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Am I fat?

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Confused19831983 · 23/06/2024 13:20

Posting here for traffic.

I am 5ft 4inch and I weigh 10stone.

I am 41.

One question.

Am I fat?

Genuinely interested in opinions.

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Moonshine5 · 23/06/2024 18:06

sorrynotathome · 23/06/2024 15:21

If you're asking, the answer is probably yes. But of course most people will say you're not, because most people (two-thirds of UK adults) are overweight or obese, and will be jealous of you. They will also say things like "if you lose any weight you will look gaunt" etc etc.

I think @sorrynotathome is spot on.

Flavabobble · 23/06/2024 18:06

JeysusH · 23/06/2024 14:43

Yeah, I'd say you're a bit chubby.

Not fat, but slightly overweight.

I'm 5' 8" and just under 10 stone and could probably lose half a stone.

🙄

Mountainhowl · 23/06/2024 18:01

I'm the same height and weight and I'm definitely overweight, I don't look it in the face or arms, I'm carrying it all in my stomach and arse

But you may have more muscle than me and not have excess belly fat like me?

My favourite weight is between 8.5-9 stone

99victoria · 23/06/2024 18:00

Oh my god - does anyone on here think there is a forum anywhere in the world where men are obsessing over how much they weigh and whether they 'feel fat' or if their BMI is in the lower half of the normal range or calling each other chubby?

No wonder it's still a man's world 🙄

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Confused19831983 · 23/06/2024 17:58

@NoNameNoOne Yep, exactly, slow and steady wins the race!
I will be made up if I drop 5lbs in a month.
We will see. Just want scales to move in right direction!
I am trying to keep between 1000 and 1500 cals a day but not doing much (well any) exercise apart from some long walks with pram when I am off.

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Quietweddingdress · 23/06/2024 17:58

I wouldn't say so.im 5ft5 and my goal weight is 10st 7lbs

Purplecatshopaholic · 23/06/2024 17:58

You are not fat. You may be a bit bigger than you would like, which is not the same thing.

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Confused19831983 · 23/06/2024 17:56

Allschoolsareartschools · 23/06/2024 17:53

Well yes you might be, compared to what you were.
But if you're going to consistently strive to weigh the same as you did pre baby & in your 20s, then you're in for a rough ride through life.

Ha, ha, this made me smile.
Yeah, you may have a point.

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Confused19831983 · 23/06/2024 17:55

Ruthietuthie · 23/06/2024 17:49

It depends.
I am the same height as you. On the day I got married, after months of exercising with a trainer, I weighed 10 stone. I was in incredible shape, very fit, and a size 8 or 10.
I have broad shoulders and am muscular, but not "big" in any way. No-one would have said I was overweight. That said, people were frequently surprised that I weighed what I did.
How do you look? What dress size are you?

I am a size 12.
My sister has a slightly bigger frame than me (also 5ft 4inch) and I remember being amazed at how great she looked at 10st 7lbs.
I probs am quite naturally slight and I am not very active at the moment, which won't be helping.

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NoNameNoOne · 23/06/2024 17:54

Confused19831983 · 23/06/2024 15:13

This is encouraging! Do you mind if I ask how much you lost in a month and how you did it?

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I have been doing 1500 cal a day, at least 10,000 steps and 3 work puts a week. So far lost 5lbs. Slow and steady though right? X

Allschoolsareartschools · 23/06/2024 17:53

Well yes you might be, compared to what you were.
But if you're going to consistently strive to weigh the same as you did pre baby & in your 20s, then you're in for a rough ride through life.

Ruthietuthie · 23/06/2024 17:49

It depends.
I am the same height as you. On the day I got married, after months of exercising with a trainer, I weighed 10 stone. I was in incredible shape, very fit, and a size 8 or 10.
I have broad shoulders and am muscular, but not "big" in any way. No-one would have said I was overweight. That said, people were frequently surprised that I weighed what I did.
How do you look? What dress size are you?

FlowersAndFairiesAndPie · 23/06/2024 17:48

FinallyHere · 23/06/2024 16:23

I'm 5ft 3inches, ten stone two was the point at which I stopped being able to 'get away with' a few pounds and (eventually) had to accept I could do with loosing some weight.

