I used to be attractive, how has this happened?

Colour Wow Dreamcoat is amazing, one of the few beauty items I dread running out of. Yes it is pricey, but it actually does what it says. It hasn't totally tamed my frizz but the difference it makes is worth the cash.

Who’d be a woman eh? Must be so nice to be a man and not have to go through pregnancy and birth and post partum and have your body ravaged

Same.

For me the weight gain is a big part of it, but not all.

My posture is now awful and I just look DRAINED all the time.

I'm 40. Kids are all under 8. They generally sleep ok now, so I, in turn, can get a reasonable amount of sleep now after a hellish few years of no sleep. But the sheer EXHAUSTION of dealing with them every day has just worn me down.

My reflexes are much slower. I hate the sound of my own voice because I'm constantly shouting out warnings, or berating them, or repeating myself again and and again to be heard, so my voice has no joy or vigour in it anymore. I just sound impatient and fed up and like I can't be arsed. Because I can't 🤷‍♀️

Just constantly feel so weighed down by everything, and my body language screams that out 24/7.

Also the shit hair that I have no time to dye or style. Shit clothes that don't suit me and don't fit properly. Tired, grey skin getting wrinkles. But mostly I'd say it's the weight gain and bad posture.

Solidarity.

Your post made me feel quite emotional @SpidersAreShitheads

You're a fantastic writer

I look ridiculous if it’s any consolation and have a young child too. We’ll look better one day! Xx

Another beautiful post, @Meetingofminds

This just came up on another thread and I think you need to wait a few years to answer this one! The topic was how being thin past a certain age is incredibly aging. I have several friends in their forties who have recently lost weight. I’m trying to be positive and encouraging ( one in particular lost it for health reasons, the others essentially for appearances/ dress size) but inside I’m thinking how absolute aged they look, really haggard and drawn

Beautiful post, @SpidersAreShitheads

I’m 41, 30 weeks pregnant with a still breastfeeding 2.5yr old who has slept through the night maybe 5 times ever. This thread has made me feel a lot better as I feel I look dismal compared to my old self and also mums around me who seem to be nailing more of it more quickly than me

So I am sole keeper of the solution to this misery. It’s based on my French ancestors and MIL (serious about ‘’maintenance’ for darling husband)

Armed with daily yoga and Pilates, multivitamin infusions, broccoli smoothies and an exercises designed to improve my flexibility. Weekly pregnancy massages after 14 weeks and facials to invigorate my skin. Vitamin C infusion and harnessed into a tummy support on day 3 for 13 weeks (bloody sore) with pelvic floor exercises every hour - on the hour and broth.

I can certify it did absolutely nothing!!!!

My hair has dried out and has odd waves now. My skin ditto. I have lost weight but it only serves to make me look more tired. I
have a theory that even when our babies are asleep we are programmed to remain on high alert which means we never sleep deeply. We can never switch off or fully relax. They are our young and we are biologically programmed to protect them at all costs. That is what can’t and shouldn’t be erased. We gain wisdom, insight and inner beauty with motherhood - a deep connection with others that follow our journey, so now my tummy is loose, my scars show and my heart is heavy sometimes from the sheer weight of responsibility that multiplys with each new life.

A liberation occurs at some point. The confines of traditional beauty fall away and acceptance takes its place. It’s so graceful to not care any longer. To feel free. I have lost so many feathers but look after the ones that remain.

A helpful colleague told me about spray hair coulour for my greys, like Dry Shampoo, game changers!

@Unattractice It's the same with all animals, I think...

My friend has several Whippets.. the oldest one, over 15 yrs, and the youngest, under a year. {Youngest and oldest together}

Oh god right 😨

Maybe put some back on 😄

I went to the doctor and demanded a blood test to show that I must be anaemic. I am not 😭🤣

I had mine at 25 and 35. I still looked very young till I had my youngest then I looked haggard and dead till about 38/39 (she was a very bad sleeper. Mid 40s now and I look better than I did in my late 30s.

Yet my Brother's GF {about 50} is a Pilates teacher, has had several children, her body and face are fabulous!

She's really good looking - earns well, she's a good advertisement for what she does.

How some women escape stretch marks is also down to luck {genes}.

No that’s if you do it really fast generally. In before and afters, 99% of the time people look better after. I was always told that being chubby helped you look young but really once you’re out of your 20s it’s soooo ageing. (I am fat and past 30)

I used to look young for my age but someone the other day thought my 18yr daughter was my grand-daughter!
Hell, I don't care anymore lol, hair short and grey, loads of wrinkles, saggy neck -awesome survivor's battle scars they are indeed!

Eww!

After a terrible family falling-out four years ago, I began to look like the Shroud of Turin. On the upside though, it gave me enough of a fright to cut right back on sugar, and then to start eating 10 portions of fresh fruit & veg a day. It's bit of an effort and I miss cheesecake sooo much, but it's better than having a ghoul stare back at me in the mirror.

Overall the effect has been great. The most unexpected results, perhaps, have been a reversal of the sunken-eyes thing (my eyes are strangely huge now, like when I was in my teens), and seeming self-repair of much sun-damage. Well worth a try if you can make time to do it, and much cheaper than treatments, products etc.

Yeah I blamed the hairdressers and dentists at first too. 😂

I look way better now than what i did before i had my 2.
They are 21&19 years old im 38 this year and i look great (not in the monings).
I sometimes get asked when are you gonna start a family i repy with oh they're all grown up now.
I think for me it was staying single no male drama i believe men can age us more than kids.

That’s what Botox and fillers are for 😂

Absolute nonsense. Losing weight will often cause saggy skin and hollow cheeks.