To be annoyed DH’s niece is now coming on holiday with us

No way should a teenage boy have to share with his grandmother, that is definitely not fair. If anyone shares a room with her it should be the niece. They are both women and both adults.

As teens/young adults my younger brother and I stayed with our nan for holidays. When we were young we shared the spare room, when we got older I went in with my Nan and slept on a camp bed while he got the spare. It never even occurred to me to moan about it as it was clearly the most sensible option!

This.

Very unfair to expect 14 year old and Gran to share.

Can you book somewhere else? Cancel?

Can you cancel your flights? You’re only goimg so MiL has company; she has DN’s company so you can use the time to do something else/ do elsewhere

Let us know what happens!

Book somewhere nearby so you can use your flights.. Just say ds isn't sharing with mil.. Please please stick up for your ds...imagjne his mates find out!! Very inappropriate..

Niece has to share with grandma obviously. A teenage boy cannot share with his GM. There would be a huge outcry if a teenage girl was expected to share a room with her GF.

A 14 year old boy can't share a room with his grandmother! Bloody hell, what are they thinking?

In the week your family is there, the 24 year old niece will need to share with her grandma, leaving you and DH with your 3yo and the 14yo boy in a room to himself.

I can see how your MIL thought "another of my grandchildren to join us" was a lovely thing, but it isn't very fair on you as a family.

@Mossyroller so for the last 4 years you and your hubby have been using your family holiday time to spend it with her to stop her feeling lonely??? what have the parents of the neice been doing during all those years???

I'd find my own accommodation and leave Granny and Niece to all but perhaps one nice day out where you make sure you don't foot the bill- it will probably work out better for all of you anyway x

If you only go so she isn't there alone, and now her other grandchild will be there for the whole fortnight, surely you're off the hook and can actually do something you want with your time and your money.

See if you can change your flights and book accommodation elsewhere and go and have fun.

Book your own house.

who said DS14 is sharing with grandma? Just say no.

Book your own accommodation and do your own thing. Niece can entertain granny - and you can take granny (but not niece unless she pays her own way) out for a day or two

I'd be cross at the expectation that DS share with his gran at 14 years old. If I could I'd either look at alternative accommodation or sack it off entirely. The more sensible and appropriate alternative would be niece sharing surely? The niece being there wouldn't bother me really beyond the issue it has caused with the rooms. If she's awkward you just get on with the holiday with your kids and DH.

So 3 rooms? How old is your other child and where are they sleeping? Surely its
Room 1- You and DH
Room 2- Your 2 children incl 14yr old son (unless other child is a newborn?)
Room 3- MIL

Niece sharing with MIL is the obvious option? Is it a double bed or singles? What exactly did your DH say to his mother about all this?

If you actually go, and I'd be pushing for my OWN family holiday elsewhere, I'd do family days out with yourselves. MIL and niece can spend quality time together whilst you explore the local area and do things you wouldn't normally take MIL along to.

Niece fine, it is what it is. Maybe you’ll end up getting along! Share nope. Is there a living room? Can he sleep in there or something? Tent on the lawn? Or yeah just don’t go if you hate the idea.

I can't tell from this if your MIL ran the idea past your husband and he said fine, including (absurdly) with the change in sleeping arrangements, or if he was presented with a fait accompli and wants to make the best of it/not rock the boat.
Either way, once he had the new info he should have checked with you before giving your MIL the impression that things would proceed as planned. If you're all still going, he needs to go back to his mother and figure out a solution about the beds/rooms.

It's reasonable to cancel, and should be no issue for your MIL as she won't be alone - but if you still want a family holiday it will be more expensive to find accommodations now than it would have been months ago. Or let your H go with the children and share a bedroom with your 14 yo, and you stay home and get a bit of a break that way.

As pretty much every other poster has said, totally inappropriate for a teenage boy to share with a woman especially an elderly one. I'd be absolutely putting my foot down about that. Other than that, although it's annoying that she's been added late on, she's family and MIL wants her there, so YABU for that. Maybe rethink next year?

Assuming DMIL is paying for the accommodation (is she?) then yabu though clearly MiL should have discussed this with you first

however massively unreasonable to ask your ds to share with grandma. Surely grandma should share with the niece!

I’d be putting my foot down on that point or perhaps booking entirely separate accomodation

I wouldn’t be expecting my 14 year old DS to share a room with his grandmother. Unless he had a room to himself I wouldn’t be going. If you’ve already planned trips etc for MIL that’s really unfair on you if you’re expected to have to replan to accommodate your niece. Surely she could have come for the second week?

so apparently now DS14, is going to share a room with grandma (82)

Highly inappropriate for both of them as your DS will have reached puberty. (Your DH will be bothered when you point out your DS has reached puberty and everything that comes with a boy reaching it.)

Either the niece and grandma share, or your family has to book their own accommodation.

Just thought actually it may be cheaper and easier to book a single room for the niece elsewhere like 10+ miles away....

DGM should be sharing a room with DN not DS. Speak up now.

For fuck's sake, a 14 year old boy should not be forced to share a room with his grandmother. That is completely inappropriate and unreasonable. What on earth does is your husband thinking?

Sounds like my idea of a nightmare.

The 14 year old having to share a room with grandma? That’s really not fair on him. Mine would have flatly refused - quite rightly.

How old are your other DCs?

Surely your adult niece sharing with her grandmother is more appropriate than a teenage boy?

Otherwise, tbh, I think I'd just develop an acute case of ebola, the whole thing sounds insufferable.