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Do you call people out who push in queues etc?

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Heretheycomethebeautifulones · 25/06/2024 13:05

I can't stand it when people just push into long queues and usually say something. I know people will say 'just leave it', but this is how they keep getting away with it, by relying on nobody saying anything.

I know there are much worse things in life, but when you've been queueing a long time and you're tired and fed up, it's not nice.

This can apply to other things in life too.

I was queueing to board a plane last night after a long delay, a woman in her 20s decided she didn't fancy the long queue and just pushed in near the front. A woman must've seen me looking irritated so she tapped me on the shoulder and said 'Just leave her, she might not be all there'.

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Whatafustercluck · 25/06/2024 13:55

Yes, always. I do it politely, pointing out the end of the queue just in case they're mistaken. Nine times out of ten they'll apologise, seemingly after a genuine mistake, and move to the back of the line. I've done it myself, by accident, and always appreciate a polite pointer.

JudgeJ · 25/06/2024 13:54

Enoughwiththisshit · 25/06/2024 13:34

I've been that mortified woman. If it makes you feel better, I was grateful that someone said something rather than having a queue of people silently hating me!

We did something similar in Washington DC, we walked up the front of the Capitol Building, round the side to the back and walked in through the open door. We had a really interesting hour or so but when we walked out we realised that all the people across the large open space were actually queuing to get in. This was back in the day when you could do such things!

bigageap · 25/06/2024 13:52

Yes. Queuing at the channel tunnel passport control on Sunday and the car behind us came out the queue up the side and waited to sneak in. Bloody Volvo driver let him in. I hung out the window and shouted 'we are all queueing in the heat'
Rather hope he got a puncture on the way home!

lemmity · 25/06/2024 13:49

In case it's a genuine mistake I tend to brightly say "ooh excuse me, the queue's over here!" nice and loud. Usually shames all but the most hardcore CF queue jumpers to join it.

IdLikeToBeAFraser · 25/06/2024 13:49

Queues are weirdly triggering for me. I absolutely do call people out - although I try to be polite about it because I know that sometimes it's not done on purpose.

I also find the whole act of queuing very stressful. People wandering around. Possibly queue jumping. Big gaps in queues annoy me too although I'm teaching myself to let that one go as it doesn't really impact anything (eg at an event the other day the queue was bifurcated by a door. so at one point, all the people on the other side of the door had moved forward but the rest of us were still on the "outside" as it were because the people closest to the door didn't think to now move forward. Annoyed me as it was hot and on the other side was air conditioned, but Dh was very proud of me for not making a scene! Grin

Pret queues... well, don't even get me started on those. Lots of Prets have multiple queues. Bit of a stupid system, but it is what it is. Lots of signs saying, "please queue both sides". But inevitably, all the lemmings only queue on one side. I ALWAYS go to the other queue and if I get any comments or dirty looks, I like to point to the sign!

One of the reasons I loved Eurodisney is that while there are big queues, they're really well managed, very little opportunity for queue jumping and lots of staff rushing around showing people where NOT to queue. For me, that was very relaxing.

CreamStick · 25/06/2024 13:49

Blandskog · 25/06/2024 13:17

I wouldn't say anything about people pushing into a plane queue. I'm always a bit baffled as to why people queue to get on a plane tbh.

No I wouldn't as everyone has had their seat allocated. I think the pushers in are scared there will be no room in the over head lockers

poetryandwine · 25/06/2024 13:49

I wouldn’t call out someone vulnerable. I do call out pompous jerks, usually very politely and ideally silently.

Recently I was in the Rx Drop Off/Query queue at the chemist, head of the queue. A nan came in holding a prescription and went to the Pick Up Station. I caught the chemist’s eye and smiled as she came to help us first.

A guy sidled up to me at the bar of a pub and put his arm across the bar, and me, to make it look as though he had bern there first. I took a deep breath and put my arm in front of his. I was served first.

Etc.

JudgeJ · 25/06/2024 13:49

PickupperPenguin · 25/06/2024 13:15

Yes, I told a man who pushed to the front of the queue in the post office that we were all queuing and he needed to wait like the rest of us. He shouted why did I think I was so special (the irony 😄) and stormed out.

I was only about 20-21 and wouldn’t have said boo to a goose normally, I’m not sure what came over me!

My father was in a long queue at a newsagent and a woman came in and tried to push to the front, 'Oh but I'll miss my train if I wait!' to which another person in the queue replied 'You've missed it love, they shut the station 10 years ago!'.
I was in a little sweet shop and there was a man in front of me and a couple of children in front of him. When the assistant was free he said what he wanted and I told him that the children were before him, his response was 'These kids should learn some manners' and delighted in telling him 'They're not learn any from you, will they?'.

