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To ask if you’ve got 3 kids?

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Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 17:33

How do you live? Ie how big is your home and what’s your set up?

how much do you earn gross and net monthly?

i know it’s super invasive but we’re all friends/ anonymous strangers here. My reason for asking was the fact I was absolutely slaughtered by some poster about my tiny tiddly 4 bed home by some posters on my other thread, so I’m genuinely wondering if I’m delulu for considering a 3rd

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Justwingingit2005 · 23/06/2024 17:58

Three dcs.
Large 3 bed house. 3 double size bedrooms.
Younger two share.
We have a low mortgage. I would like to move to a 4 bed but honestly nothing I've viewed has made me want to double my mortgage payments.
We prefer a nicer lifestyle.
Kids won't remember how big their house was but will remember travelling and seeing the world.

Numbersarefun · 23/06/2024 17:58

We have 3. A 3 bedroomed house, so 2 always shared (who, used to vary). It was fine. Net income was probably just over 100,000. We were always broke as they went to private school (paid from our income) for secondary and then uni. All in their 20s now and seem ok!!!! It helped that my husband’s job was flexible and he could work from home if necessary. I was a teacher so we didn’t need child care for the holidays. We have 2 girls and a boy. (GBG)

FuzzyStripes · 23/06/2024 17:58

I have three close in age and they get on very well). We have a four bed detached house but it’s quite a reasonable size as it also has two offices (we both often wfh). They can play in the garden and we also have an all weather summer house for them to escape to with their friends.

It’s not really down to your salary but your disposable income. Children have SEN so I now work part time to accommodate their needs being met. I do get an extra £200 per week DLA to help with this though.

It really is an endless juggle with school times, activities and clubs. That’s before helping with homework and various appointments.

RocketPanda · 23/06/2024 17:57

*There's 3 reception rooms

I should add the dc are a teen and adults.

Xyz1234567 · 23/06/2024 17:57

3 kids in a large 4 bedroom house. I didn't find going from 2 to 3 made much difference work or money wise. I think going from 3 to 4 is where it gets pricey because you have to buy a bigger car and ideally a 5 bedroom house!

LiterallyOnFire · 23/06/2024 17:56

Smallish 4/5 bed house, using one room as a home office.

Joint income mostly self-employed so varies but around 100k£ pa. For years it was closer to £60k pa joint, though.

It's fine, but we did have a very large gap between the first two and the third.

RocketPanda · 23/06/2024 17:55

I have four dc and I live in a big old house. We currently use five rooms as bedrooms.There's 3 reception rooms two office type rooms a food storage room a kitchen a dining room two bedrooms and a shower room downstairs and upstairs is two bedrooms and a big bathroom. It was originally just the downstairs and then we added on the kitchen and upstairs rooms.

HateThese4Leggedbeasts · 23/06/2024 17:55

I have 3 and live in a 4 bed house but dh and I both wfh so 1 room is needed as a home office. As dc get older they are finding it harder to share a bedroom though. ( Dc1 and 2 shared for a while and now dc2 and 3 share. dc2 now wants her own space). By the time dc2 starts secondary we will need to have found a solution.

loudbatperson · 23/06/2024 17:54

We have 3, living in a 4 bed semi (3 doubles one small double). Before the youngest were born we had a three bed terrace, but moved when the youngest guest was about 18 months as needed to move her into her own room, and sharing with her older sister wouldn't work due to the older one having autism.

There was a gap of 7 years between my youngest and middle, with only a gap of just over a year between middle and oldest. The elder two are adults now and my youngest just finishing GCSEs.

Space wise my eldest, boy, has the small double as he has less "stuff" and doesn't really mind.

I have a home office in an outbuilding in the garden, which is a godsend as we have become a fully remote WFH company. Converting the building cost a bit however I hate having my work in my home, and we didn't have space for an office inside, so when the office closed it was an easy decision.

I don't really want to give full income details, but I pay the higher rate of tax and lose a small amount of personal allowance. My husband earns a lot less, not much above NMW, and only works part time. However his money is really just for his fun spends. Our mortgage is also pretty low for where we live.

We are pretty comfy now but we didn't always earn as much. When the children were younger I was earning less than half what I do now. However it was enough to meet the bills and have a few treats without needing our income to be topped up, so my husband was a stay at home dad. That saved us needing to spend on childcare. If I hadn't earned enough to cover all our costs, we probably wouldn't have had a third as the childcare bills would have been crippling.

Genuinelyenquiring · 23/06/2024 17:53

I have 3. 3 bed house and the older 2 share a room very happily. DH earns a good 6 figure salary and I work 2 days a week as a teacher. We're comfortable but eventually will move out of London and buy somewhere bigger. 3 is great by the way - I absolutely love it.

Almostwelsh · 23/06/2024 17:52

I have 3. I bought a 3 bedroom semi and then built another 2 bedrooms over the garage. All 3 kids now have a double bedroom each, but we still only have one bathroom, due to awkward plumbing.

Net household income about 3k a month.

Hermanfromguesswho · 23/06/2024 17:51

I have 3.
4 bed house. We all have a bedroom each 😂
Singke parent earning around 30k a year topped up with child maintenance and universal credit

Belfastchild74 · 23/06/2024 17:49

I have 3. We live in a 3 bed with converted attic room.
We earn well, 2 x almost 6 fig incomes, but we live in an expensive area and won't trade up unless its to a 5 bed detached. Which won't happen.
We love the area and won't compromise on it.
So we make do.

Crokepark · 23/06/2024 17:48

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 17:43

your phrasing of the last point made me chuckle (hopefully Not a medical condition because then I’ll feel terrible for chuckling)

No, not a medical condition 😊😂

OnlyYellowRoses · 23/06/2024 17:48

3 bedroom house
4 kids
2 girls share a room
2 boys share a room
Myself and DH share a bedroom 😁
Making combined around £53K a year
Rent is £1500pcm

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 17:43

Crokepark · 23/06/2024 17:40

I don't have 3. I have 2.

Reasons why:

Not enough time
Not enough money
If I had to go through birth again, my uterus would leap out of my body and cheerily bid me goodbye.

your phrasing of the last point made me chuckle (hopefully Not a medical condition because then I’ll feel terrible for chuckling)

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Crokepark · 23/06/2024 17:40

I don't have 3. I have 2.

Reasons why:

Not enough time
Not enough money
If I had to go through birth again, my uterus would leap out of my body and cheerily bid me goodbye.

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