Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask if you’ve got 3 kids?

142 replies

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 17:33

How do you live? Ie how big is your home and what’s your set up?

how much do you earn gross and net monthly?

i know it’s super invasive but we’re all friends/ anonymous strangers here. My reason for asking was the fact I was absolutely slaughtered by some poster about my tiny tiddly 4 bed home by some posters on my other thread, so I’m genuinely wondering if I’m delulu for considering a 3rd

OP posts:
Giantpaw · 23/06/2024 19:50

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 19:47

65k a month?! Wow!

Oh god a year 😂😂
I wish!!!!

Mouthfulofquiz · 23/06/2024 19:50

We’ve got 3 in a 4 bed house that has an extra living space in the basement. 2 share, 1 on their own, DH and me in one and a spare room that I often retreat to. I imagine eventually the spare room will become a child room. Income between us is around 150k but we live in quite an expensive area so I would imagine our wages are similar to most people who live near us. There are lots around us with 3 or 4 children.

SpaceJamtart · 23/06/2024 19:48

3 children, 2 bed flat.
The girls all share the bigger room and me and my partner have the small one.
It works great for us at the moment.
We are saving and planning to find somewhere with a bit more space by the time the older two go to secondary school

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 19:47

Giantpaw · 23/06/2024 19:44

We have 3 kids.
4 bedroom house.
Monthly income somewhere around 65k

65k a month?! Wow!

OP posts:
Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 19:46

nextdoornightmares · 23/06/2024 19:40

We have 3 preschool age kids with a 4th on the way

340k new build house (Scotland so probably double that price down south) only bought a few months ago
Mortgage is £1170 per month
Salary of £2200 monthly plus about £1800 per month in benefits + child benefit
3 fair sized double bedrooms and slightly bigger master bedroom
Master has ensuite, one average sized main bathroom and downstairs WC
Kids currently all have their own bedrooms but new baby will share with one of them once they stop sleeping in our bedroom. We don't anticipate this will be an issue.
We have a 7 seater car with 3 rear facing car seats currently.

Yes to RF car seats!!

OP posts:
fizzwhizz1 · 23/06/2024 19:45

3 young children in a 2 bed

Giantpaw · 23/06/2024 19:44

We have 3 kids.
4 bedroom house.
Monthly income somewhere around 65k

nextdoornightmares · 23/06/2024 19:40

We have 3 preschool age kids with a 4th on the way

340k new build house (Scotland so probably double that price down south) only bought a few months ago
Mortgage is £1170 per month
Salary of £2200 monthly plus about £1800 per month in benefits + child benefit
3 fair sized double bedrooms and slightly bigger master bedroom
Master has ensuite, one average sized main bathroom and downstairs WC
Kids currently all have their own bedrooms but new baby will share with one of them once they stop sleeping in our bedroom. We don't anticipate this will be an issue.
We have a 7 seater car with 3 rear facing car seats currently.

PardonMee · 23/06/2024 19:34

We earn 65k between us. I love having three but would have opted for two kids if I’d been more sensible. I’d love to have done more traveling while they were young

ShoesEverywhere · 23/06/2024 19:32

3 kids, 4 bedrooms, both work part time. Husband earns 85k, I earn 18k. Probably around 5.5k a month comes into our accounts? Mortgage is £550, childcare for youngest for two days 9-3 is £300ish.

I would take half the money for half the noise in my house mind you 😅

PardonMee · 23/06/2024 19:31

We have 3 and life in a compact 4 bed. It works for us but I don’t do excess belongings, so limited clutter

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 19:30

This reply has been deleted

This has been withdrawn due to privacy concerns.

Bet that means you’re loaded.

😀

(so no one gets triggered I am saying this in a jovial way)

OP posts:
WithASpider · 23/06/2024 19:28

3 kids in an extended 4 bed semi. All double rooms.
Youngest was 4 when we extended, it was a 2 bed semi until then! Much easier with 4 beds and 2 bathrooms.
Gross pay is around 90k. We have a v small mortgage but are funding the eldest through university.

JanefromLondon1 · 23/06/2024 19:27

This reply has been withdrawn

This has been withdrawn due to privacy concerns.

doihaveacase · 23/06/2024 19:27

3 kids under 8, currently living in a 3-bed apartment but about to move to a larger 4-bed around 160m2. The current apartment has been absolutely fine while youngest two are small and happy to share. This move is with the future in mind as we'll have 4 double bedrooms and a space that we will use as a study but could close off to make an occasional guest room as and when needed. Biggest must-have for me is 2 bathrooms.

JaninaDuszejko · 23/06/2024 19:20

Our house is about 180m2, has 4 bedrooms. 2 children share a bedroom so we have a guest room cum home office. Two sitting rooms, three bathrooms, utility, large kitchen diner, good sized garden. We have a cleaner. Household income in low 6 figures, DH and I both work FT but have a good work life balance, very little travel for work and don't work long hours, hybrid working. We both worked PT when the kids were small. Kids all at state schools. No family nearby.

