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AIBU to go to a hen party but not dress up for the theme?

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ncob · 24/06/2024 10:07

It's a theme I own nothing for already and not keen to splurge on fast fashion for an outfit and accessories that I will never use again. Keen to attend the event though and paid for it already. WWYD?

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ncob · 24/06/2024 10:07

It's a theme I own nothing for already and not keen to splurge on fast fashion for an outfit and accessories that I will never use again. Keen to attend the event though and paid for it already. WWYD?

We had a cowboy theme for my son's end of year 6 party. I can send you a hat and jewellery and necker in the post OP if that helps.

notacooldad · 24/06/2024 11:44

Honestly no one looks at photos afterwards anyway do they? If course they do, especially if they are on FB or insta.
Who cares, jt us your presence they should want
The op may feel really awkward if everyone else has made an effort but she hasn't. I learned my lesson by not dressing up for the Rocky horror and my 11 mates did. I felt people thought i was trying to be too cool yo join in. Maybe they didn't but it was an uncomfortable night!

Misthios · 24/06/2024 11:42

Please do not buy shit from Temu, whatever the occasion. Unless you want your hen do with a side helping of slavery and data hacking.

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ncob · 24/06/2024 11:42

trying to frantically find anything that I could wear again from the suggestions people have given like a denim dress etc ! (before giving up and buying cheap tat destined for the charity shops..)

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CelesteCunningham · 24/06/2024 11:41

ncob · 24/06/2024 11:34

Any suggestions for shoes that are not boots?

I'll need to buy everything online on a next day delivery basis!

Seriously, just the hat and maybe a neckerchief with whatever you were going to wear already. Then you can ditch the accessories at the table early on and feel good in whatever you're wearing.

Greenlittecat · 24/06/2024 11:39

Just wear your own shoes, no one will mind ❤️

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ncob · 24/06/2024 11:34

Any suggestions for shoes that are not boots?

I'll need to buy everything online on a next day delivery basis!

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NeedToChangeName · 24/06/2024 11:33

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@ThisNaiceLemonSloth throwing clothes away after a month is EXACTLY exactly what's wrong with fast fashion. It's terrible for the environment to add to landfill like that

It's up to you if you want to do it, but please don't kid yourself or tell others that it's not a problem

PiggieWig · 24/06/2024 11:32

Oh this theme is easy peasy! Check out Vinted, then donate to chazzer afterwards.

Something denim - jeans/skirt/dress
Checked shirt
Stetson
Bought or home made sherif badge
If you want to be really fun, see if you can find a hobby horse

Livelaughlurgy · 24/06/2024 11:32

Look up Beth Dutton, but I'd echo jeans, nice top, make your own sherif badge and a neckerchief. Low effort.

Similarly tea dress with ankle boots could pass.

CheeseSandwichRiskAssessment · 24/06/2024 11:30

If you don't want to even buy a hat put your hair in bunches and wear a neckerchief, jeans and a shirt.

I wouldn't be thrilled with the theme either but oh well. You could carry a few tins of baked beans because they ate those on the trail lol.

NeedToChangeName · 24/06/2024 11:30

This is a very simple theme and easy to join in

Jeans

Borrow a checked shirt

Sheriff badge for £1 (donate to charity afterwards) https://www.temu.com/ul/kuiper/un9.html?subj=coupon-un&_bg_fs=1&_p_jump_id=895&_x_vst_scene=adg&goods_id=601099532035705&sku_id=17592282844666&adg_ctx=a-2c05b78f~c-db8e7f18~f-6576fe8a&_x_ads_sub_channel=shopping&_p_rfs=1&_x_ns_prz_type=-1&_x_ns_sku_id=17592282844666&mrk_rec=1&_x_ads_channel=google&_x_gmc_account=710731536&_x_login_type=Google&_x_ads_account=6950480996&_x_ads_set=21176947627&_x_ads_id=160513836203&_x_ads_creative_id=696178442086&_x_ns_source=g&_x_ns_gclid=Cj0KCQjwsuSzBhCLARIsAIcdLm5C8HXZqgZ0wN4BywPNaDwf0ACDNk4zeyMCLqUTdAk8UobCtuD6PKYaAkNVEALw_wcB&_x_ns_placement=&_x_ns_match_type=&_x_ns_ad_position=&_x_ns_product_id=710731536-17592282844666&_x_ns_target=&_x_ns_devicemodel=&_x_ns_wbraid=Cj4KCAjwj9-zBhB1Ei4AyC2wlLUngE9yXOotjLozThJYMYGo_buglW-fzx8EwmArxJ80G5LFp1SIJs1kGgLAcQ&_x_ns_gbraid=0AAAAAo4mICGBufxyjK9fmh3DtsDQMdjvZ&_x_ns_targetid=pla-2311923496277&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwsuSzBhCLARIsAIcdLm5C8HXZqgZ0wN4BywPNaDwf0ACDNk4zeyMCLqUTdAk8UobCtuD6PKYaAkNVEALw_wcB

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ncob · 24/06/2024 11:30

Thanks for the suggestions all! Maybe I'm just useless at fancy dress.
Live in a small town and already raided local charity shops- so needs to be bought online. Any suggestions for "glamorous" cowgirl options which I think is more the style?

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SausageRoll2020 · 24/06/2024 11:27

That's a really easy theme (it's naff, but it's really easy)

Denim jeans/shorts/skirt
Checked shirt
Optional neckerchief
Cheap hat

Or a denim dress with a neckerchief would work too.

You could probably get everything needed from a charity shop for £10-20 if on a budget

Janiie · 24/06/2024 11:26

Cowgirl! Must be the easiest thing ever. Denim shorts which you must own, tied shirt and cowboy hat.

Thought you were going to say something complicated like ABBA tributes with all the platforms, wigs and satin flares.

SatinHeart · 24/06/2024 11:25

I'd try eBay/Vinted - normally a lot of barely worn fancy dress type stuff around and that way you aren't supporting fast fashion. As pp said you might be able to sell it afterwards as well.

Personally I wouldn't go without at least making a token gesture at the theme.

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AmiShitsaline · 24/06/2024 11:19

you only need a hat, you can even just wear if for photos

CelesteCunningham · 24/06/2024 11:18

Cowboy hat and whatever you would have worn. You could ask around your friends - someone may well have one in the back of the wardrobe from a hen party themselves.

MindatWork · 24/06/2024 11:16

Id look on Facebook marketplace near you to see what you can find, or vinted?

MorrisZapp · 24/06/2024 11:16

That's the easiest theme in the world. If you don't own jeans and a checked shirt, the chazzer has millions. Cheap hat from any cheap shop or online. Yeehaw!

NewYearNewName2024 · 24/06/2024 11:15

@ncob can you order a sheriff star badge?

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