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Can I foster with a 1 bed flat?

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Iloveicecream1 · 23/06/2024 19:29

I'd love to foster a child. Currently I own a one-bed flat with a large communal garden area.
I live alone and can't afford to just buy a two-bed place/pay a mortgage alone.
There's no guarantee I'll ever meet someone to have my own children with, and fostering has always been something that appeals to me.

I'd sleep in the lounge and give my bedroom to the child.

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MonsteraMama · 23/06/2024 19:53

Fostering is for the child, not you. It's not about what you want, desire or what appeals to you, it's about giving an often troubled, traumatised child whose life has been disrupted and chaotic some stability and security. Their own space and adequate funds are fairly essential. It's not like it's a hobby that's only for rich people, you're talking about a human being's life and wellbeing.

It's a noble thing to want to do, it truly is, if you're doing it for the right reasons and not as a consolation prize because you might not have your own biological children.

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Iloveicecream1 · 23/06/2024 19:51

Yes I'm fully aware it's about the child's needs, hence why I created this post, but thanks for the innovative response 🙄
Thanks to all the other replies.

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Daffyyellow · 23/06/2024 19:50

The only way you’ll know for sure is to approach the bench you would foster for and ask them. Pick up the phone!

saraclara · 23/06/2024 19:47

Iloveicecream1 · 23/06/2024 19:37

I guess so. I just feel like things are reserved to couples/the well-off and it's sad.

It's not about what you want. It's about the child's needs.

dangerrabbit · 23/06/2024 19:47

Do you have a kitchen and a separate lounge?

Alicewinn · 23/06/2024 19:47

Why don’t you post a floor plan and we can see if there are options for you

RatZilla · 23/06/2024 19:44

Iloveicecream1 · 23/06/2024 19:32

Like I said, the child would have their own bedroom.

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It wouldn't count. They wouldn't allow you to sleep on the living room. You need 2 rooms.

Demonhunter · 23/06/2024 19:44

I fostered (and then adopted) and it's a big job and there are a lot of requirements, the application and assessment process is very intense and intrusive (quite rightly) and one if the very first things they wanted to see on my first home visit by the social worker was to see where the child would sleep and if they would have their own room.

MumChp · 23/06/2024 19:42

Iloveicecream1 · 23/06/2024 19:37

I guess so. I just feel like things are reserved to couples/the well-off and it's sad.

Tbh you would in no time be tired of fostering a child not having a bedroom for it. And giving up your own isn't an answer. You need one too.

outside1inside · 23/06/2024 19:42

Any way you could divide the lounge or bedroom to make two bedrooms?

MumChp · 23/06/2024 19:40

You might for very young children (usually around 12-18 months) but older children need a spare bedroom.

Kitkat1523 · 23/06/2024 19:40

Need a spare room to foster

MrsSkylerWhite · 23/06/2024 19:40

Iloveicecream1 · Today 19:37
I guess so. I just feel like things are reserved to couples/the well-off and it's sad”

You're talking about kids who’s lives have already been disrupted and difficult.

Separate bedrooms and adequate funds are pretty basic prerequisites.

TomatoSandwiches · 23/06/2024 19:39

Iloveicecream1 · 23/06/2024 19:37

I guess so. I just feel like things are reserved to couples/the well-off and it's sad.

Children are expensive unfortunately and the bedroom rule is there for a reason.

soupfiend · 23/06/2024 19:38

You might be limited to babies who would naturally share your room, so that would mean ensuring that the child moved on before they have their own room and that you become skilled in adoption transition or transition back to the parents care.

A large number of new borns go with their parents into parent and child placements though so the number of very small babies coming into foster care is small

Proceedings at the moment in some parts of the country are going on for over a year though, sometimes more, so there will be anxiety that the child cannot stay with you when they need their own room, that could be disruptive.

Dependeing on the layout of your flat I dont think it would work for you to have a lounge and sleep in there, unless you have 2 reception rooms.

Original poster
Iloveicecream1 · 23/06/2024 19:37

I guess so. I just feel like things are reserved to couples/the well-off and it's sad.

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theowlwhisperer · 23/06/2024 19:37

You are supposed to have a spare bedroom, sadly you don't. Your current property is not suitable.

Frankly, sleeping in the lounge is not a good option anyway. It's a pain with your own kids, but it can't work with a foster child. You cannot seriously imagine it will work? Where's the poor kid supposed to go when you are in bed if you occupy the living room?

AmelieTaylor · 23/06/2024 19:36

I think it would vary depending on your area.

it's not an idea set up for an older child, but wouldn't really impact a younger one.

Are you hoping for short term fostering or long term?

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Iloveicecream1 · 23/06/2024 19:32

RatZilla · 23/06/2024 19:32

No.

A child has to have their own room.

Like I said, the child would have their own bedroom.

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RatZilla · 23/06/2024 19:32

No.

A child has to have their own room.

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