Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

Ok you’ve said it all well done you

Some of the comments are really unhelpful.
FAS is rare even when the mother drinks to excess. My mum is an alcoholic and neither me nor my siblings have it.
Obviously drinking in pregnancy isn’t great but the chances are 4 glasses of wine a week won’t cause an issue.

@Hello38 your visibly bothered, your waffling on and on about how bad drinking is when pregnant, something that everyone is well aware of !!! Then saying your not bothered ? Stop commenting if your not bothered. You have been 0 help to the OP.

My sister in law's sister has FAS so I'm well aware of the terrible impact it can have.

That was from intentional, continued and excessive alcohol abuse throughout a pregnancy.

Yes, there is a (very small) risk but berating this poor woman isn't helping at all and you're coming across as vile. She didn't do it intentionally, she was on birth control!! She can't go back in time, there's nothing she can do other than do what she needs to do to keep herself and the baby safe in the rest of the pregnancy. You continuing to berate and go on is not going to help at her all and if she's still reading this, cause her unnecessary worry and stress in what must be a scary time.

Unless you have something helpful to say, which you clearly don't, it might be a wise idea to step away from this thread.

OP, sending love to you. I hope you're ok and you have some support. The fact you're concerned about it shows you're a good mum, and whatever the outcome, you'll manage. Keep us updated if you feel up to it and if you don't, I wish you and your family the best

I’m not bothered it’s your life not mine

@Hello38 you are just talking absolute nonsense now. Nothing you are saying makes sense

That's ok then. Your situations are obviously exactly the same and you know exactly how she feels. Christ.

Note how no one else is congratulating the OP. There's a reason for that.

So what is your point here?

are you expecting the o/p to somehow undo the last 8 months?

are you trying to make her feel utterly crap about a situation she has no control over?

did you post here only to make someone feel shit?

no one is minimising drinking on pregnancy. Yes everyone knows it’s bad.

difference is the rest of us are trying to reassure o/p and not make an incredibly stressful situation worse. Which is what you are doing, apparently intentionally. Which makes you a shit person.

Maybe get back to the other person 10 years down the line I’m sure you’ll support them

Nobody has said alcohol doesn’t damage babies, you plum. Other people know that alcohol can damage babies, which is why they stop drinking either when trying to conceive or when they know they’re pregnant. You are not in possession of rare and arcane knowledge. Stop trying to upset a woman who already has a lot to worry about and knows just as well as you do the facts of this subject.

Can you tell me who thinks this? I'm honestly lost at your comments, what are you getting out of this it's very strange. Everyone as I have said is aware of what can happen to babies if the mother drinks. Why are you still going on about this ???????? This was not on purpose that she was drinking and didn't know, not sure how many different people can tell you this seriously

Ok hold my hands up. Yes I’m judgmental but so is the real world . I can’t be bothered wasting anymore time on this

I’m soooo invested in this thread.

So no women should drink ever on the off chance they might become pregnant?

@Hello38 if you feel for her stop making unnecessary comments about how she continued to drink???? Continued to drink still unaware she was pregnant. Everyone is more than aware of the risks of drinking whilst pregnant but again, she didn't know she was pregnant, so naming all the things a baby can get through the mother drinking is not helpful one bit. I'm absolutely sure the op already knows the risks and is clearly very concerned.

My advice is to get a Time Machine, go back to November and tell o/p she’s pregnant and needs to stop drinking.

because what’s done is done. It can’t be changed. O/p didn’t know she was pregnant.

shit happens and there’s no point making anyone feel shit for stuff they couldn’t have known.

And the OP knows this, as well as all the other risks her pregnancy might now face. Do you think that, having just found out she’s pregnant, she is sitting in the waiting room at the hospital swigging gin? Honestly, I despair of people on the site. The OP mentioned the potential problems drinking might have caused in her very first post. She doesn’t need you banging on and on about something she didn’t choose and can’t change!

Sorry I thought OP had said she didn’t want a baby. Regardless it’s clear from her posts she’s upset, stressed and worried with an unplanned pregnancy so I don’t think “congratulations” is at all appropriate.

How is this helpful to the OP? Have you misunderstood and think she was drinking while pregnant on purpose?

For what it's worth, the chances of OP's baby having FAS after she has been drinking 10 units a week is 1.5%.

Even with pregnant women who binge drink most days, the chance of their baby having FAS is still under 5%.

FAS is something for people to take seriously. But this thread is neither the time nor place.

You feel for her? Ok. If that was the case you wouldn't have started with these comments.

I no she didn’t no . I feel for her . Just risks are higher with drinking

@Hello38 no one is denying this but the op DIDNT KNOW SHE WAS PREGNANT? What part of this is hard for you to understand. She has not intentionally been drinking whilst pregnant

You can berate me all you like . Sadly alcohol has an affect on pregnancies