it down your throat for years you would be sympathetic, but her being insufferable makes it hard to feel sorry for her

FishPhoods · 26/06/2024 20:26

Well he's probably already ahead of kids in the state school

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