To think a 2 year age gap is tough?

It was really hard. But mine are 2 years apart and get on brilliantly. It will get easier.

It's definitely hard, 3 and 1 nearly killed me (sorry OP).

BUT the youngest is nearly 4 now and they play together, eat the same food, have the same bedtime etc. We can go to the same playground with them both, they watch the same stuff on TV.

Plus, we are DONE with nappies, nap schedules, buggies, weaning, sleepless nights (just about ) etc. I think going back to the baby bit with an older child would have killed me. My parents had their second the month I started school - wtf were they thinking?!

It's been so hard but we're reaping the rewards now and I wouldn't have it any other way.

for you in the meantime (I know you're too exhausted for booze!).

It's hard at that age but gets a lot easier. Mine are 6 and 8 now and it's been a walk in the park for a good few years.

I had a 2.5 year gap and put my eldest in nursery til my youngest was 6 months old, I couldn't cope alone

I have 22 months gap, it has its ups and downs. I am 7 nearly 8 years in, life is so much easier with the small gap, had a day out today solo and don't feel I am not entertaining either. I have friends with either bigger gaps or 3 so a bigger gap and days out are hard to please all.

First few years are tough, personally the benefits I have now are worth it.

Keep going, eat chocolate, drink drink of choice, make sure partner helps as much as possible. You will survive.

Yeah I think that is hard. Just remember that you’re doing great and everything is just a phase. Mine are 4 and 11 months and I would say that it is an easier age gap as the elder one entertains herself and is helpful with the younger one. I think as your first gets older they will be a little more independent and may be a little easier - but then something else will come along to change it all again 😂

My gap is 4.5yrs. Was a total dream when they were younger, much MUCH easier than your 2 years!

Now (9yo and 4yo) however… different story. They’re into different things, don’t even want to watch same thing on tv etc.

so although I totally get that it’s tough now, I think it’ll be easier in the future.

It’s really tough, I couldn’t have done it.

Hell no! That’s a small gap. That’s hard. There’s a big difference between 2 and 2.5. 2.5-3 seems to be the most common gap in my circle. 2 is still a baby. That’s hard.

I have a 3 year age gap, they are currently 3 years, and 7 months and it’s TOTAL SHIT.

Its definitely a lot with a small gap like that, you're not being weak at all! My first two are just under 2y apart and it was relentless at first. They're a lot easier now at 3 and 5! I've recently had a third and I can honestly say that it's so much easier with the 3.5yr gap even though there's three of them now. Keep plodding on, it will be better before you know it!

It's a fairly common age gap
It's the gap between my brother and I and nearly everyone I was at school with who had a sibling was the same (to the degree most of our siblings were the same school year)

You're feeling overwhelmed because the terrible 2s are coinciding with a newborn

It's nothing to feel silly about