Jealous of brother and SIL’s very easy baby

Yes differences in babies. But also differences in parents. Baby might look easy, but it takes a lot of work and tolerance through screaming matches to get to that point too.

sleep is just sleep and really sucks!!!

maybe console yourself with the possibility of yours being a chill teenager?

And I’m glad your in laws aren’t assholes!!

Be careful of instagram families and babies. My 2 children are wondrous and easy to look after. Ask me yesterday and ill tell you how my demon spawn lost the tv for a week. As others have said children at different stages will behave different, give it 20 years and you might be glad you didnt have their issues. Also genders are different as well

I feel sorry for those babies because though I understand anxiety about certain things, it's just mean to keep a little one away from everything. Also, wait til they're a toddler and running amok, I imagine anxiety will shoot through the roof🤣 my username is not ironic btw🤭😆

And some parents of easy babies assume that THEY are the ones who made them easy!

I have an antenatal friend who is actually on the anxious side with her daughter - won't take her perfectly normal places because it isn't "safe" etc - and her daughter is the one that has slept through from the beginning, naps easily, often and wherever etc. Yet you hear "chill mum, chill baby" all the time on here.

Having had a not-easy baby, it's that they will very very tearful at regular intervals throughout a half day out, hate having their routine disrupted, refuse to nap, and be really unhappy/noisy in social settings where it's less than ideal (i.e., if the sister with an 'easy' baby has booked a nice lunch out). You can't put them down and you can't have a conversation.

Not nice for baby, not nice for mum, and not nice for anyone else trying to enjoy their lunch!

@Korner It’s sheer damn LUCK!
I had an easy baby- so much so that it put me off having another as health visitors used to say “ You won’t be lucky again”..

Son ( now adult) used to sleep through everything, extremely easy going.
It was nothing I did.

He was a bit of a shocker as a teen, ( rude!) but is now lovely again.

It’s like Puppies
My dog is easy going, as is her brother, but the others are much more high maintenance- It’s genes.
👍

Op I had one of these babies, then my second came and he was (is still) an absolute fucking horror

don’t worry. They will
have a second child and they will be demons as the first child gave them false impressions 😝

I don't really understand (probably because I had two easy babies) what you mean by your baby wouldn't make it through a half day out. What would happen? Is it that bad if they cry for a bit?

I'm not being facetious, I just took a v laid back attitude and didn't have a routine for either of mine until they were old enough to need one - and then only at night time.

This is such a true saying 🤣

I had a difficult baby who turned into an easy toddler and an easy baby who turned into a difficult toddler. Her time is probably coming.

Ahhh, with you there on the jealousy.

From about 8 weeks old, my son was the one antenatal baby that wanted to STAND AT ALL TIMES during cafe visits. This progressed to wriggling off my lap by 12 weeks whilst all the other babies were still sitting nicely for mum.

He's eight months now, the first to crawl and stand, and whilst he's delightful more interesting by far than the one who slept through from the start, I do feel wistful for the fact I've spent my entire mat leave pandering to this constantly on-the-go baby.

My ds was a dream like your nephew. I thought I was an amazing parent and knew it all! Then dd was born. Literally hardly slept for 3 years 😭
Fast forward ds was a difficult child at school, as a teen just generally hard work.
Dd is an angel. It will all even out in the end.

Keep going, the days are long but the years are fast....enjoy it even the shit bits.

My DD was exactly the same as your nephew, such a chilled happy little baby and so easy going. Grandparents and friends loved looking after her because she was easy, slept from four months, toddler stage was fun with the odd meltdown - I absolutely loved her early years and thought we’d cracked this whole parenting milark….. then along came DS who is a chaotic, screaming, sleepless feral child (he gives the best hugs though) who humbled us very quickly 😂.

You’re doing amazing btw!

I remember being very smug when my 2 month old slept about 7 hours straight during the night. Fucking hell. She then had sleep regression and woke up many times throughout the night until she was 3 years old

My 6 year old didn't sleep for near on three years. She screamed 24/7, nothing helped her at all. She's now 6 and is perfect.

My two year old was the perfect baby. He was like your nephew. He's now apparently on a mission to see how many different ways he can hurt himself each day, refuses to eat, is a general nightmare

My first was AWFUL. Screamed constantly couldn’t take him anywhere. A friend of mine had the most chilled baby ever. So
jealous 🙄
fast forward 14 years and my boy is the easiest, kindest most chilled out teenager. He’s a pleasure to spend time with and love him to bits.
my friends boy however is an absolute grade A nightmare who’d she like to throttle every day 😂😂 so hang in there - you may have the last laugh x

I just want to say that I totally empathise. I remember when my little girl was about four months, and my friends (all with babies of a similar age) suggested that we take the babies and all go for a lovely afternoon tea. I genuinely couldn't fathom how the thought of this wasn't insanely stressful to them.

We went for the tea and their babies were good as gold and mine just cried until I took her outside and pushed her in her pram. Every time I tried to sit down she cried again. I found the first six months unbelievably stressful, but all of the commenters on here at correct - this sort of behaviour is so fluid and won't last forever. From the age of 8 months to 2 years she was an absolute DREAM BOAT and I was the envy of all my friends.

We won't talk about what happened once she hit two, I can't laugh about it until I'm out the other side 😂😂

It's the luck of the draw, I wouldn't have said my first born was a difficult baby at the time, but compared to my second he was, she is so easy going, but we did have a regression a few weeks back that was hard, now back to good sleep, it is all just phases, good and bad will come and go, try not to focus on others and comparing too much, they are all different and develop differently.

I understand this OP, I am in a similar position except there is 18 months between my baby and my sister's.

My little girl was SUCH a tough baby, she would never be put down, awake or asleep, and cried constantly for the first few months. She constantly wanted to be fed, and had little patience for anyone except me.

My sister's baby is just a dream, sits happily in a bouncer, will sit on someone else's lap just looking around, falls asleep on his own really easily.

I am so glad we didn't have them closer together as I would have felt so down about it, just like you do. Being through the hardest stage with my little one now has made it more palatable.

Also, my little girl is the sweetest toddler now 😊 These hard times won't last forever x

My toddler DD sounds the same as yours. She was a fussy newborn and hated changes to routine. We also had to maintain a solid feeding and sleep schedule. As a toddler she’s still fussy and can throw herself on the ground in a tantrum or start crying in a very loud voice. I like that she knows what she wants and has a great set of lungs on her. Maybe she’ll be a singer with how much her voice can project!

Sounds like my DS as a baby. He is now a wild, loud, whirlwind of a 3 year old. He’s lovely and a very happy child but is non stop and definitely doesn’t allow me any “me” time during our days together!

I could have written this 😆

My second was a delight at 2 months. Slept only cried when needing something, could be taken along wherever.
Shes 16 months now and much more high maintenance than my eldest ever was!
Its a phase.

It is hard, OP - completely understandable to despair and compare when you are having a tough time. Although try not to - it doesn't help! Please know that things even out, eventually pass and get better.

My DS was not an easygoing baby. We had to stick to a rigid routine and even then things were really tough. The few outings and meetups available / I could bring myself to do (Covid times) I struggled so much, particularly when I saw other mums with their peaceful settled babies. But he was an absolute dream between 15 months and 3 yo (and again less of a dream right now 😅). I also looked like a cavewoman (and still do - things improved so I went and had another!!!)