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AIBU to go to a hen party but not dress up for the theme?

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ncob · 24/06/2024 10:07

It's a theme I own nothing for already and not keen to splurge on fast fashion for an outfit and accessories that I will never use again. Keen to attend the event though and paid for it already. WWYD?

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BrendaSmall · 24/06/2024 14:03

Check shirt, denim shorts as summer and cow girl hat!

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 24/06/2024 14:02

ncob · 24/06/2024 11:30

Thanks for the suggestions all! Maybe I'm just useless at fancy dress.
Live in a small town and already raided local charity shops- so needs to be bought online. Any suggestions for "glamorous" cowgirl options which I think is more the style?

Cowgirl?

jeans, a checkered (or red?) button up. Potentially tied at the mid section.

a hat would be neat.

don’t bother with boots. If you wear wide legged jeans, they won’t even be visible…

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Verite1 · 24/06/2024 13:55

I would just wear anything denim (jeans, shorts, skirt, dress - even a jacket) and a stetson and you are sorted!

If you want something nice that you would wear again, have a look at denim dresses from sosander. They sell at M and S and (I think Next) as well which both do next day delivery. Loads of styles.

Findingmypurposeinlife · 24/06/2024 13:47

Love these as 'cowgirl jeans' lol. Alternatively there are the tassle ones 😆 (Can I come?)

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AffableApple · 24/06/2024 13:43

GogAndMagog · 24/06/2024 13:41

Dress in black and cut out white shapes to sew on- you are a cow - girl !

Or just this!

AffableApple · 24/06/2024 13:42

If you can get a hat, you're laughing. Top half most important so you look like you're willing in the photos. Do you have a local Facebook page you can ask for a particularly large/small cowboy style hat on (you said you were an unusual size?)? And/or anything with a cow hide type print? Or denim, or a frilly shirt? It's about nodding towards it rather than looking authentic.

GogAndMagog · 24/06/2024 13:41

Dress in black and cut out white shapes to sew on- you are a cow - girl !

Findingmypurposeinlife · 24/06/2024 13:34

Hats etc.

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Findingmypurposeinlife · 24/06/2024 13:34

Some inexpensive suggestions (This is fun!)

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RampantIvy · 24/06/2024 13:31

Peonies12 · 24/06/2024 12:59

If you share the theme perhaps people can help with ideas, you can borrow something or look on Vinted. I personally think if you’re choosing to attend an event like a hen, you have to make some effort

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ShinyPebble32 · 24/06/2024 13:28

Are you in a WhatsApp group for it? Can’t you just ask the others if they have something you can borrow - or ask other friends and family?

I totally understand not wanting to get a single use fast fashion item, but it’s much nicer to participate in these things than not. I’m sure there’s something you can repurpose creatively!

I would get a couple of fancy dress items if I couldn’t find or borrow anything, but then they would get added to my DC’s fancy dress box, so would be reused plenty of times. I wouldn’t really want to look like ‘that person’ who thinks they’re above participating in an idea the others have had.

ThatsAFineLookingHighHorse · 24/06/2024 13:27

Just wear jeans, a white tshirt and a bandana round your neck.

TheKingCobraIsNotStrictlySpeakingACobra · 24/06/2024 13:27

I'd 100% just buy a cowbody hat online and wear what you want with it. Bedazzle it if you have to.

Vinted might be a good option for clothing too

chaosmaker · 24/06/2024 13:24

Could you hire fancy dress?

pinkyspromises · 24/06/2024 13:18

Of sll the shitty themes, this is actually quite easy

Blondiebeachbabe · 24/06/2024 13:18

My DD's hen do was cowboy theme. She purchased a lot 2nd hand and everything afterwards was sold on Vinted. Have you tried there? Also Shein and Temu have cowboy earrings.

Workawayxx · 24/06/2024 13:17

If you wear sun hats you could get a Stetson style one if you’d wear it again. Something like this: link. With whatever denim you have eg jeans.

or just look on Vinted. I’d just go with one “cowgirl” piece (boots, hat or checked shirt for example) and pair with any basics you already have - jeans, white t-shirt etc.

Gold Metallic Natural Cowboy Hat | Oliver Bonas

Woven cowboy hat with a golden metallic half and twisted twine with golden spacers.

https://www.oliverbonas.com/accessories/gold-metallic-natural-cowboy-hat-362121?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Google%20Shopping%20UK&utm_term=1745733&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwsuSzBhCLARIsAIcdLm4JwInYNoDJFToPqIOnvCZvH6Xc7a2HXXwrAeXAEmC6nxaHycUkR0waAllrEALw_wcB

FlippityFloppityFlump · 24/06/2024 13:15

If you haven't got denim shorts and a checked shirt then could go sheriff style and wear black skinny jeans, black shirt (and waistcoat if poss), make a black necker out of some fabric. Then make or buy a sheriff's badge.

Go on FB market place or your local FB pages and ask if anyone has a cowboy hat (preferably black)

Mintchocco · 24/06/2024 13:13

brides name doesn't begin with a H by any chance 🤔

Scully01 · 24/06/2024 13:06

I've done this, the theme was burlesque and I thought I'm not going out in underwear, so I just wore a vintage style dress instead. I hate themes 😂 I think if you're in a good mood and in the party spirit then it doesn't matter what you're wearing.

AhBiscuits · 24/06/2024 13:02

Just wear jeans, a blouse your already own and buy a red bandana to wear round your neck done.

Christine1998 · 24/06/2024 13:02

I’d go for a denim dress as has been suggested or a denim skirt, white Broderie anglaise top (i’ve just bought a shirt from new look and a top from next) you can wear all these again, if you don’t want to buy cowboy boots, have you got any tan boots? I’d agree with vinted if you have time.

Universalrehearsal · 24/06/2024 13:00

I'd wear jeans, any old shoes, a big checked shirt from the men's section of the charity shop, and a cowboy hat from Amazon for £11

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