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Genuinely curious

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Carouselfish · 26/06/2024 12:51

Does everyone have 'trauma' or 'anxiety'? (inverted commas used because I don't necessarily mean diagnosed with, but believing you have one or both).

I want to know:

whether you believe you have trauma or anxiety that affects you, (that has triggers) vote IANBU

OR

whether you have neither of these things vote IABU.

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Carouselfish · 26/06/2024 14:34

Lincoln24 · 26/06/2024 14:25

What do you mean by "having trauma"? I have lived through events that most people would consider traumatic, and that has shaped me and I often think about what happened. But I haven't had any treatment and it doesn't usually interfere with my daily life.

To me having trauma is just something that happens to people and not something that's within one's control, a bit like grief.

Edited

To clarify - that effects your daily life and which you might use the word 'triggering' in relation to.

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Lincoln24 · 26/06/2024 14:25

What do you mean by "having trauma"? I have lived through events that most people would consider traumatic, and that has shaped me and I often think about what happened. But I haven't had any treatment and it doesn't usually interfere with my daily life.

To me having trauma is just something that happens to people and not something that's within one's control, a bit like grief.

TeenDivided · 26/06/2024 14:22

No I don't.
(But my DD does, diagnosed, and has been debilitating, but now improved.)

BingoMarieHeeler · 26/06/2024 14:22

I have trauma and anxiety

Everyone has shit going on, and shit in their past

👆🏻both true facts

TheEyesOfLucyJordon · 26/06/2024 14:21

I have neither. I've never suffered anything traumatic and I'm not the remotest bit anxious about anything 😚

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Carouselfish · 26/06/2024 14:21

bluebeck · 26/06/2024 13:35

I’m not sure what the purpose of this is? Can you elaborate?

I have diagnosed General Anxiety Disorder and am medicated for this. I am also neurodivergent. Yes, certain situations trigger a panic attack/meltdown, so I try to avoid those situations as best as I can.

I'm lumping actually diagnosed and self-diagnosed together which I know isn't really fair, because online, you don't know which is the case and without prying wouldn't in real life either.
I'm surprised actually by the number of people who don't associate themselves with either.

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Carouselfish · 26/06/2024 14:18

Trickabrick · 26/06/2024 12:57

Why are you interested?

because you can't swing a cat without bumping into one of these online on a daily basis. And if everyone has one or the other or both, it's the new norm. And then that leads to why is that the case? Is it because of language changes, new definitions being created, because of the internet and being able to look things up, because modern life is a disaster....etc

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yellowsmileyface · 26/06/2024 13:45

I do believe I have CPTSD, though undiagnosed, due to past experiences of abuse. I have also been diagnosed with general anxiety. Everyone experiences anxiety to some degree, but for me it impacts my daily life which I think is the main difference between 'having anxiety' as a condition versus experiencing feelings of anxiety. The former is more of a constant whilst the latter is more fleeting.

I do think the word 'trauma' is thrown around a lot, usually to describe general adversity in life. Many people seem to think that 'traumatic' is synonymous with 'a bad experience'.

bluebeck · 26/06/2024 13:35

I’m not sure what the purpose of this is? Can you elaborate?

I have diagnosed General Anxiety Disorder and am medicated for this. I am also neurodivergent. Yes, certain situations trigger a panic attack/meltdown, so I try to avoid those situations as best as I can.

WalkingonWheels · 26/06/2024 13:13

I have severe, diagnosed and medicated PTSD, as well as diagnosed panic disorder. Yes, I have triggers. Yes, I have had multiple traumas which is why my diagnosis has Traumatic in the name.

What's the point of this post?

If you're suggesting that most people who say they have trauma or anxiety actually don't, I completely agree.

EcoChica1980 · 26/06/2024 13:09

We all have experiences that shape us, of course, but the only trauma I believe I have is from a car accident from more than twenty years ago. High speed on the motorway and I was very lucky not to be killed. I thought I was definitely going to die. I'm convinced it's affected my nervous system ever since.

Thelnebriati · 26/06/2024 13:05

I voted because I have a clinical diagnosis and have treatment, its not just a belief.

GatherYePearls · 26/06/2024 13:01

I am probably more anxious in general than the average person, but I don't "have anxiety" if by that you mean a diagnosed anxiety disorder.

Everyone experiences feelings of anxiety in their lives, dependent on the situation - it would be weird not to.

Beautifulbythebay · 26/06/2024 12:58

I have had shit happen to me and am currently having a run of bad luck. I would never apply either of the words to myself. Labelling yourself with such stuff isn't necessary imo - Woe is me isn't helpful.. . Just crack on with life as best you can.
Everyone is winging it and nobody gets out alive anyway...

Trickabrick · 26/06/2024 12:57

Why are you interested?

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