To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

Your kids could never be doctors and lawyers?? Really?? I really hope you haven't told them that. I have a teen in a terrible school my older son failed terribly there, he was also bullied terribly. My son currently there is a grade 7 to 8 student. His behaviour is impeccable and I tell him almost daily that I could not be more proud of him and his efforts. I tell him if he keeps this up he can do absolutely anything in life, shoot for the stars and he does everyday.

Focus on your kids OP not keeping up with the neighbours

Did she make your dc feel worthless?
Surely if you’re a good parent it would take more than a neighbour’s comment to knock your dc’s confidence.

Personally I think you have a massive chip on you shoulder.

Dd’s friends dm constantly bigged up her dc.
Water off a ducks back for me because my dd is a very different dc. The two girls are still good friends and I’m friends with the dm.

if all schools has the same books, equipment etc, it still comes down to the individual

So a child is being disadvantaged, is unhappy and a family is clearly having a rough time, but you don't have to hear about a private school anymore so you're happy?

I think you were massively jealous that you couldn't afford it in the first place and now you're delighting in their struggles.

Speaks volumes.

Schadenfreude is actually a normal thing to feel - "pleasure derived from another person's misfortune". However, in this case it's taking pleasure in the misfortune of children, not adults, which is less normal.

THank goodness you’re not my neighbour; that’s so petty.

What a horrible thing to think or say... I can understand a second or two of schadenfreude, but this is beyond that. Your neighbours must feel awful about having to remove their child from his school, and the boy must be really upset. But I guess that's what you get when the politics of envy is apparently driving future government policy - it brings out the worst in many of us.

Don't believe it.

That's awful, must be very hard for that child and the parents will be feeling horrible guilt. Why would you take pleasure in that?

Nice! Jealousy is such an ugly trait and to be rubbing your hands in glee in your "safe space" at their change of circumstances is frankly disgusting.

That’s horrible , I can’t believe someone would take pleasure in this
let alone start a post about it!
how awful

You just perceive she is looking down on your DC. Probably just really happy with the school, and sharing it with you. If you despise her so much, why do you speak to her? If you weren’t fake, and pretending to be friendly, then you wouldn’t be talking to her anyway, so would be none the wiser about her children and private schooling.

Yeah that is unkind but also not true. If that were my kid I'd have said I don't care what you do in life, just don't end up like her....

I'd have made sure my kid knew they could be anything they wanted if they worked hard enough, what I wouldn't do is sink as low by being delighted at her sons misery. He isn't the one who said it after all.

That’s horrible , I can’t believe someone would take pleasure in this
let alone start a post about it!
how awful

I hadn’t heard this phrase before, but it’s so true.

Some private school parents can be tactless but come on OP.

Why? Because she talked about her kids school?

people do, comes up in most conversations with neighbours.

being gleeful at your neighbours is just lain nasty.

You sound like a nasty piece of work! Why take joy in someone else’s bad times? You don’t have to like your neighbour but this gleefulness is a really ugly trait.

Right?! Come on people.

Funny this wasn’t in the original post…

All kids should start from the same place

But they don’t, do they? Some kids lose a parent early on, others become carers, some have disabilities, some face discrimination on account of their gender, religion, race or ethnicity. Some kids are born to upper class families with money whilst others have parents who don’t know where the next meal is coming from. Some struggle with their mental health whilst others have close supportive families and their peers are estranged from their grandparents. Some children have a parent in prison, others are long-term inmates in mental health institutions. Some have to watch one parent beat the other half to death and still remain in the relationship. A few children are sexually and/or physically and/or mentally and/or emotionally abused and neglected. Some live outside of reasonable access to a school considered to be ‘good’.

What you’re really moaning about is nothing at all. You don’t give a shit about the kids I mention above. You make no reference to how thousands of children are so far down the list of ‘starting from even a half-arsed place’, are disadvantaged. Only how you deem your child to be at a disadvantage compared to your neighbour’s. And let’s be clear, rich kids absolutely are afforded some protection from the shite life throws at us. But money and private schooling don’t protect from cancer and accidents, and disabilities, or domestic violence, mental ill health, drug abuse, crime, alcoholism, abuse of all kinds.

You should be ashamed of yourself. Your comments are deeply unpleasant.

Then why are you friends with her?

Said the Facebook meme