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Do you call people out who push in queues etc?

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Heretheycomethebeautifulones · 25/06/2024 13:05

I can't stand it when people just push into long queues and usually say something. I know people will say 'just leave it', but this is how they keep getting away with it, by relying on nobody saying anything.

I know there are much worse things in life, but when you've been queueing a long time and you're tired and fed up, it's not nice.

This can apply to other things in life too.

I was queueing to board a plane last night after a long delay, a woman in her 20s decided she didn't fancy the long queue and just pushed in near the front. A woman must've seen me looking irritated so she tapped me on the shoulder and said 'Just leave her, she might not be all there'.

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Beaverbridge · 25/06/2024 16:51

Everytime, don't let them away with it. Bus queues, shops the lot. OH gets mortified but I don't care ha.

JackJarvisEsq · 25/06/2024 16:48

We were visiting Brighton and some guy pushed past me at the self serve queue in Sainsbury’s

I pointed out the queue and he told me to shut up so that red rag made me go full Glaswegian on him. it didn’t prevent him from scanning but it definitely made him pipe doon

GrumpyMuleFan · 25/06/2024 16:46

Drivers on motorways - where there is a queue to exit or roadworks. Junction 10 M25 is full of roadworks at the moment and I make a return trip once a week. Every time, both ways, people do it. Always men and they very aggressively push in.

Namechange746498 · 25/06/2024 16:39

I do, but assume they haven't realised (to be fair that is mostly the case), so just politely point out where the end of the line is.

summersofdoom · 25/06/2024 16:31

SerafinasGoose · 25/06/2024 16:22

That's fantastic! And why I love acquainting myself with other cultures as opposed to the British, who have perfected a PA tutting and sighing but often without confronting the situation directly.

As for the pointy-elbowed variety in plane queues, why bother? Planes usually board in phases according to seat order: they're not going anywhere until boarding is complete.

I'm guessing these are of the same breed as those clicking off their seat belts the minute the wheels hit the tarmac and reaching for hand luggage before you even come to a standstill. Planes disembark row by row from the front end. Where on earth do these people think they're going?

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people in a rush are trying to push the bloody faffers who have nothing better to do than delaying the whole plane, take all their time and waste their day.

There's a special place in hell for these idiots. If you are not in a rush, just sit down and let the rest of us go through.

If you have a connecting flight, a connecting train or other, want to be ahead of the queue at passport control, it does pay off to rush off the plane. Just because you have all the time in the world, it doesn't mean the rest of us do. When the doors open, I am out.

Itiswhysofew · 25/06/2024 16:31

Where I lived in spain, they had a great system where whoever's just entered the shop, post office, bank, etc, asks who's the last person in the queue, and they take note of who they're behind. So simple, but it works when customers don't actually form a queue.

user1471538283 · 25/06/2024 16:28

Yes I do now. I'm a small woman and I've spent decades queuing at bars or to get groceries with someone pushing in.

But whilst queuing for hours in the heat for a tourist attraction a guide tried to push in because he has promised his group tickets for that particular time. Nah mate you are not going in front of me.

But yes when they are called out on it they accuse you of being rude

Auburngal · 25/06/2024 16:26

SerafinasGoose · 25/06/2024 16:22

That's fantastic! And why I love acquainting myself with other cultures as opposed to the British, who have perfected a PA tutting and sighing but often without confronting the situation directly.

As for the pointy-elbowed variety in plane queues, why bother? Planes usually board in phases according to seat order: they're not going anywhere until boarding is complete.

I'm guessing these are of the same breed as those clicking off their seat belts the minute the wheels hit the tarmac and reaching for hand luggage before you even come to a standstill. Planes disembark row by row from the front end. Where on earth do these people think they're going?

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"Will passengers in row 18-32 please come up with passports and boarding passes". Always someone in a row outside that range that queues up and gets stroppy when the boarding gate crew tell them they need to wait their turn.

JudgeJ · 25/06/2024 16:23

JC03745 · 25/06/2024 14:13

The same as me. I now ask 'is that all you have???'
I was once caught when a women was standing with just a few items in her hand, so I let her in. A few minutes later, a tween child came along with a trolley full of items, then every few minutes, another child arrived adding more and more stuff to the trolley!

