Does anyone not just accept anything anymore?

Agree OP.

ODFOD

To answer the question in the thread title, of course they do. Sometimes happily, sometimes sadly. Unless their happiness/sadness impacts on you, why get bent out of shape about it? I mean, your feelings, your choice, so crack gently on, but fuck me, it sounds exhausting.

Live and let live.

See also, how many people post on threads that are about something general and manage to make it about them and get offended… see if you can spot this on this thread…

And also this!
soft times create soft people, soft people create hard times, hard times create hard people, hard people create soft times

And so on…

Oh do piss off OP what a shitty thread!

People grieve for all sorts of reasons and who the hell are you to judge them for it!

No doubt I'm one of those people you're talking about. A forced hysterectomy a year ago means I never get to be a parent and yeah actually I'm allowed to fucking hurt! I'm also allowed to deal with it however I god damned chose to!

Get over yourself!!!

This.

They probably don't feel it's something they can discuss with their family.

This

Meant Facebook not Mumsnet sorry.

While some support groups can turn into a load of depressing competitive suffering this is far from the worst way to cope with feelings of sadness and grief. Definitely better to find a way to offload that bottle up your feelings or vent on to your own children.

Sometimes an imperfect solution is the best you can do.

If you want to 🤷‍♂️

It's not like it'd cause harm to anyone, or that anyone would be forced to join it.

Live and let live.

I dont think it's necessarily whining in this case, but at the same time I am struck by how everybody these days describes themselves as a "survivor" or a "warrior". Social media has a lot to answer for.

It is bad for a nation to have its people spending their time sniveling and whining about minor things. It lowers resilience and makes for poor workers and poor parenting which then passes it on to the next generation then we end up with people who just sit crying and clutching their teddy bears all day. It's undignified and not what being a human is supposed to be about. Can you imagine if cavemen had behaved like this?

"Oooo, I'm so upset 😭 I tripped up over a mammoth bone this afternoon and Ugg laughed at me" 😭😭😭

Meanwhile, cave family sits and starves 🙄 cave mum can't gather berries because she's upset over a lost shell and cave teen is having a massive strop because cave dad told her to clear the pile of bones up.

Get a grip!

The thing is, you don't get to decide what other people feel sad about and how they deal with it as long as it doesn't actually affect your life.

While this thread is not an actual support group, you are looking for SUPPORT in sneering and looking down at other people because of reasons. Pot,meet kettle.

I dont want my children to have grandchildren. Neither does DH. I hope there's a support group for us!

I feel it is very reasonable to grieve and be sad, if you watch your greatly loved adult child try everything they can do to conceive and be unable to. Time after time.

Heartbreaking to watch. And nothing you can do to help and nothing to say either.

Totally different to wanting a grandchild and being disappointed if it doesn't happen due to an informed choice of your child.

And that’s fine but for me it would make me sad- our own feelings don’t invalidate others’

Spot on!

The thing is it could end anyway two or three generations down the line. You just don’t know. I couldn’t have children but this is not something I feel particularly sad about.

You have to re-frame it. It's not sad. Just think about all the people who'll be saved from living this miserable existence on a failing planet 😃

I think it’s quite sad not to have grandchildren- family is up there with health and money in terms of importance for most people to be happy. Knowing your family line will end I think is sad

People need to get a grip. It's unhealthy to spend so much time and effort angsting about these types of things. People are so immature now.

Melodram Patheticism is what it is.

I feel like this when I read threads by parents who already have a kid/s but are DEVASTATED to not have a 2nd or 3rd or 4th child. I find it really childish. I didn’t get to be Kate Moss, or marry George Clooney, or live in a palatial mansion overlooking Hampstead Heath, yet somehow I move forward with my life.