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To be shocked at the level of obesity of British children?

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MEM00 · 23/06/2024 12:41

Having recently come back from holiday I found myself really shocked by the size of so many other British kids at the resort we were at. It was mostly a mix of British, French and German families and I found it impossible to not notice the difference in the British kids compared to others. DD is 8 and I would say average sized, by no means skinny. She made friends with another girl the same age by the pool, and i'm not joking when i say the other girl must have been twice the size when they were next to each other.

Am i overthinking this? Because it really makes me worry for the future.

This isn't intended by be 'fat shaming' in any way btw.

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Cormoran · 23/06/2024 21:30

French kids do not exercise more. We have way too much schoolwork to do.

It is the food. We despise snacks, we don't even have a word for that. We don't eat between meals, we don't keep food in bags, cars, office drawers, we call UPFs "cochonneries" literally pig-food. Crisps are party-food, not a daily thing. We don't do takeaways of greasy, fatty, fried food, we go to restaurants . And I could go on and on.

MyMiniMetro · 23/06/2024 21:30

soupfiend · 23/06/2024 20:48

Its not easy! Humans seek out food, seek out high calorie food. We are designed that way

But we also have agency and choice and you have to make that choice.

Im incredibly greedy, love my food and was bought up on massive portions. Ive learned the hard way that its no great hardship to feel hungry for a while and its ok to have a small portion, it really is all you need.

We don't really have much choice really. Evolutionary biology means that we always want to eat more than we need. In the days when we had scarce days/months/years, those who consumed more than they needed when food was plentiful, would fair better when it was scarce. That's why it takes on average 20 minutes after eating to register that we are satiated. Appetite and hunger is an autonomic response that we have no conscious control over, just like we don't have control over the sensation of needing to empty out our bladder. Fighting against autonomic responses is incredibly difficult and generally not advised. That's why the health advice is always eat healthy, low-calorie when hungry instead of any type of restrictive eating.

soupfiend · 23/06/2024 21:29

abracadabra1980 · 23/06/2024 21:25

Slightly off topic but I have a client who is a gynaecologist/obstetrician. I was visibly shocked when he told me he is lucky to see a patient these days who isn't obese, and also how much strain it puts on him when delivering a baby by c section as he has to use all his strength to both hold the flab back out of the way and pull the baby out at the same time. He also says that he wishes obesity was publicised more as a known link to cancer, because of the effect fat has on oestrogen levels. He's quite amusing with his stories!
Back to topic: I always notice obese dogs usually have obese owners.

Yes I was saying this about fat owners and fat pets

There are posters in the vet tha tyou should be able to see the ribs of your cat or dog. My OH refuses to believe this, he over feeds the cat. She knows I wont give in so she doesnt try to pester me, but she will pester him.

She does not live in a toxic food environment, she is not addicted to UPFs, she does not have trauma or hormone problems. She is like most animals (and humans are animals) who will take advantage of too much food if it is there and plentiful

We used to have a dog that was about 5lbs overweight as well, that was OH too, feeding titbits from the table.

Cangar · 23/06/2024 21:27

Germany has a massive obesity problem- very close behind the Brits.

soupfiend · 23/06/2024 21:26

crochetmonkey74 · 23/06/2024 21:19

I agree , I don't think it's cost. I think we are all sugar/upf addicts

I think we have allowed ourselves and therefore our children to turn their/our noses up at fresh food.

Im not convinced its outside of our control

abracadabra1980 · 23/06/2024 21:25

Slightly off topic but I have a client who is a gynaecologist/obstetrician. I was visibly shocked when he told me he is lucky to see a patient these days who isn't obese, and also how much strain it puts on him when delivering a baby by c section as he has to use all his strength to both hold the flab back out of the way and pull the baby out at the same time. He also says that he wishes obesity was publicised more as a known link to cancer, because of the effect fat has on oestrogen levels. He's quite amusing with his stories!
Back to topic: I always notice obese dogs usually have obese owners.

Riversideandrelax · 23/06/2024 21:24

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 23/06/2024 21:18

It is!!

Carrots 35p
Apples £1.05
Pears £1.29
Broccoli 79p
Cauliflower £1.19
Parsnips 75p
Cucumber 89p
Sugar snap peas £1
Swede 62p

How much cheaper do you think they should be?

But snack foods like biscuits/chocolate are still cheaper.

Bruisername · 23/06/2024 21:24

mathanxiety · 23/06/2024 21:21

And the quality of school meals is probably a factor too.

