Anyone never married/long-term single? Can we hear some good points?

Feels like you're threatened by women talking.

Ah yes, the sulking about sex, and constant criticisms.

I agree with all three points in your OP, plus the fucking housework and mental load - they never pull their weight. They just don't.

To clarify my last post. I don't feel the OP has been unreasonable. I have raised my eyebrow and commented in relation to some of the replies. That is the risk people take if they post in this section surely?

I haven't said you are all wrong. My post at 21;04 clearly states that I feel 'Many posters have eloquently described the positives of being single.'

Surely everybody is free to post their thoughts on any thread.

The poster chose to place this thread in AIBU. She asked the question. Doesn't asking the question Am I being unreasonable come with the risk that people might say Yes?

Considering that these living relationships always involve sex I'm very surprised that nobody on this thread has yet brought up the subject of sex.

I have read a lot of threads on Mum's net about men constantly pestering for sex and women who are slapped and pinched and grabbed by their partners in an affectionate way pretty much all day every day if they're at home together.

I've also experienced it myself. I had a long-term boyfriend who would get quite sulky if I wasn't in the mood. I save a massive amount of time now and lots of awkward moments and upsets and unpleasant episodes by just DIY that takes a couple of minutes with a thing that doesn't argue or sulk or make a mess all over the bed. Or make kinky demands.

But the OP asked for some of the positives of being single. One of those positives is that I'm not with my twat of an ex.

If there was a thread asking long term singletons what they missed about being in a relationship I could list things.

Regardless, I don't understand why you need to come on a thread and tell us all we are wrong/protesting too much. I didn't go on to the thread I saw recently asking "what do you love about your DH" and tell all married women "who are you getting to convince, obviously you aren't really happy"

To further clarify.

I believe that some people ( male and female) will be happier in a healthy relationship rather than being single.

Option 3 works perfectly for me. I have a boyfriend who I mostly see only at the weekends. We have separate houses (obviously), finances and interests. Best of both worlds!

Please note my use of the word 'some'.

Wow, you really do not believe that any woman could possibly be happy without a man.

Yes.

See also my other recent post. I misunderstood the poster's meaning and apologised.

It's not an issue for me.

But that's a positive for you specifically and not a positive about the general state of being single.

Obviously it depends on the person.

I assumed you meant women in general.

I accept that the relationships women on this thread have had has made them miserable.

I apologise for my mistake.

But for me, some of the positives of being single are that I'm not with my shit ex any more.

Why is that such an issue for you?

By us I was referring to us on this thread

I know many people who are in happy marriages.

Stating that 'relationships make us miserable' is clearly and gross, inaccurate over- simplification.

Sorry, the bathroom will be a flapper’s boudoir, not the whole house. That would be a bit much.

@Meadowfinch I’ve just bought a little house and it’s a source of joy everyday. I can poke around and practice frankly rubbish gardening skills. It’s a fixer upper and I’ve got my eye on a super feminine pink and green design that looks like a flapper girls boudoir. I had a whole burrata for dinner last night with tomatoes and basil and olive oil and chillis. If you had told me at 35 I’d still be single at 41 I would have been inconsolable. It was definitely undersold to me!

Why is it so hard for you to accept that relationships make us miserable? And that for us on this thread we have found life much better single? What are you trying to achieve here? If you’re a regular on MN surely you’ve seen constant DH related misery on here! 🤷🏼‍♀️
For me personally I have male friends & I like my male colleagues but get into another relationship? Not a chance.

Apart from the overwhelming sense of relief, I found that being able to decorate my own home again was wonderful. I had never realised creative freedom was so important to me.

No more putting up with his grim, tedious white walls and brown carpet. Gloomy rooms. No sunlight. Depression.

Now I live in a house with a turquoise and grey kitchen, with skylights and sunshine. Music. Bird song. Such a relief. 😊

Are you me??? 😃

Snap on all points. I’ll add that every spell of darkness across my life has been man related. Life is far far more pleasant single! 💖

Yes they do.

Ironically that is exactly what I could have said about some of the posters announcing how happy to be single they are.