Iseeyoupekingduck · 25/06/2024 13:48

I usually say something rather loud to the person I am with so they can overhear it lol

Tangomango1 · 25/06/2024 13:47

I was queuing with my family a couple of years ago at Wembley for a Coldplay concert. Me, DH & late teens DS & early 20's DD.
We were directed up the ramp by the staff to start to queue as the gates had not yet opened!
And so we were loosely forming a wide queue walking up the rampards & chatting to other fans. It was a lovely atmosphere Smile
Then a couple came from behind & tried to push their way past us & further up & I was outraged!
I told them the queue started behind us etc & she said the staff had told her to push the queue up!
We had a little back & forth & I stood my ground & they eventually went back to the end!
My DD & DS were NOT impressed with me

Embarrassing mother apparently Halo

I told them - No way! You snooze you lose & I cannot stand cheeky buggers who think they don't have to bother queuing while everyone else does

FrangipaniBlue · 25/06/2024 13:43

Normal queue where I am impacted by the CF jumper then yes, I do speak up.

Plane queue with allocated seats - nah cos it makes no difference what order I board, in fact if anything I'd prefer to be at the back so that it's less time spent sitting.

FrangipaniBlue · 25/06/2024 13:41

Blouson · 25/06/2024 13:37

MYOB, you never know if theres a reason for it.

I'm intrigued to hear what that might be.......

Everyone has a designated seat on a plane, so unless you require special assistance (which is boarded separately anyway) I don't see what possible reasonable excuse the lady could have?

Blouson · 25/06/2024 13:37

MYOB, you never know if theres a reason for it.

ilovepixie · 25/06/2024 13:36

I work in a shop and people queue jump all the time. Then if you say anything to them they complain your being rude!

Hypertension190over90 · 25/06/2024 13:35

I had an old lady just boldly step in front of me in a queue knowing full well I’d not say anything as she was on a zimmer frame.

then her son joined in the queue behind her. I don’t think he had any idea his mother was just barging around in to people but then I suppose he must be a wanker to let his barely walking mother hole a space in the queue for him the first place

greenpolarbear · 25/06/2024 13:35

PickupperPenguin · 25/06/2024 13:15

Yes, I told a man who pushed to the front of the queue in the post office that we were all queuing and he needed to wait like the rest of us. He shouted why did I think I was so special (the irony 😄) and stormed out.

I was only about 20-21 and wouldn’t have said boo to a goose normally, I’m not sure what came over me!

Ha I had a similar experience except he said, "There's always one" and I said, "Yes and it's you."

Enoughwiththisshit · 25/06/2024 13:34

FaintlyMacabre · 25/06/2024 13:15

I did once but the woman was so mortified and apologetic (she hadn’t realised where the queue started) that I felt worse than if I hadn’t said anything!

I've been that mortified woman. If it makes you feel better, I was grateful that someone said something rather than having a queue of people silently hating me!

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 25/06/2024 13:33

Heretheycomethebeautifulones · 25/06/2024 13:08

I'd love to hear more 🤣

She was a bit of a bruiser and although I can stand my ground I regretted it instantly 😆

DoYouSmokePaul · 25/06/2024 13:32

It’s not difficult to point to the end of the queue and say “actually the queue starts there”.

Heretheycomethebeautifulones · 25/06/2024 13:31

I mean when boarding a plane you kind of have to queue to scan your boarding pass/show your passport don't you?

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summersofdoom · 25/06/2024 13:27

Depends

If it's an orderly queue, I might.

If it's because someone is faffing, delaying everyone else and 5 people would have had time to go through instead, I join the ones who push in and go around 😂

Idontjetwashthefucker · 25/06/2024 13:26

Yeah usually I do but I don't think I could be arsed waiting to get on a plane, I'd rather be standing and moving about before a flight so the shortest time sitting is better for me. The plane's not going to leave any quicker because she pushed in

Neodymium · 25/06/2024 13:23

I was waiting once at a food place, waiting in the correct place to order (as I get their food all the time). A man came over after me and stood at the opposite end where you collect orders from. I don’t know if he noticed me standing there or what but when the lady finally came out and served me first he made several loud passive aggressive comments about thinking I’m more important than others ect. I just ignored him but it was quite intimidating as he seemed to be seething with anger and I was scared he would follow me. I was 100% there before him, and he was waiting in the wrong space, but I can only think he must have thought he was in the correct place to order and that I wasn’t and that meant he should be served first. But even if I wasn’t I was still waiting there before him.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 25/06/2024 13:18

Yes I do.

Not sure how to vote though because you didn’t say anything.

Is that the unreasonable bit, or just a general question?

Blandskog · 25/06/2024 13:17

I wouldn't say anything about people pushing into a plane queue. I'm always a bit baffled as to why people queue to get on a plane tbh.