Page 2 | Please can someone tell me if my dd is lying? iPhone question

F0GGYCAT · 2024-06-25T06:51:43+00:00

She says she can't have find my iPhone turned on as she deleted it for storage, is that possible?

Crispsarethebestfood · 25/06/2024 15:09

Life2Short4Nonsense · 25/06/2024 14:39

There is a big difference between limits and literally checking your child's every move. How will they ever become adults if they never learn to take calculated risks?

By time they get to 18 they will be too scared to leave the house.

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So if I am able to check where my daughter is when she leaves the house, she will be unable to leave the house?
Why?
Why does someone knowing where she is make her unable to leave??
Ridiculous.

ManchesterLu · 25/06/2024 15:08

F0GGYCAT · 25/06/2024 07:55

15 years old. Never had it on before but she's going jogging at 6 am and I want it on but she says no

Yeah, the jogging at that time in the morning on her own is a non-starter unless you can check on her location.

Sounds like she isn't going where she says she's going.

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 15:03

@OhmygodDont None of which applies in this case.

Comefromaway · 25/06/2024 15:01

Similarly I have apple tags hidden in ds's musical instrument case and he also put one in his backpack.

OhmygodDont · 25/06/2024 14:52

Personally we used it to get back a stolen phone. If you want a ££££ phone I want to track it. It’s expensive.

Also though it is handy if they ever get lost or need picking up from a friends and they don’t know the postcode they can just ping and help with directions. So what we couldn’t get that help as kids you can now 🤷🏻‍♀️

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 14:45

It's bizarre that nobody will tell me what the risks are

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 14:43

@Mummyoflittledragon I took many risks I would not want my children to take. Going for an early morning run in your local area just isn't any sort of risk. Unless your local area is downtown LA....

BonifaceBonanza · 25/06/2024 14:39

@F0GGYCAT if space is actually the real problem you can pay 99p per month for masses of cloud backup for photos. There’s no way she’s not got room for find my phone.

Life2Short4Nonsense · 25/06/2024 14:39

Mummyoflittledragon · 25/06/2024 14:36

Sixteen isn’t an adult, which is the post cited in this chain. An adult is 18 plus and even then we continue to grow and develop. We grow up an awful lot between 15,16,17 and 18. Freedom and the ability to be self sufficient comes gradually. I got up to some dangerous things at 15/16. There is no way on earth I would want my almost 16 year old to do the same. She is sensible. We talk about things and agree limits. Parenting has changed an awful lot since I was young.

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There is a big difference between limits and literally checking your child's every move. How will they ever become adults if they never learn to take calculated risks?

By time they get to 18 they will be too scared to leave the house.

Mummyoflittledragon · 25/06/2024 14:36

Life2Short4Nonsense · 25/06/2024 11:28

This.

I am absolutely baffled by many of the responses here. Such extreme helicopter parenting. I am now actually glad we didn't have phones at that age. Our parents just had to trust us telling them where we were. The most strict parents were the ones who got lied to the most.

I realize that 15 year olds are still very naïve and vulnerable, but they are at greater danger from their internet activity than their actual physical activities. Furthermore, they need to learn to look after themselves at some point. When is that suppose to start? When then graduate college and suddenly find themselves in the deep end of the pool without ever having gotten to practice swimming on their own?

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Sixteen isn’t an adult, which is the post cited in this chain. An adult is 18 plus and even then we continue to grow and develop. We grow up an awful lot between 15,16,17 and 18. Freedom and the ability to be self sufficient comes gradually. I got up to some dangerous things at 15/16. There is no way on earth I would want my almost 16 year old to do the same. She is sensible. We talk about things and agree limits. Parenting has changed an awful lot since I was young.

OhmygodDont · 25/06/2024 14:20

She lying full stop. The app is just to view traceable Apple devices that’s shared. The actual tracking of the device happens with or without the app.

Child would be a it’s on or the phones gone. If she’s an adult DD then you’ve got no say however.

Please can someone tell me if my dd is lying? iPhone question

Comefromaway · 25/06/2024 14:13

There is a massive difference between an adult parent/guardian of a minor child and a peer boyfriend.

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 13:45

@JustRollWithIt "At the end of the day, if mum would prefer their 15yr old daughter's location was on, hopefully the daughter would be mature enough to respect their mum's wishes, and understand their feelings on their reasons why. "

What if her boyfriend used the same reasons?

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 13:33

My children had a thing called HMP- which stood for Humouring Mum's Paranoia. Which meant that they very kindly let me know where they were reasonably frequently. And here were a couple of circumstances where we mutually agreed to put a tracker on. And took it off again the moment that particular circumstance changed. I think tracking young people routinely is appalling.

JustRollWithIt · 25/06/2024 13:15

At the end of the day, if mum would prefer their 15yr old daughter's location was on, hopefully the daughter would be mature enough to respect their mum's wishes, and understand their feelings on their reasons why. Op, I hope you got the answer to your initial question regarding storage, and that your daughter understands x

indianwoman · 25/06/2024 13:14

Do you have to have data on for it to work though? Her phone, I mean

HappiestSleeping · 25/06/2024 13:05

greencartbluecart · 25/06/2024 13:03

Yes it really is a question

Precisely how is being tracked safer / can you provide evidence

People who are tracked are x% less likely to .....

People who are tracked are x% less likely to ...

take their phone with them.
keep their phone switched on.
have a healthy, trusting relationship with their parents.

greencartbluecart · 25/06/2024 13:05

I get that op is worried - it's your child smd the world is terrible

But you have to think logically / is this really helping her safety or just making me feel better

And if the later - us it worth fighting over

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 13:04

@Mumtoson123 "Is this really a question?"

Yep. Really a question. Is that really an answer?

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 13:03

Sorry-my last message was meant for @Conniebygaslight

greencartbluecart · 25/06/2024 13:03

Yes it really is a question

Precisely how is being tracked safer / can you provide evidence

People who are tracked are x% less likely to .....

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 13:01

@Lilacapples The OP's dd is neither a 67 year old man with a heart condition overexerting himself in 30 degree heat or a young man in complicated circumstances in rough unknown terrain. I have never heard of a young person going for a run near her home having an accident that meant she could not call for help. In the vanishingly unlikely event of her being abducted, a phone will be of no help at all.

HappiestSleeping · 25/06/2024 13:01

Conniebygaslight · 25/06/2024 12:59

True, but you understand my point, I think

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I do indeed. In the case of the OP though, this sounds more like a trust issue. If that is the case, it takes about 5 minutes to spoof your GPS to make you look like you are somewhere else, at which point the tracker is useless anyway.

Mumtoson123 · 25/06/2024 12:59

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 12:44

Please will someone explain why she will be safer if she is tracked?

Is this really a question?

Conniebygaslight · 25/06/2024 12:59

HappiestSleeping · 25/06/2024 12:57

Michael Mosely wouldn't as he didn't take his phone with him.

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True, but you understand my point, I think