I was once behind a woman with just a basket, I had been there a couple of minutes when she turned round, waved to someone and then said to me 'She's with me, let her through', the other person had a fully load, deep trolley When I said No they were both furious and she called me a Stuck up bitch. When I said Maybe I am but I can also spell it. I do love a bit of passive aggression, it really annoys people.

Auburngal · 25/06/2024 16:22

I did food courier order pick where we put the bags at the CSD/kiosk. There was a man who barged at the front of the queue just to buy a bag of apples.

" I am not serving sir". He went into a right strop.

Noseyoldcow · 25/06/2024 16:22

I once told someone off for pushing in at a bar. He turned to me, apologised, and said he'd better buy me a drink then. And he did. And he still does. Reader, I married him. Smile

SerafinasGoose · 25/06/2024 16:22

Ifthisiswheretheworldisheadingcountmeout · 25/06/2024 14:18

I do sometimes. Wouldn't bother me getting on a plane as I prefer to be last on anyway. Also having to get used to the fact that some countries are better at queuing than others. Certain countries have zero queue etiquette, others are very strict. My fave so far is Thailand. They leave their shoes in a line to show the queue, then go and sit down 😂

That's fantastic! And why I love acquainting myself with other cultures as opposed to the British, who have perfected a PA tutting and sighing but often without confronting the situation directly.

As for the pointy-elbowed variety in plane queues, why bother? Planes usually board in phases according to seat order: they're not going anywhere until boarding is complete.

I'm guessing these are of the same breed as those clicking off their seat belts the minute the wheels hit the tarmac and reaching for hand luggage before you even come to a standstill. Planes disembark row by row from the front end. Where on earth do these people think they're going?

SeriaMau · 25/06/2024 16:18

Hypertension190over90 · 25/06/2024 13:35

I had an old lady just boldly step in front of me in a queue knowing full well I’d not say anything as she was on a zimmer frame.

then her son joined in the queue behind her. I don’t think he had any idea his mother was just barging around in to people but then I suppose he must be a wanker to let his barely walking mother hole a space in the queue for him the first place

What a complete bastard he was. Men are such vile creatures.

Auburngal · 25/06/2024 16:18

We did let a customer who said she had a dentist appointment in ten minutes through once.

She left the store and spent about 30 mins talking to a friend. What dentist appointment?

Another time, customers let through a customer who has a bus to catch in five minutes. This was about 10 mins before my shift ended. Went to my car in the car park and saw the woman going to her car. Funny looking bus.

Hate people who make excuses as cba in queueing.

hastalav · 25/06/2024 16:15

Only if someone is blatantly an entitled CF. I never say anything other than "Hey" in a loud voice and point my thumb over my shoulder to the back of the Queue. Usually works fine.

If someone tackles me I point to my hearing aids and say "sorry I'm deaf" I can't hear you and stand my ground. Now I'm a bit of a CF there myself I reckon, because I can hear a bit, but it saves a lot of aggro so I use my disability when I am in the right of course, never otherwise.

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 25/06/2024 16:08

Neodymium · 25/06/2024 13:23

I was waiting once at a food place, waiting in the correct place to order (as I get their food all the time). A man came over after me and stood at the opposite end where you collect orders from. I don’t know if he noticed me standing there or what but when the lady finally came out and served me first he made several loud passive aggressive comments about thinking I’m more important than others ect. I just ignored him but it was quite intimidating as he seemed to be seething with anger and I was scared he would follow me. I was 100% there before him, and he was waiting in the wrong space, but I can only think he must have thought he was in the correct place to order and that I wasn’t and that meant he should be served first. But even if I wasn’t I was still waiting there before him.

I had the same in Next. A guy stood at the empty till when the queue was in the other direction and then started huffing that he must be invisible to the young woman who was serving.
To her credit she just said quietly 'queue is from there' and carried on.

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 25/06/2024 16:07

sandstormsy · 25/06/2024 14:50

I do but politely at first as I do genuinely think some people are in their own world and don't notice the queue or think it starts somewhere else etc.