I don’t believe German primary schools have lunch - the kids go home

soupfiend · 23/06/2024 21:23

And I paid £2.50 for a cauli the other day at the greengrocer. I think they're 89p in Aldi

soupfiend · 23/06/2024 21:22

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 23/06/2024 21:18

It is!!

Carrots 35p
Apples £1.05
Pears £1.29
Broccoli 79p
Cauliflower £1.19
Parsnips 75p
Cucumber 89p
Sugar snap peas £1
Swede 62p

How much cheaper do you think they should be?

Well its about calories in. If you need to feed kids you need to buy a lot of fruit/veg/pulses (if you cant afford meat) to get the calorific intake that you could supply easily with less nutritious food

So you can give an apple as a snack, but thats only 60 cals. You can make a child a salad but thats going to be very low cals. Despite needing to make sure children are not overweight, you still need to ensure they eat enough, so often its cheaper and quicker to buy something calorie dense but full of rubbish

I know veg is 'cheap' in that way but I meant in terms of getting people to buy it

As an aside we spend a lot of time in Spain but although they do have processed foods and snacks, the processed foods are really really high prices compared to fresh foods. Here its the other way round, calorie for calorie.

mathanxiety · 23/06/2024 21:21

Bruisername · 23/06/2024 13:12

French mothers have the same time issues as English mothers but cooking meat and 2 veg is not particularly time consuming. But if you haven’t been brought up cooking from scratch it can seem so.

in Germany I would say there is much more of an outdoorsy attitude and kids are expected to walk/bike from quite small. Germans are also notoriously frugal but rather than buy ready made will bake at weekends with the kids and spend time finding fresh food that’s affordable.

obviously generalisations but it’s very much what I see in my family

And the quality of school meals is probably a factor too.

crochetmonkey74 · 23/06/2024 21:19

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 23/06/2024 21:18

It is!!

Carrots 35p
Apples £1.05
Pears £1.29
Broccoli 79p
Cauliflower £1.19
Parsnips 75p
Cucumber 89p
Sugar snap peas £1
Swede 62p

How much cheaper do you think they should be?

I agree , I don't think it's cost. I think we are all sugar/upf addicts

HuongVuong3 · 23/06/2024 21:18

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 23/06/2024 20:26

Yes to whoever talked about pizzas in the 80’s.

We used to split a medium pizza between 4, have with a baked potato and a salad. That was fine.

Now people eat an entire massive pizza to themselves.

It was definitely the 80’s when this started! I remeber going out one night and someone wanting to go for a burger after the pub, and l was thinking ‘but I’ve had my tea……’

That was 1982

In the early 90s I can remember being really shocked when a friend of mine ate 2 chocolate bars. It had never even occurred to me that this was a possibility!

Riversideandrelax · 23/06/2024 21:18

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 23/06/2024 20:53

Another thought
My kids didn’t send out for their ‘subway’ because their school food was bad they did it because they liked the independence
paying, ordering, receiving and away from home as well…yay!

So kids at boarding school can eat as much junk as they like and there's no limits on this?

I mean one Subway a fortnight ok. But are the parents really happy with their DC ordering takeaways on the regular?

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 23/06/2024 21:18

soupfiend · 23/06/2024 21:14

I really feel that the whole fruit and veg aisles need to be free or incredibly low priced.

Then put the prices up on packaged foods, unncessary foods like crisps and biscuits.

You can make a good argument for keeping prices unchanged on ready meals, they are necessary in a way to have your dinner, you might argue that, some of them are not too bad health wise.

But snacks are not necessary, they're not a dinner or a meal. They are sundries. So crisps, biscuits, chocolates, sweets.

I wouldnt put the prices up on nuts or dried fruit

It is!!

Carrots 35p
Apples £1.05
Pears £1.29
Broccoli 79p
Cauliflower £1.19
Parsnips 75p
Cucumber 89p
Sugar snap peas £1
Swede 62p

How much cheaper do you think they should be?

soupfiend · 23/06/2024 21:14

I really feel that the whole fruit and veg aisles need to be free or incredibly low priced.

Then put the prices up on packaged foods, unncessary foods like crisps and biscuits.

You can make a good argument for keeping prices unchanged on ready meals, they are necessary in a way to have your dinner, you might argue that, some of them are not too bad health wise.

But snacks are not necessary, they're not a dinner or a meal. They are sundries. So crisps, biscuits, chocolates, sweets.

