Can I get a smooth body with a short torso or will I need intervention

On behalf of all grumpy middle aged women I do not accept your half hearted apology - because in the next breath you harp back to you you you and your minute bit of fat

Therapy. Now, op. You sound so ill

Yes ok- maybe the first 15 years of their lives. Ha! 😂😂

How much are your coats!? (misses point)

OP as you get older your body changes. Muscle tone, skin elasticity, ability to lose weight and keep it off.

That red dress is too small and the shape doesn't suit your physique.

I'd suggest you take up yoga - and use much stronger sunscreen as tanning is really ageing of the skin.

Forget liposuction - it can leave you seriously lumpy, apart from being a stupid risk to take for your vanity.

The cost of liposuction could be an amazing holiday for your family. A small second had car, a new winter coat for your child for their first 5 years. A mega birthday party for you child or a big wedding anniversary party.

Life is about experiences not looks. You have a distorted view of what will “make you happy” that is stealing joy from you everyday.

Don’t be that guy. go speak to a dr and get some specialist help.

You do realise liposuction is quite a high risk procedure ie many women have died due to complications from this?

Do you want to take that risk when you have a young child to take care of?

Liposuction can also make you look more lumpy because it's difficult to take the fat away evenly.

Agree with others that you need some therapy (and probably a new social circle).

Sort your head out, not your body. You sound mentally ill, and I mean that kindly.

Right as someone who is largely recovered from an eating disorder and now ‘just’ has body dysmorphia have you thought about talking to your GP regarding body image, possibly body dysmorphia?

Everyone has rolls, I’m a man, so we tend to carry less fat and more muscle, when I was a fulltime professional athlete with a six pack and 8% body fat unless I was tensing I had a rolly stomach, if I wore a tight crop under my training shirt I would have flesh ‘sticking out’ in the armpit area. People you see who don’t have this aren’t real, they’re heavily edited, or they’re in the depths of an eating disorder.

Women carry more body fat, to get to a stage where you have low enough fat to look extremely flat you would be at levels that aren’t healthy, you may also find unless you have very very good abs and brilliant posture you have a low down tummy bump where your uterus is. Professional female athletes are only in the low body fat zone for short periods as it can have a negative impact on health, increase the risk of osteoporosis, stop periods etc.

With lipo yes fat cells are removed, but your bodies ability to store fat doesn’t change, so your remaining fat cells just store more than before. Reputable clinics won’t perform it on very slim people, do you really want to put your life in the hands of someone doing something that isn’t ethical? What about scars, lipo can lead to a permanent bump effect on the treated area.

Please be careful if you do liposuction. Yes those fat cells will be permanently removed but if you gain fat then it has to go somewhere and that’s into your remaining fat cells. Do you want fat knees eg?

I’m not going to be one of those frumpy middle aged women.

You'd best buy a different dress in the right size and change your hairdresser so they don't do the standard 'I'm covering all my greys here' big bouffant bleach job, then.

Is this actually your internal narrative or is it a boyfriend's misogyny you're parroting?

I know, it's insane.

And OP you're focusing (as usual) on your looks.

I thought, when I read all your previous threads, that once your son was born, you'd gain some perspective, and stop being obsessed with your looks. I was expecting threads about the baby.

But so far, there have been two threads about your looks, and one about a lesbian crush.

The baby can't be more than six weeks old, yet he is never mentioned.

Have you got time (energy!) for a class OP? Pilates is good for this sort of thing, a far better option than liposuction and will help strengthen your back muscles for putting toddlers in and out of car seats.

There are some YouTubers who do core strengthening workouts too. It might not seem much but they are very effective if you stick at it.

@PlatinumBlondeBarbie Please, please take a break from social media. There is a world out there that doesn't revolve round obsessing over your image every second of the day. Go out and enjoy life, enjoy your baby. If you continue this way then your child will eventually grow up having the same hang ups as you. Do it for you and your baby.

I’m sorry if that frumpy middle aged woman comment offended any of you. It wasn’t meant in that way

It's okay, OP. I'm a frumpy old woman (aged nearly 68) so obviously, you weren't referring to me.

I hope.

🤣

I hear you OP. I'm a similar shape. High protein, low carb will help. Lipo might leave you lumpy. Aim for 1 gram of protein per pound of your goal body weight. And stick to a weightloss calorie amount. Plus lift some serious weights.

'The liposuction will protect me from menopausal midsection as the fat cells are permanently removed'

Where to start with this?! You do know that liposuction doesn't stop you from gaining weight/fat on your body in the future, right?

Have you had therapy? Seriously

It's incredibly sad reading someone hate themselves so much. You won't ever be happy or comfortable with yourself until you fix the 'lumps' on the inside

Spanx, get a normal dress and drop the magician assistant look.

My mother had a saying. Well, she had many sayings, not all of them kind. One was "There will always be someone younger and prettier than you".It wasn't directed at me per se and think it may have been a rather cack handed attempt to say you shouldn't stress to much about perfection. She was also, of course, right.

OP, you've had a lot of threads, some of which have been deleted, most rather off key. I'm not sure what you want with this one, because none of us are going to be able to elongate your torso.

The best way to get toned is go to the gym for resistance training. Don't bother with a personal trainer as the gym people will sort you out for free. It's basically their job description.

The one exercise to do is rowing. That's pretty much 86% of your body sorted. (Plus push-ups or captain's chair for the other 14%.) Alternate rowing with cardio - cross trainer for low impact - and sort your diet out.

The photos you provided look fine, so please don't stress. You're already beautiful.

Frumpy middle aged woman here. I think I’m much more confident and happy than you currently seem to be. Time to grow up a bit - you have a new human to explore the world with.