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Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

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Goldflamingo · 23/06/2024 13:20

Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

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AngelDelightButNotStrawberry · 23/06/2024 17:54

She didn’t know! What part of that is hard to understand? Hmm

Persipan · 23/06/2024 17:54

Hello38 · 23/06/2024 17:52

Ok so from lots of alcohol use during pregancy what would you advise

You're the one on your high horse about it; what would YOU advise? Nobody ever to drink, ever?

Hello38 · 23/06/2024 17:52

bananaphon · 23/06/2024 17:51

You obviously can't read. The op didn't know she was pregnant so didn't carry on drinking knowing this. Your comments are nasty and unnecessary

Ok so from lots of alcohol use during pregancy what would you advise

WhereIsTheHare · 23/06/2024 17:52

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So are you saying no premenopausal woman should ever drink alcohol in case she falls accidentally pregnant while using contraception?

Take your crusade somewhere else, unless you have a Time Machine to lend to the OP. And see if you can find someone to help sort out your compassion bypass.

DoreenonTill8 · 23/06/2024 17:52

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She's just found out! The whole point of the thread!!

Persipan · 23/06/2024 17:52

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Continued WHAT?! Drinking a fairly unexceptionable amount when she didn't know she was pregnant? How is that something to berate anyone for? Exactly what would you like her to do about it? You are being extraordinarily insensitive.

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You obviously can't read. The op didn't know she was pregnant so didn't carry on drinking knowing this. Your comments are nasty and unnecessary

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Maybe because the OP hasn’t drank whilst pregnant on purpose and can do absolutely nothing about it now, so there’s nothing to be gained from berating her and worrying her/making her feel guilty? Have a bit of compassion will you.

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Where have you deduced that from?!

familyissues12345 · 23/06/2024 17:42

Blimey OP, what a shock. I hope you get somewhere with your app this afternoon

Best wishes xx

Eviolle · 23/06/2024 17:41

Hope all goes well for you, what a shock.

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purplepandas · 23/06/2024 17:38

Wishing you well @Goldflamingo , hoping you are being/have been seen and have some further info.

CosmicLove · 23/06/2024 17:34

@Goldflamingo congratulations and wishing you all the best xx

PinkiOcelot · 23/06/2024 17:31

Hope you’ve been seen in the unit by now and have a bit more clarity. Hoping you’re ok x

Zone2NorthLondon · 23/06/2024 17:26

OVienna · 23/06/2024 17:02

Agreed.

No
Attend ED in an emergency, don’t attend ED just to be signposted to correct service (maternity). A GP and MW can sign post and refer
Assessment and treatment can be accessed in community without ED attendance
ED are busy,frenetic and overwhelmed. This can be appropriately managed without ED attendance as @Goldflamingo isnt describing an emergency

Riversideandrelax · 23/06/2024 17:17

Sounds like you've got a good plan in place. Good luck.

PixieLaLar · 23/06/2024 17:15

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LittleBear21 · 23/06/2024 17:13

Gosh what a shock but well done for getting organised and getting an appointment. I hope things go well.

Bemusedandconfusedagain · 23/06/2024 17:12

VJBR · 23/06/2024 16:48

Some people have a bit of a tummy anyway.

Weirdly you can have a flat stomach and not show, either at all or until very late. I've never carried weight on my stomach, and didn't in pregnancy. Baby was just very scrunched up. I was very breathless and had terrible heartburn by 34 weeks, and the midwife and GP said it was basically because baby was squashing everything so much inside, but still barely a bump. I wouldn't have believed it if it hadn't happened to me.

UpUpUpU · 23/06/2024 17:10

I am a midwife and I’ve seen women who have the tiniest bump and you wouldn’t know they were pregnant. It can happen.