I used to be attractive, how has this happened?

Did you do anything special to achieve this? Please tell us!

Guys can't physically carry kids so we don't experience the trauma of pregnancy and childbirth but if you're a single dad with a very young baby and you're trying to do it all, yeah, that ages you prematurely too.

So is isn't just the pregnancy, it is all this crap you have to deal with day after day, month after month, year after year and when you look at all those on TV who look fabulous, perhaps better to look at their nannies, cooks, chauffeurs, etc., who allowed them to do the same fuck all they did before the kid was born.

Heck, some of them can't even be bothered to get pregnant and outsource that to a slave.

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Yes, I have 3 children, 5, 2.5 & 16m and I feel and look haggard. I was looking back at photos of when I was about 12 weeks pregnant with my first and the difference is insane. I look like I’ve aged 25 years in 5. Permanent sleep deprivation, stress and no down time - pretty sure those are the causes! Not sure there’s a solution but you’re not alone

I am crying reading this post and the replies. I'm so relieved to read that I'm not alone. And hopeful that I could feel slightly more myself again one day.
I'm 37 and have a 2 and a 5 yo. I'm convinced I'm starting my menopause early from stress and exhaustion.

I have recently had the exact same thoughts - I used to be attractive! Now my hair is a frizzy, flyaway mess, my boobs are baggy flaps (does anyone have stretched out nipples?! I think I'm the only person who seems to have this problem?), I've had extreme eczema, huge under eye bags... My body is achy and stiff..I feel how I expected to feel when I was 50, not 37 😔

Well I was mind blowingly gorgeous when I was younger and now I'm mind blowingly ugly and I haven't a clue what happened! Let me know if you find the cause😂

Some of us have ALWAYS had a face like a bag of spanners. It's not the end of the world, you'll get used to it.

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I know plenty of people that have had kids, they all look worse for wear afterwards.

True, but most of those can still be reversed, you can't unfuck your hormones after having kids, that's forever. And let's be honest, all kids are not cute and many are quite horrible.

Well let’s be honest,a lot of women ruin their bodies with fat, smoking, alcohol, and sun without the cuteness of having a child to make up for it.

@NotSoHotMess24 perhaps but I've had 2 miscarriages at in that time too (one at 20 weeks) and that hasn't affected how I look. I don't spend a lot of time on my appearance but do make sure my hair is brushed and I have make up on. I moisturise and take an interest in clothes but great doesn't take long

I definitely think timing has something to do with it - having two littlies at the same time most definitely leaves less time for self care than with one! And being pregnant whilst caring for a 2yo there was barely time to shower 😬 But of course that was a choice (and not one I regret despite the toll).

Congratulations on your pregnancy btw.

Possibly but you probably don’t hear much from the people that don’t feel anything has changed.

You seem to be the outlier. Most of the posts I see on here only make me happier a**bout my choice, that's for sure.

Can't say I've ever felt much different after having children. I have a 4 year old and I'm pregnant with my second at 39. I pour a bit of weight on but that was due to eating too much. I lost most of it before this pregnancy. I might be lucky but not everyone goes downhill after children. Skin and hair still decent. Who knows if there is a tipping point at mid 40s though.

Reading all of these comments makes me so happy to be child free!

This is a great post to keep in mind.

I remember I felt vile and disgusting when I had newborn photos taken with my first. I considered not being in them at all.

That baby is six now and I love those pictures of myself. I didn't look half as bad as I thought, and I was glowing with love for my new baby.

All of this to say- make sure you are in the photos, even when you feel horrible.

I dnt feel vaguely like myself anymore, I'm 40,and have a 7month old, I adore being a mum, but can't bare to look at my self anymore

OP specifically talks about being attractive to men in her opening post though.

@PepsiMaxPerfect

women wanna look good for themselves not men

Make sure you eat well, drink plenty of water and get enough sleep, condition and mask your hair, and I have been using Elemis superfood to wash my face it gives your skin a nice healthy glow. Picture included.

U NEED to exercise MORE.
The more U exercise, the more UR body HAS to work.
Getting UR blood pumping around UR body.
Providing oxygen to the body, refreshing the areas.
Toning the muscles. Giving U confidence which WILL attract the men.
U WILL feel better about URself - which also helps to attract the men.
It IS a knock on effect. Exercise MORE
Good luck

It’s sooooo shit being a woman and having to go through pregnancy and childbirth etc. if I could be reborn again I’d deffo be a man