It's sometimes obvious - like one big long queue without gaps leading up to one counter but sometimes it's unclear.

I accidentally pushed in at the post office as I thought the two desks were for different services (one to post and one I could buy my envelope).

I walked right up to the envelope one and the lady looked at me like I'd pissed on her and she looked really angry at me for not queuing. Oops. I honestly didn't think it was clear at all it was all one queue and once I realised was mortified and joined the back and apologised.

So yeah I think it's not always that people are doing it on purpose and although some people are arses, some people do just look embarrassed and go "oh no I'm so sorry!". I like to give the benefit of the doubt.

I can do better that that 😀 Once 8 of us, yes 8! accidentally went to the front of a huge queue at an airport check in desk. Tbf, an employee had directed us to it and it just happened to be free when we got there. It wasn't until I glanced around while the passports etc were being checked that I realised what we'd done! No one said a thing but we had a few funny looks. I was absolutely mortified. We now laugh about it but at the time it was embarrassing.

ElonGates666 · 25/06/2024 16:00

It happens so rarely to me that I do nothing about it. The person might have something wrong with them.

Sometimes people can be accused of queue jumping. I have joined the end of a queue at a bus station, only to find that when a bus pulls in no one wants that bus. You have to rush to the start of the queue, if someone is hesitating you don't know if they want it or not.

Have you ever heard that in other countries nobody queues? I've never understood how that works. Do they all move forward and get stuck in the bus door?

ArabellaFishwife · 25/06/2024 16:00

Some queues are confusing. I don't, for instance, call out people who try out the wrong desk at the post office, because they might well have seen someone buy stamps at the buying envelopes till and assumed it was fair game. The staff behind the till will send them mercilessly to the back of the queue with a telling off for not reading the sign.
Others are more of a social minefield. I go to a fair number of gigs, and there's more bad feeling created over breaches of queue etiquette than anything else. I would probably simply seethe if I witnessed a blatant misdemeanour, but I've had people ask if they could slide in beside me in front of a long line, and it feels so cringey and awkward to say no.

Fontainebleau007 · 25/06/2024 15:58

I was in the dentist not long ago and was making my next appt with the receptionist when this old woman, pushed next to me and started talking to her.. I was like really? Luckily the receptionist ignored her and carried on engaging with me. I thought this woman was so blimmin rude. I didn't say anything at the time but I would next time. There's just no need. Get in the queue and wait your turn !! 🙄

safetyfreak · 25/06/2024 15:55

I have done,

Once in euro disney, a woman stood in front of me and my sister in a queue. We checked with the man in front if she was with him, she wasnt. The audacity! we were hot, hungry and we both went for her (verbally!). She walked away pretty sharpish.

Mumsntfan1 · 25/06/2024 15:53

Heretheycomethebeautifulones · 25/06/2024 13:31

I mean when boarding a plane you kind of have to queue to scan your boarding pass/show your passport don't you?

Depends on the country. You won't get to your destination faster for being first on the plane anyway.

shearwater2 · 25/06/2024 15:52

Waitrose is the worst - I've been shunted on two separate occasions in a queue by someone who clearly needed L plates on their trolley.

shearwater2 · 25/06/2024 15:49

I do but usually very politely, as the person may have not seen the queue. I've certainly merrily walked up to a counter and have not at first noticed a long queue before, until I was tapped on the shoulder. I don't mind that at all and apologised. What I did mind was being physically shoved out of the way by a pensioner in a bus queue when I was a teenager. He only needed to say "There is a queue."

I also called out people who were doing it deliberately- looking at the queue first then pushing in. They were not happy but went to the back.

momager1 · 25/06/2024 15:46

when I first moved here , I went to the grocery store, and there was two trolleys in front of me as well as a woman already putting her stuff on the belt. Both trolleys had a few things in them, BOTH had said trolley owners going back and forth to the shelfs! I was astounded. Couldn't say anything as I don't speak Spanish, so I just did the death glare. Since then I know now that this is very normal here. If someone doesn't get back before the assistant is taking the previous persons money, I now move the cart. Now I get the death glares lol If they say something to me , I just smile and say " no entiendo espanol." It now has turned into a game for me