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Overheard convo - tell friend?

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camiclairi · 25/06/2024 09:31

Yesterday I went for drinks with some friends after work, couple of us brought our partners.
One of my friends is in a relatively new relationship, I haven't got a great feeling about him but she seems happy.

At one point in the evening my friend went to the bathroom, I then overheard her boyfriend talking to a stranger.
The stranger asked what his girlfriend did and he replied (she's work in events and marketing for a large very well known museum) saying what she does and followed it with "so not very bright but looks good on my arm" the stranger asked if she went to uni and he said "yeah but one of those pointless degrees that need banning" (English Lit & Classics at St Andrews ..... hardly Mickey Mouse stuff!), she also has a masters from Kings College! He then went into talking about his finance and economics degree.
She came back before anything else was said and the convo moved on.
However it's sat weird with me that he would talk about her this way. I think my friend is a genuinely intelligent, and extremely knowledgeable person, probably more so than many many people working in the city (I say as one of those people). I feel she deserves someone who is proud of her achievements and doesn't aim to diminish them. She is from an Uber wealthy background so I guess felt no need to do a job or degree she doesn't love!
I'm now thinking I should tell her I overheard this but other friends think I should keep out and she will realise sooner or later - or maybe she already knows and is fine with it.

AIBU wanting to tell friend?

OP posts:
HarrytheHobbit · 25/06/2024 10:08

I would tell her. If it were me I would want to know.

loropianalover · 25/06/2024 10:05

He sounds jealous of her! I’d tell her as you never know what other info she’s holding and mulling over, this might be the one thing she needs to tip her over and get rid of him.

Fraaahnces · 25/06/2024 10:03

Bloody hell, I’d want to know if it were me!

KimberleyClark · 25/06/2024 10:01

I would wait and see how things develop and be ready to support when things go wrong. It doesn’t look promising. If you say something now she may get defensive and not believe you.

ThatsMeYoureTalkingAbout · 25/06/2024 09:58

Have you thought of telling him that you overheard what he said?