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AIBU to go to a hen party but not dress up for the theme?

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ncob · 24/06/2024 10:07

It's a theme I own nothing for already and not keen to splurge on fast fashion for an outfit and accessories that I will never use again. Keen to attend the event though and paid for it already. WWYD?

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ColourMeBlue · 24/06/2024 10:19

Ah come on,we need to know the theme😂 We could have some storming ideas of something you could wear 😊

Primefungus · 24/06/2024 10:19

Did you know it had a theme when you agreed to go and pay? If so then it's a bit off to not dress up. If it was added afterwards then I can see why you don't want to, and i wouldn't. Honestly no one looks at photos afterwards anyway do they? Who cares, jt us your presence they should want.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 24/06/2024 10:18

If you've agreed to go to a themed hen do then you need to participate in whatever that theme is

drawnfrommemory · 24/06/2024 10:16

Do a single accessory and a neutral outfit if you don't want to go all out.

SpikeyDee · 24/06/2024 10:15

Unless it’s a ridiculous theme then I think YABU. It’ll look odd with one person not doing it and comes across as a bit mean spirited.

Ponoka7 · 24/06/2024 10:14

You are going to feel out of place. You need to have a go at the theme, or not go.

wickerpram · 24/06/2024 10:14

Shop on Vinted and then sell it on afterwards

YouveGotAFastCar · 24/06/2024 10:14

Use a charity shop or whatever.

You risk a weird atmosphere in the group if you go but don’t comply with the theme, and you may well feel awkward if you’re the only one who doesn’t. It’ll look to other people and in photos as if you weren’t really invited, or didn’t get the memo.

There’s almost always a cheap and easy way to show willing!

If you really don’t want to do that, I’d decline the invite.

LibbsLou · 24/06/2024 10:13

I mean you'll stand out, it's up to you. I wouldnt, I'd get the dress up with everyone else.

DailyMailHater · 24/06/2024 10:11

I have often got things to fit a theme in a charity shop, and once worn if something you won’t wear again then donate back to charity shop they benefit twice then 🙂

EmBear91 · 24/06/2024 10:11

There is always a cheap way of working to a theme. What is it? I would make the effort personally.

CuteCillian · 24/06/2024 10:11

If the theme is a colour, or 'a wacky hat' etc. you will look odd on the photos if you are the only one not joining in. Can find something that gives a nod to the theme. Charity shop?

PickledPurplePickle · 24/06/2024 10:08

I’d go

What is the theme? Can you make something from what you already have?

FrenchandSaunders · 24/06/2024 10:08

What's the theme? Surely there's something cheap you can get online, even if it's only a hat or similar.

Seems a bit mis to not do anything related to it.

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