HauntedCosmos · 23/06/2024 19:13

5 children
4 bed house
2 per double bedrooms and 1 in single
£46k (one earner)
£500 per month mortgage

Dadsweek33 · 23/06/2024 19:12

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 19:06

We were told by the developer we can’t convert the loft, something to do with the build. I’m not sure what

I'm in a new build to. They do not look as will built as old build I wounder if that's why.

If you decide to have another baby. You will be ok . You will make it work. 💐

Dontevenlookatme · 23/06/2024 19:10

I have 3, all now adults. No regrets but cannot deny it was a struggle. Our income wouldn’t be helpful as it was a different time and a different economy but I don’t quite know how we did it.

Someone once said to me that going from one to two children was just more of the same, but two to three was like going from two to ten. So true! Everything needs upscaling, from house, to car, to holidays (no family of four deals). We moved from a three bed Victorian terrace in London to a six bed in the wilds. If we’d stayed in London our separate dining room would have eventually become a bedroom.

The costs aren’t just day to day but long term. You’ll need to think how you’ll afford to support all of them through university, getting married, buying their first home. I know not everyone does this and times have changed, but in our experience and social circle it was the norm.

Polelpuv · 23/06/2024 19:09

We have 3. Live in a 4 bed (4th bedroom is loft conversion). Twins share a room, youngest has their own room, 4th bedroom is spare room/ office. I work part time, dh full time but both in very flexible jobs so share school run, kids in after school club 2 days a week.

Mumsnet acts like having 3 kids is the most crazy/ outrageous thing, everyone must conform and stop at 2. So I wouldn’t worry too much about what someone was saying on here. I personally love having 3!

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 19:06

Dadsweek33 · 23/06/2024 19:00

Fml your kitchen is not tiny. People are judt trying to pick at you .

I must apologise though. Because I did misunderstand I thought you was talking about 2 children. But it was 3 . As in there would be 3 if you had another child. So I'm sorry for that.

I grt shit on threads sometimes. I find myself either ignoring what's not helpful to me. Sometimes I may say that's not what i asked .

Just a suggestion for later could you consider a loft conversion?

We were told by the developer we can’t convert the loft, something to do with the build. I’m not sure what

OP posts:
Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 19:05

Hankunamatata · 23/06/2024 19:00

See thought teens would be easier but it's like all out wrestling ring as 'his leg is touching my leg' is still a thing 😂

chuck one in a boot seat?

OP posts:
Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 19:04

So we have a small 4 bed and need a wfh space and earn 110k gross, mid 30s maybe get another 15/20k in bonuses (gross) but that other thread made me feel like utter dogshit for contemplating a 3rd.

we can’t afford to move right now, but when rates start to come down more and more, hopefully to that 3% figure then we’ll definitely be in a position to consider a move, esp with the equity in our home

OP posts:
Dadsweek33 · 23/06/2024 19:00

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 18:51

It’s not a house I was looking at, people seem unable to read, I’ve lived there for 6 years.

it’s not a 3 bed either it’s 4. I was told the rooms very tiny and the garden minuscule, only one of a decent size, which is fucking barmy as to my knowledge none of you have been to my house and I said the garden is smaller compared to older houses.

2 rooms are doubled and 2 are singles(that in the pic they put a double in the larger one, which you could esp if you got rid of the double wardrobe built in) but the comments that the kitchen is tiny and lounge small, are kind of nuts too, the minimum dimensions are listed on the side it’s not a palace but the comments very particularly nasty

Fml your kitchen is not tiny. People are judt trying to pick at you .

I must apologise though. Because I did misunderstand I thought you was talking about 2 children. But it was 3 . As in there would be 3 if you had another child. So I'm sorry for that.

I grt shit on threads sometimes. I find myself either ignoring what's not helpful to me. Sometimes I may say that's not what i asked .

Just a suggestion for later could you consider a loft conversion?

fuckthetories2 · 23/06/2024 19:00

fuckthetories2 · 23/06/2024 18:29

I have four, two of each sex, second two twins. Four bed, two bath, two older have their own room, second set share. An age gap so by the time eldest hits uni age, younger two will be year three... I think. Just me, 30K a year, north of England so doable. After my eldest moves out my younger two will get their own room. When I was a kid, four kids in a four bed house, I was the youngest so I was the last to get my own room 😂 it just works

Following your latest comments OP, I did need a bigger car, got an 8 seater so have plenty of boot room... bugger to park though 🙈 Loads of room for the four kids and I can put the double pram, set up, without folding in the boot. But house wise it works. Holidays etc are more expensive, but I didn't plan twins, life happens and you adapt

Swipe left for the next trending thread