Same! I need to be 9.5 stone to look not chubby.

Howbizarre22 · 23/06/2024 17:47

xTheLoudLeaderx · 23/06/2024 16:19

Oh my god, yesterday a guy in the street who had been drinking all day call me “A big turkey” !! I was also eating out (in a weatherspoond) and a guy walking past said “Christ those are big” on about my boobs !

I dont know what was in the water yesterday !

Im 5”2 and 11 stone, I was struggling also to find clothes that look good, I’ve ate and drank the same as my partner neatly all year and I feel like everything’s hit me at once !!

I would say 5”4 and 10 stone isn’t fat.

I dont know what was in the water yesterday

A bad strain of Dick-headitis by the sounds of it! Some men think it’s ok to pass derogatory comments to women-hope you gave it back

FlowersAndFairiesAndPie · 23/06/2024 17:47

I'm 5 foot 3 and 10st 3lbs. I'm fat although I'm in a 10. I'm trying to lose weight but it's hard work.

Howbizarre22 · 23/06/2024 17:44

kitsuneghost · 23/06/2024 17:28

Chubby

Cunty

kitsuneghost · 23/06/2024 17:28

Chubby

BlackStrayCat · 23/06/2024 17:23

Certainly not slim and not fat either.

Personally, from what you have said, you would be happier if you lost half a stone, is my guess.

Chickenuggetsticks · 23/06/2024 16:54

VolvoFan · 23/06/2024 16:22

I said 'in the upper range of normal'. 25 is overweight. 30 is obese. 24 is one under 25, as in one point under being overweight. My BMI is 21.4, which is right in the middle of the range of what is considered a normal, healthy BMI for a woman my age and height. 'Chubby' isn't a dirty word. The Body Mass Index is a guideline anyway. My DH was really chubby, bordering on clinically obese. He's lost 55lbs recently because he hated how big he was. He now has a lot more energy and feels much better within himself.

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Works the other way too, DH at the bottom end of his BMI looks skeletal. He genuinely has massive bones, really wide shoulders big knees bones etc. everything is just stretched out on a big frame. OP could be like that.

Chickenuggetsticks · 23/06/2024 16:51

Check your waist to height ratio. If you are in a healthy BMI and your ratio is good then you are probably fine.

Feellikeafailurenow · 23/06/2024 16:42

SouthEastCoast · 23/06/2024 13:40

I’m 5.4 as soon as I go over 60 kg or so I look beyond chubby at 10 stone I would consider myself fat but you’re probably not technically overweight.
we are all differently built though.

Me too. Currently sitting at 60kg after holiday and need to lose at least 4lbs for my jeans to be comfortable (currently quite tight) i’ve been big & over weight in the past & at 10 stone i wouldn’t say i was fat but i wouldn’t be happy or comfortable personally as it’s a stone over where i’m most comfortable / easy to maintain (8lbs 12-9 stone normally but have ate and drank loads past few weeks!)

i’m 40 & 5”4

AllTheChaos · 23/06/2024 16:37

Spirallingdownwards · 23/06/2024 16:14

A size 12 is not fat

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Depends on height to be fair. My 4’9 grandma compared to my 5’11 friend!

Killingoffmyflowersonebyone · 23/06/2024 16:33

Sigh.

I'm 5,4 and 75KG. But I do 2-3 hours exercise (vigorous) a day. So, I weigh more than a stone more than you but I'm (probably) healthier though. Weight really doesn't mean much less you are clinically obese IMO.

If you're worried, then take action. Mumsnet can't help...as it's impossible for anyone to tell without knowing how active you are, what sort of lifestyle you lead, any health issues etc etc.

shearwater2 · 23/06/2024 16:24

When I compare myself to other women, and an awful lot of men as well, my actual knee bones/kneecap is bigger than their entire knee, flesh and all. I was not put on this earth to have skinny legs. That was confirmed when I went down to BMI 19 in my 20s and still had scrum half legs. That said, I am much slimmer in the middle than most other women, and far more muscular and toned.

FinallyHere · 23/06/2024 16:23

I'm 5ft 3inches, ten stone two was the point at which I stopped being able to 'get away with' a few pounds and (eventually) had to accept I could do with loosing some weight.

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