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Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

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Goldflamingo · 23/06/2024 13:20

Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

OP posts:
SapphireSeptember · 24/06/2024 03:12

💐 Wishing you the best @Goldflamingo . You must be in shock. Hopefully baby is healthy and everything goes well for you. ❤️

Normallynumb · 24/06/2024 01:07

Such a huge shock for you!
You're in safe hands now so rest as make as you can and try and go with the flow
Also let your CMHT know

OiFatArse · 23/06/2024 23:23

Oh wow! What a shock but at least you know now and can get the appropriate help , I hope everything is ok with you & baby ❤️

CandyLeBonBon · 23/06/2024 23:04

Oh my word op. Thanks for the update. If you can, see if you can get some antenatal counselling. This is a lot to take on board. Best of luck, and I hope everything is ok.

SendNoodles · 23/06/2024 22:48

Thanks for the update, OP. Good for you for keeping a clear head and getting yourself seen despite the shock.

maddening · 23/06/2024 22:39

What a shock! So glad you are getting the right treatment and you have your sister for support x

JanFebAndOnwards · 23/06/2024 22:35

Op has a little girl already.

menopausalmare · 23/06/2024 22:34

Hi op. Wishing you well with the pregnancy and thanks for the update. If you don't mind me asking, are you a first time mum or have you already got a family? It's a lot to wrap your head around- you're going to be a mum (again?) soon.

Dita73 · 23/06/2024 22:26

@JanglyBeads thank you

JanglyBeads · 23/06/2024 22:23

I think @Dita73 was just seeking clarification!

HooverHunting · 23/06/2024 22:21

Thanks for the update, OP! Hope tomorrow goes okay and you get some rest tonight

HateMyselfToo · 23/06/2024 22:19

Your mind must be racing. I'm glad you are getting medical attention and hope you are able to get some rest.

IWantThisSoMuch · 23/06/2024 22:17

@Dita73 the OPs posts are really clear for you to read that yes this happened all today. You sound like you are disbelieving/troll hunting. Really poor form for the OP very freaked out. These things really do happen.

GenghisCalm · 23/06/2024 22:10

Dita73 · 23/06/2024 22:06

@IWantThisSoMuch I’m not being a dick. I just asked a bloody question

Did the thread not provide enough information for you to work this out for yourself?

Even if you just read the OP's posts you would be able to see a timeline.

Dita73 · 23/06/2024 22:06

@IWantThisSoMuch I’m not being a dick. I just asked a bloody question

IWantThisSoMuch · 23/06/2024 22:04

Dita73 · 23/06/2024 20:49

This has all happened in one day?!!

Don’t be a dick.
seriously. Some people wake up not knowing they are pregnant and deliver a baby at home a few hours later.
OP woke up, tested positive, realised she might be in labour and the hospital agreed and wanted her seen. It’s not fucking rocket science. They would have seen her urgently with no antenatal care also. I’m surprised the EPU didn’t signpost and forward her onto the wards that’s nearly negligent.

IWantThisSoMuch · 23/06/2024 22:02

Oh OP lots of love sent. It sounds like being admitted and monitored and scanned tomorrow is exactly what needs to happen and what you need to do. You have realised and it’s all ok, some people don’t realise until they are crowning.

Createausername1970 · 23/06/2024 21:53

Blimey. What a shock for you. That wasn't how you expected today to pan out.

I am glad you have been seen and now know the situation for sure. Try and get some sleep tonight so you can have a clear head (!) for the morning.

💐

NinaPersson · 23/06/2024 21:49

Try and rest today. A big shock mentally and physically for you. I’m glad you have a supportive family xxx

misscockerspaniel · 23/06/2024 21:42

This is one of those times when you just have to go with the flow. Sending you a big virtual hug. 💐

DonnaChang · 23/06/2024 21:40

Glad you’ve been seen and are getting medical attention.

I hope all goes well in the next few weeks for you and the baby and, despite it not being the happiest news for you now, it turns out to be a happy addition.

SlowlyForward · 23/06/2024 21:39

Well done @Goldflamingo for getting yourself to the hospital and managing all that. You've done a heroic job. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you here and I hope you have a restful night.. Take care Xx

LunaTheCat · 23/06/2024 21:25

I am so glad that you are receiving the care you need. So glad that you have family support.
With so much happening you are amazing to come back and update.
You are a strong and courageous woman.. go well.

RedPandaFluff · 23/06/2024 21:24

Oh my goodness @Goldflamingo - what a day you've had. I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through and the turmoil you must be in. It must feel like the universe has tilted.

I hope that the shock starts lifting soon, and that physically things are okay for you and the baby. Emotionally . . . well. This is a doozy. I hope the medical staff can provide you with some support Flowers

Chocolatebunny61 · 23/06/2024 21:21

Sending love and hugs and I hope you are OK and everything turns out well.💐

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