Anyone never married/long-term single? Can we hear some good points?

I am aware there are a lot of shit men around.

I accept that many of the posters on this thread have been in relationships with shit possibly abusive men.

I have not denyed that. The feelings of those women towards men is perfectly valid.

As I have said before, when somebody is over-eager to say how happy they are, in any set of circumstances, I feel that deep down it might not be true.

I've been single for 5 years, since my divorce. At no time have I missed being in a relationship.

I love the freedom and to be able to live my life as I choose!

You keep telling yourself that love.

Single women live longer than married ones…

Wow. So you're invalidating women who say they have experienced shit men in their lives and enjoying no shit men in their lives?

Are you aware that shit men are reasonably prevalent in society?

Fair point about Bolt ya rocket.
I've never heard it before.
I apologise for my misunderstanding.

It doesn't bother me.

I feel some people (by no means all on this thread) over-do the single is better talk as a mechanism to convince themselves they are happier than they really are.

I don't.
But that's just a moan and different to the fundamental positives of being single. Many posters have very eloquently described the positives of being single without framing it in the context of my ex was shit.

@Hateam and again with minimising what other posters have contributed.
Women stating they’re happier single obviously really does bother you for some reason. Otherwise you would be off on threads where you have a positive contribution to make, rather than trying to delegitimise what people are posting here.

Believe it or not, it really can be a lovely, fulfilling thing to be the mistress of your own destiny, and some women posting on this thread will be comparing that to relationships where they felt compromised or unsupported.
And as an aside, “bolt ya rocket” is not the same as fuck off. I would tell my 6 year old niece to bolt (ya wee rocket), I certainly wouldn’t tell her to fuck off!

Why do you object to women listing things that were shit about their ex's?

I don't. I made a genuine comment. People were rude to me.

There have been many insight comments here that are genuine and heartfelt.

Some just seem to be a list of "things that were shit about my ex."

Why do you want to 'touch a nerve'? You come across as someone wanting to fuck people off, people who are making genuine comments on this thread.

So happy single. Some of us just are much happier when we’re not in a serious relationship.

It was hard when the DC were small and I had to work five jobs to keep the roof over our heads, but that was still a much happier life than living with any man I’ve ever met (and there have been many!!)

Now they have flown the nest and I downsized to a tiny house by the sea. No stress, no ILS drama, no snoring sex pest.

It really is bliss.

Long term single with kids. There is less freedom obviously when they are young but it is still a million times better than being in a relationship and just keeps getting better as they get older. Biggest pluses for me are not having to deal with someone who can't manage money and not having to listen to their (incorrect) advice on everything, particularly things they know nothing about. Nothing with ever convince me to have a romantic relationship again.

Not having to share a toilet. Eww.
All money is just for me.

I've been single for 16 years, never married or had a real adult relationship I suppose. My only boyfriend was my childhood sweetheart and he is the father of my child, I was just 18 when I had DS. I left a few months later as my boyfriend was abusive and I'd had enough of it, having a child made me see sense.

Been on my own ever since, I could have easily found a man in my 20s but I just wasn't bothered, I'm still not now. I'm just so used to being alone (obviously with DS too). I like my own space. I've had casual flings but that's all I want!

I've been single (mostly) since my dc were 5 and 3. Sometimes have been harder than others. Challenges have changed. So have the positives.
But I've always been able to find positives.

I'll add another one OP. You don't have to deal with whiny insecure men who just want your attention and who won't take the hint.

And you called me illiterate.

You don't need one.

Just stop responding to me and I'll go away!

Being single is bliss, absolute bliss. I think the sheer relief of not having to deal with an adult male (apart from ds, who will not be an abusive dick as long as I am alive) is worth the pain of the 30 years that I wasted trying to "fit in" and accommodate complete losers

It means you don't have to deal with men who have the debating skills of especially irritating 15 years olds, either; and who think their opinion is so important they try to hijack a thread thats FA to do with them with their bar-room bore wisdom.

I'm 5 years single now. Honestly I love it. I live with my 6 year old. Our house is pretty and girly. Why would I want a man to leave his pants lying around and the toilet seat up. Ick.

My kingdom for an ignore poster button, MN. And that right soon.

Definitely touched a nerve.

Do one.