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Kid constantly knocking on door!!

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Eimsryan · 25/06/2024 15:02

Looking for some advice please. Since last October/November 2023 we have had a child i think 8/9 years of age (with special needs) constantly ringing my doorbell and running/banging on my door and looking through my front window. My husband approached his father around Christmas to ask if anything can be done. The father said he would do something about it. It all went quiet for 2 weeks then it started back up again.

Fast forward to now June 2024 and its worse than ever. its almost every day now but definitely every week and its embarrassing especially when I have visitors. I am also pregnant with our baby due in January and want this to stop.

I get the child has special needs and that's why we have not said anything for over 6 months hoping it would pass but it hasn't. I am just wondering should we approach the parents again because i dont want this to continue before our baby is born.

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ShennyInfinity · 25/06/2024 15:16

FuzzyStripes · 25/06/2024 15:10

Go and tell his parents. Just because he has special needs doesn’t mean this can continue. He’s either capable enough to be out alone and therefore has the capability to not keep doing it or else he is supervised and physically stopped by his carer.

Every time it happens, go and tell his parents. Just think how annoying you find it each time. Theoretically they will find it just as annoying to have you coming to them each time and will be proactive about doing something.

Absolutely agree with this.

Aquamarine1029 · 25/06/2024 15:15

Talk to the father again, and be very stern when you do so. If it doesn't immediately stop, I would be calling social services because this child is not be supervised appropriately. Imagine if this child knocked on the "wrong" door, and if the person behind that door is a sex offender? It is shameful that this vulnerable child isn't being looked after.

ManchesterLu · 25/06/2024 15:14

To be honest I'd ring social services, because this vulnerable child can't just be knocking on doors of strangers. You're not going to harm him, but who knows which other doors he might knock on?

BMW6 · 25/06/2024 15:14

Go to his parents every single time.

The child's special needs do not overrule your right to peaceful enjoyment of your home.

I have to say how come he's outside unsupervised when he is so afflicted he cannot understand NO.

stilllovebeetroot · 25/06/2024 15:14

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ToxicChristmas · 25/06/2024 15:11

The dad hasn't done anything then basically. The child must be wandering around unsupervised I assume. Does he do it at any other houses?
I'd speak to the dad again first. As a mum of a son with special needs I wouldn't allow this to happen. Is the child verbal? Does he respond to you when you answer the door?

FuzzyStripes · 25/06/2024 15:10

Go and tell his parents. Just because he has special needs doesn’t mean this can continue. He’s either capable enough to be out alone and therefore has the capability to not keep doing it or else he is supervised and physically stopped by his carer.

Every time it happens, go and tell his parents. Just think how annoying you find it each time. Theoretically they will find it just as annoying to have you coming to them each time and will be proactive about doing something.

IncompleteSenten · 25/06/2024 15:09

You need to be consistent. Say the same thing every time.
Go back home now please.
Then shut the door.

Talk to the parents again and if it doesn't stop then you have to consider whether a vulnerable child is being put at risk by the failure of the parents to ensure they are adequately supervised and whether that's something the school or social services should know about so they can offer support and advice.

Blouson · 25/06/2024 15:08

Whats the context? Is he alone, with friends? Left unsupervised?

incessantpunditry · 25/06/2024 15:08

Open the door and tell him to go home.

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Eimsryan · 25/06/2024 15:07

of course but he has special needs but not registering with him

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Eimsryan · 25/06/2024 15:07

tried that a few times

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Needmorelego · 25/06/2024 15:05

Why is he knocking? Have you said to him not to do it? Do you not answer the door? That might confuse him which is why he keeps knocking.

stilllovebeetroot · 25/06/2024 15:04

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