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Am I fat?

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Confused19831983 · 23/06/2024 13:20

Posting here for traffic.

I am 5ft 4inch and I weigh 10stone.

I am 41.

One question.

Am I fat?

Genuinely interested in opinions.

OP posts:
nippyout · 23/06/2024 14:37

oops. missed your last post somehow.

nippyout · 23/06/2024 14:36

No idea - depend on your body composition. An athlete with a really low body fat % could have those stats.

Anyway, assuming you're not an athlete or a very keen exerciser then you still sound fine. Upper end of healthy weight.

Go with how you feel. Do you feel better half a stone lighter?

Back21970 · 23/06/2024 14:13

What was your average weight before you were pregnant?

If it was a stone or so less then you are definitely going to feel fat, so it’s all relative I suppose.

At your weight very few folk would say to were fat if you asked

Icanttakethisanymore · 23/06/2024 14:12

Confused19831983 · 23/06/2024 14:07

Thanks very much for the responses so far, it's interesting to hear the differing opinions!

I am white British. Not muscly at all.

Of average fitness.

I had a baby one year ago.

I am carrying excess weight around my stomach (I don't know waist circumference, but will try and find a tape measure).

I am fairly average in terms of build.

Yes, I feel fat.

Probably a size 12.

I struggle to find clothes that flatter.

I am quite top heavy.

I know I have a BMI of 24 so technically not overweight.

Was interested to hear what other people consider "fat".

Partner and relatives tell me I look slim (I don't think they would lie).

I don't feel slim.

BMI is only a rough guide, if you have a small skeleton you can carry a fair bit of fat and be in the ‘healthy’ range. Just after I gave birth I was 10kgs heavier than I was ‘normally’ (which admittedly would be deemed very slim as I am normally very active) and I was still not overweight according to my BMI. I definitely considered myself overweight - i have quite narrow hips and small wrists / ankles etc so probably looked more overweight than someone of a larger build and the same height (at the same weight).

Confused19831983 · 23/06/2024 14:07

Thanks very much for the responses so far, it's interesting to hear the differing opinions!

I am white British. Not muscly at all.

Of average fitness.

I had a baby one year ago.

I am carrying excess weight around my stomach (I don't know waist circumference, but will try and find a tape measure).

I am fairly average in terms of build.

Yes, I feel fat.

Probably a size 12.

I struggle to find clothes that flatter.

I am quite top heavy.

I know I have a BMI of 24 so technically not overweight.

Was interested to hear what other people consider "fat".

Partner and relatives tell me I look slim (I don't think they would lie).

I don't feel slim.

OP posts:
Blackcats7 · 23/06/2024 14:05

Another day another fat thread.
Yes. You are fat. A drain on the nhs. Should be ashamed of yourself. Clearly stupid/lazy/smelly.
This is what genuine fat people experience.
When people who are either average or just a bit overweight ask for reassurance that they are not fat it feels to me like attention seeking that they aren’t the dreaded f word because clearly this would be terrible and they would then be part of the repulsive underclass so my answer is always Yes. You are huge. Probably need the fire brigade to knock down a wall to get you out of your house which you should then have to pay for because you have brought it all on yourself.
Feel free to slag me off if anyone so desires. I shan’t be reading notifications or responding because fatism is just too boring so crack on.

TheCadoganArms · 23/06/2024 14:00

NewPinkJacket · 23/06/2024 13:57

For Christ sake ignore those asking for a photo OP.

You'll be pulled apart if you're fat and pulled apart if you're slim.

I don't think people are literally asking for the op to post a photo, just making the point that it is hard to answer the question without one.

NewPinkJacket · 23/06/2024 13:57

For Christ sake ignore those asking for a photo OP.

You'll be pulled apart if you're fat and pulled apart if you're slim.

Mabelface · 23/06/2024 13:56

No. I'm an inch taller and my optimum weight is around 10.4lbs. currently a stone heavier than that right now!

