To forbid DD from playing football at break?

Yes. And??

she's admitted she's being a bit precious about it. So 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

@PFBGirlAlert DC (now 19) was incredibly talented at piano & violin. She also rode horses, ice skated, climbed and played both netball & basketball.

i explained the risks to her before a very 'big' concert, but she chose not to stop doing any of them before it.

it was all fine (thankfully) but I'm glad I left the choice up to her. I think buying goalie gloves is a good idea & seeing if you can find any GOID goalie training over the summer holidays (the risk being she hurts herself there). They heal pretty quickly at that age and she's only young. Unless she knows she wants to persue music professionally I'd just let her decide on the understanding she accepts any consequences!!

What could possibly go wrong with this idea 😂

Also, as the mother of an ex "wannabe football star", be a little wary if she is always in goal. In my experience sometimes a kid who isn't considered "one of us" is put in goal- and it can amount to bullying.

She could fall or land awkwardly. The ball could catch her at a bad angle and powerful shot could break wrist. But not especially likely. I would be glad she is joining in and having fun.

Possibly it is the ball hitting her hand that is sore so gloves will definitely solve that. At my daughters team they take turns in goals at training as only one goalie and need 2. No special training given to avoid injury. They have goalie coach so would definitely give pointers if they were worried.

Why on earth not?

Take up martial arts, they teach you how to fall.

She could get injured doing anything OP. And yes your comment was a bit snarky, all kids that age think they’re playing for England. You’ve no idea which ones are actually good and playing for proper teams. Some of my DC’s classmates have been scouted to play for various clubs.

Kids kickabout at break it's just fun,you say you don't want her to be forced like you were but you are trying to force her like you were, being snarky about a football game is just that
If she breaks a hand or a wrist and can't box OR play her instrument then that's a lesson learned all you can do is warn her she might injur herself, how are you going to forbid her are you going to have repercussions if you find out she's in goals?

I agree.

Gloves when she’s goalkeeping. And OP might have some success if she encourages playing the field as a way to broaden her horizons. Emphasising the importance of footwork (which would be important for boxing as well) might be helpful as well.

But I definitely would not forbid goalkeeping. That would probably encourage her (as PP said).

It’s also important to consider that she could just as well injure her wrists whilst playing in the field. A nasty fall is all it takes…

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If the sport is tennis I totally understand why you are anxious about her playing in goal. It is another level of competition. A long term injury is very serious in terms of ranking.

FWIW Katie Archibald, several time Olympic medalist, world/european champion has just been ruled out of the Olympic track cycling this year, breaking her leg tripping up a step. I’d not sideline your DD because she might hurt herself. I say this as someone who is a nightmare when ill/injured as I can’t do sport. It will happen to her at some point regardless almost certainly so just let her be a kid.

If she’s very athletic why not see if she wants to move to football from one of her other sports or have some taster lessons in football? Just because she’s done gymnastics and shot put up to now doesn’t mean she wouldn’t make a fabulous footballer.

Absolutely. But you can be proud of your child without putting down others.

If her daughter plays at national and county level, OP is fully entitled to think a lot of her.

Wow just saw this. How rude. My previous post still stands, but you don't half think alot of your DD!!

My son plays in goal. Get her some decent gloves. He's broken his fingers before, but only when he's not had gloves on. She could just as easily fall awkwardly playing on pitch. Or falling off a kerb walking to school. I think you need to let her get on with it.

I thought that too.

OK. It's breaktime football. A sure fire way to make sure she doesn't play any more is to follow some of the advice on here and impose a different ball on them and insist she straps her wrists before she plays!

Break time football - against a lot of wannabe football stars...
very snarky about other kids having a kick about, not everyone has national level/ orchestra playing kids, some just let their kids have fun.
Pushy parents are never looked back in fondly by their kids when they are adults.

Why does she see football= goalie? Is it because she considers herself better at that post, or some pressure from others?

In general I don't see not playing a goalie during the school break as too big sacrifice if she uses her hands for other stuff.

In my area netball was the thing and I was skipping it since this age (head of my music school asked even my PE teacher to let me out of that). I'm not a pro now, but got some amazing opportunities during my teens with the instrument.

I don't agree with PP that she will necessarily just do it and lie, we didn't. It is a kind of professionalism which 12 yo is definitely able to feel.

Let her be a kid. So she breaks her wrist. So what. It'll heal. Will not being able to play/practice for 6weeks really end her potential career as a professional musician/sports star?

She will be devastated or you will be?

As long as she is aware of the risks no way would I stop this