I wouldnt put the prices up on nuts or dried fruit

Riversideandrelax · 23/06/2024 21:14

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 23/06/2024 20:47

mine boarded and the food was fantastic
( really nothing like trad school meals at all ) and there was plenty of it but yes they had tuck money and did spend it Ours on sharing ( twins ) a once a fortnight delivered subway but others with their £250 a week to spend certainly didn’t hold back on a pizza delivered.
Mine have attended two PSs and the food in both I’d say was outstanding as I often ate it as well if I was there.

Edited

£250 a week to spend on snacks? That's more than most people's budget for all food for the whole family!

Bruisername · 23/06/2024 21:13

A lot of primary privates in London have extremely limited outdoor space and a lot less than the nearby state schools but they do often have a deeply engrained culture of sport and prioritise it so there are at least one or two afternoons a week dedicated to it. I don’t like the whole state vs private aggressions - our local state would do things with the local private prep and each would bring their strengths. Collaboration not competition!!

weekend sport clubs can be dirt cheap and life changing for kids. Often diverse in many ways and teach life skills only sport can teach and fun! Only thing that used to mar the little league matches were the over competitive parents who seemed to forget they were watching 7 year olds play.

SlothOnARope · 23/06/2024 21:13

It's so simple to solve and again is due entirely to the government prostituting itself to global food giants.

In other European countries they actually have laws on where junk food restaurants can be built. They are frequently off the beaten track and out of the way, and also there are rules on how many can be built in a certain area. Their mars bars are also smaller, all dessert portions are smaller. Coffee is a normal size and doesn't contain twice your daily sugar intake. And they don't tend to have KFC.

In 1999 when the Starbucks global expansion started, people gradually started getting fatter.

Here in the UK we do the opposite and actively encourage KFC & Co to keep destroying greenbelt and opening more "restaurants" serving obscene amounts of very low quality food that gets people addicted to junk and doesn't meet their daily nutritional requirements so they're always hungry but don't know why.

Then we wonder why there's an obesity epidemic.

Riversideandrelax · 23/06/2024 21:12

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 23/06/2024 20:46

Waffles aside, a lot of the problem with secondary schools is that lunchtimes aren’t long enough.

Those at the end of the queue in a half hour lunch break have to grap and go. They don’t have time to eat properly.

My DD's school has a full hour lunch and this is still a problem. The schools have had to take on too many pupils.

Riversideandrelax · 23/06/2024 21:11

StaunchMomma · 23/06/2024 21:02

That's good to hear.

Wouldn't it be lovely if government or charity funding (eg Nat Lottery) were to back small businesses who aim to deliver healthy foods to low income areas preferentially?

A girl can dream, I guess.

Yes, it would be amazing.

Riversideandrelax · 23/06/2024 21:10

crochetmonkey74 · 23/06/2024 20:16

I agree about parents making exercise a priority. We would walk to thr shop, walk to the park to play on the swings and run about and then walk home. Same with swimming etc

I always did the playground on the way to and from school. In fact my DD and I still go to the park every morning before school and often stop off at a playground on the way home. I think it is good to try and put it into your routine so it's a non-negotiable or just what you always do!

TrustPenguins · 23/06/2024 21:09

CaptainMyCaptain · 23/06/2024 13:31

Obesity affects the NHS which has to provide super sized wheelchairs, beds, MRI scanners and more. It also results in diseases related to obesity. We all pay for it so it affects us all.

It affects a lot more than that too.
The cost to the NHS is huge.
People living with obesity are also more likely to be out of school or work for physical and/or mental health issues... which in turn has major (negative) impacts on society.

eggplant16 · 23/06/2024 21:06

Most private school have the space for exercise.Those attending have manjor advantages already. Genetically,early life and so on.

Riversideandrelax · 23/06/2024 21:06

DrCoconut · 23/06/2024 20:16

Some observations about portions that occurred to me. In my student days in the mid 90s when I was out with my then boyfriend and we got takeaway post pub/club, we used to share a pizza that would probably be classed as medium now. Or our portions of chips would fit in a smallish tray. That was for a stodgy meal after a night out too. People have a pizza each plus sides or large chippy meals now. There was no competitive under eating for us and money wasn't an issue as he was working, it was just the way we had grown up. You just wouldn't have bought more than one pizza to serve two people. Going further back my grandma used to buy 1/4 lb of mince to serve two in a cottage pie or similar. Her traditional dinners were seen as pretty generous but by today's standards they were probably small. Could have been a hangover from rationing but no one ever complained of hunger at her house. People (myself included) definitely eat more.

We always used to think chip portions were stingy if they fitted them in a tray!! But we only ever got one portion for 2 of us. I'd still never buy a portion of chips per person or a takeaway pizza each. What a waste of food!

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