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Anyone ever re registered a birth, can you help me with this please? Very anxious

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wprriep · 24/06/2024 22:31

Next month I have an appointment to re register my daughter’s birth to add her dad to the certificate. He left me before birth and left the country so was unable to be added the first time (he specifically said he didn’t want to be on it). I am worrying a lot about whether they will ask the reason for the re registration/why he wasn’t on it the first time? I have huge trauma from what happened and whilst I am ok now (and happy for him to be on it) I really don’t want to have to re live it and explain the circumstances back then. Does anyone know if they will ask this?

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ASandwichNamedKevin · 24/06/2024 22:56

Too right he should be ashamed but seriously he can make your life SO difficult if you put him on the birth certificate. In many cases with a man like this it’s regretted for many years by the mother (professional and personal life experience).

Sapphire387 · 24/06/2024 22:55

Why the hell are you adding him? He doesn't sound like much of a dad.

wprriep · 24/06/2024 22:43

@hg167 ex is saying he wants to say he doesn’t want to answer if they ask. He is ashamed and doesn’t want it recorded and I just feel stressed about having to re live it. I hope it’s just a formal admin thing.

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Youdontevengohere · 24/06/2024 22:43

Is this the same guy who didn’t turn up for an appointment to have him put on it a week or so ago?

hg167 · 24/06/2024 22:40

I’m not sure if they will ask, however if they do just explain that he wasn’t in the country at the time and has only just become available to be added on - try not to stress and don’t worry, you shouldn’t need to explain any more than that if they do ask!

HcbSS · 24/06/2024 22:39

It might not be your question but it will certainly be many other people’s.
Don’t be daft OP… you have a child to think about.

wprriep · 24/06/2024 22:37

@thisisasurvivor that wasn’t my question. I just want to know if they will ask.

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thisisasurvivor · 24/06/2024 22:36

Do not put him on it

Are you serious