My mother has just passed away.
Once everyone who needed to know had been informed, I posted a photo of her on Facebook. My mother was very elderly and had been a very pretty lady when she was younger. The photo I posted was taken about a year ago on one of the last outings I had with her before she became housebound. Admittedly she had looked better but I liked the photo as it was taken in a beautiful place and had special memories. After posting it my sister said she thought I could've posted a nicer photo. I didn't disagree and I asked if I should change it and she told me not to worry.
Today I was at my sister's and her close friend Julie popped round. She said she thought the photo I had posted was so awful, she'd felt unable to like & comment on it, and she'd also felt compelled to text Tracey ,(another close friend of DSIS) to express her feelings. I got the impression (maybe wrongly) that Tracey agreed with her. I felt so bad I changed the photo for a more flattering one despite feeling quite cross at Julie for being so direct, but also through embarrassment as, in retrospect, the photo didn't do my mum justice.
Later that day, Tracey popped in to see my sister while I was still there & the subject of the photo came up. I said I knew she didn't like it as Julie had already said. She looked shocked and said I should ignore Julie & do what I wanted.
I know I'm probably being over sensitive but was Julie being really rude & inappropriate?