Hi all. I apologise if this is long.
I'm beginning to resent my wife. We have 2 adult children together and have been married 40+ years, I love her dearly but her behaviour is beginning to make me resent her. I don't know if I'm in the wrong for this but I just don't know what to do.
Our son is almost 40, he is a drug addict and a thief. He will take any drugs, prescription or illegal that he can get his hands on and I'm fairly certain he is taking crack and/or heroin as he is currently on a methadone programme that obviously isn't working. For a while now he has been stealing from us, he steals the last of the food in the house, money and bank cards out my wallet and my wife's purse, possessions that have been left from my parents when they died, laptops, etc. I've tried to stop him entering the home, keep the doors locked, windows but he sits and knocks or calls for hours crying to be let in, then he will get angry and attempt to break in. At times he has assaulted me too.
My wife will only report him to the police is I force her to but even then she tells them she just wants it logged rather than anything done about it, so it continues. She let's him in the house when I'm asleep and sits there mute whilst he steals more of my possessions. She is always saying he is your son, he's vulnerable, he needs us, etc. I resent her for pandering after him when he's destroying out family, but on the other hand she also gets so stressed at his behaviour that it's making her ill.
I don't know what to do anymore.