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Leaving 17 year old home alone for a week

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Pinknelly1982 · 24/06/2024 17:24

I don’t want to but she refuses point blank to come with us on holiday. She moaned we were not going on holidays and now we are. She doesn’t want to come - she wants to stay on her own at home.

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CloudywMeatballs · 24/06/2024 18:36

She sounds like a brat, so because of that I wouldn't allow her to stay home alone.

Skyrainlight · 24/06/2024 18:33

Depending on your daughter she should throw a party and trash your house.

Sgtmajormummy · 24/06/2024 17:39

We did it last summer when we went to the other house to do some boring and dirty jobs, so certainly not a holiday. DD was 17.

The only condition was to have max 2 friends at a time.
I got a Hello Fresh box for her to try some new recipes and left her with €50 and an emergency rechargeable debit card.
She had a great time and wants to do it again this year.
It’s good training for when they leave home.

AmelieTaylor · 24/06/2024 17:38

I left home at 17 too, but I think we were a FAR more able generation.

I agree with @Createausername1970 , perfectly old enough to spend the week alone, but depends very much on the 17 year old if I'd trust them in the house alone!!

I wouldn't be happy she was moaning about 'no holiday' & now there is one she doesn't want to go! But did you include her in deciding on the location & type of holiday? Offer yo let her invite a friend/boyfriend?

maw1681 · 24/06/2024 17:36

Is she trustworthy? If yes then leave her at home, make sure she has food and some spending money and some emergency numbers just in case. She'll be fine

Ilovegoldies · 24/06/2024 17:35

I was left for a month at 17. I didn't have parties though. Is your daughter sensible? I'd get a Ring doorbell and go.

Ladyj84 · 24/06/2024 17:33

Me and my siblings happily stayed home from 16, we knew what was expected and happily cooked and cleaned

Mrsjayy · 24/06/2024 17:33

My eldest stopped coming at 17 she managed fine leave her food In the freezer If you are concerned tell a neighbour or friend she's at home and just go.

MrsWimpy · 24/06/2024 17:33

Mine is currently at home alone. I'm on holiday!

HcbSS · 24/06/2024 17:33

It’s about maturity and disposition, not age.
I would have been fine at 14. My cousin would have trashed the place at 19.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 24/06/2024 17:33

I left my ds at 17 for a week. I felt guilty and we were very pleased to see each other when I cane home - but he was fine.

StrongandNorthern · 24/06/2024 17:32

I left home at seventeen too.

Pootle23 · 24/06/2024 17:31

Depends if you trust your 17 year old or not. I was left for a week at a time at 16, but this was before social media and I wasn’t a brat and cook cook and care for myself.

Arlott · 24/06/2024 17:30

Ha. Yes, that’s true

Createausername1970 · 24/06/2024 17:29

I would say old enough to be left, depending upon the maturity of the 17 year old.

But whether I would WANT to leave a 17 year old on their own in my beloved house and happy that I would come back to find it as I left it, is a whole other kettle of fish.

Arlott · 24/06/2024 17:26

She could move out at that age! I left home at 17. What are your concerns?