TwattyMcFuckFace · 23/06/2024 13:55

What was the point in 'posting for traffic' and then buggering off straight away OP? 😳

Meadowwild · 23/06/2024 13:55

You are a few pounds within the top end of BMI so unlikely to be fat in a way that would impact your health. Dense muscle weighs more than the same volume of fat, so if you are sporty you could actually be quite slim and toned and weigh that much.

But it's possible to look fat if you carry the weight all in one area. A slim 5'4" woman with all her weight on her hips or on her stomach might look fat in certain clothes, or have an area of the body that is shaped like a much fatter person's.

Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 23/06/2024 13:52

No one can tell from that information, depends on your physique it could be muscle mass. BMI and weight is just an indication / means of measurement.

Do you feel fat? Do you want to share a anonymous photo?

If you are posting because you are super fit with muscle mass to make a point it is braggy and in poor taste.

lljkk · 23/06/2024 13:51

Probably yes is my answer.
Someone needs to define "fat". MNers tend to go by how good a person looks, but how your looks are affected is the least important of items I list below.

Bigger than you need to be by a large margin, enough that your amount of fatty mass detracts from your fitness/health, energy levels and attractiveness. Big enough that it's hard to find clothes that flatter as well as clothe.

Thudercatsrule · 23/06/2024 13:50

Without a picture, how on earth can anyone comment?!!

bryceQ · 23/06/2024 13:46

It's impossible to say everyone carries weight differently. What's your waist measurement?

Extrahotpleasenottoomilky · 23/06/2024 13:46

What size do you take in trousers?

TheCadoganArms · 23/06/2024 13:45

chub rub

😂

DelphiniumBlue · 23/06/2024 13:44

How can we tell without a photo? It totally depends on your frame. I look verging on chubby at 10 stone , but sadly I'm a lot more than that these days. I've got other friends same height who have much flatter stomachs at that weight.

Ratisshortforratthew · 23/06/2024 13:43

I’m mid 30s, same height and weigh 10.5 stone and according to BMI I’m just in the overweight category. I don’t think I look fat as I’m in proportion but I’ve got a tiny belly and chub rub on my thighs and feel I’d look and feel healthier losing 0.5-1 stone. I have a chronic illness that makes intense exercise hard though so at the moment I don’t do anything more strenuous than daily dog walks

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 23/06/2024 13:43

How on earth could we say without looking at you?

You are certainly not too heavy but it depends on your body shape. I'm much heavier now but at my slimmest 10st 7lb I considered myself slim but would have loved that extra few lbs off as i have big thighs. But I'm naturally very curvy with big boobs so that weight suited me. On a straight shaped body it might look fatter. Either way I don't think its a problem, it's a healthy weight.

Icanttakethisanymore · 23/06/2024 13:42

It really depends on your muscle mass.

TheCadoganArms · 23/06/2024 13:41

Confused19831983 · 23/06/2024 13:20

Posting here for traffic.

I am 5ft 4inch and I weigh 10stone.

I am 41.

One question.

Am I fat?

Genuinely interested in opinions.

Your BMI is in the healthy range for a white person but would be considered overweight for an Asian person. The latter would be more predisposed to carry fat around their middle for example. Hard to say without seeing a pic of you.

theeyeofdoe · 23/06/2024 13:41

SouthEastCoast · 23/06/2024 13:40

I’m 5.4 as soon as I go over 60 kg or so I look beyond chubby at 10 stone I would consider myself fat but you’re probably not technically overweight.
we are all differently built though.

I'm exactly the same.

SouthEastCoast · 23/06/2024 13:40

I’m 5.4 as soon as I go over 60 kg or so I look beyond chubby at 10 stone I would consider myself fat but you’re probably not technically overweight.
we are all differently built though.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 23/06/2024 13:40

If you don't know, how do you think we will? 🤷‍♂️

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