How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

I'd shove his tight arse on the next plane back home

Hes trying to pull a fast one on you
His credit card doesn't work in that country!! I call absolute bullshit

Either

• he sorts the credit card our so that it works
• he transfers £x to you ASAP for his spending money & share of holiday costs

• he has a boring holiday while you go out & about & enjoy yourself because he chose not to bring money with him

Do not bail him out with your money - you won't get it back & he will always expect you to do this in the future.

Personally I'd dump him as soon as we got back to the UK - incompetence, being tight with money & expecting the other person to sort out your cock uos are all deeply unattractive and not good traits in a longvterm partner

I'd be putting him in a taxi and paying a 1 way fare to the airport. Let him figure it out from there. Then I'd enjoy the rest of the holiday myself, especially if it's a 'lay around the pool/beach' type holiday.

@Iwilldestroyyou345 So, what's the rest of the story? Unless this is a very, very new relationship there must have been red flags on his stinginess before this.

Did they just email expect you you pay fur everything or did they not realise the cc won't work ?

Either way can you pay and pay you back once home....?

Is this the first time you've been away with him?

Is this disorganisation/stupidity or do you think it's a ruse to make you pay?

Is he normally like this or is it a one off?

But surely his credit card will work in a cash machine if nothing else. He withdraws a chunk of cash to use as spending money. If he pays it back as soon as you get home, it will cost £10/20 in interest and charges at most, even if the card is on Martin Lewis's naughty list rather than one of the 'recommended for spending on holiday' ones.

Then they need to tap a solvent friend for a few hundred quid, the friend can transfer the money to YOUR bank account since the partner clearly doesn’t understand how money works.

I'm pretty sure there was a similar thread not too long ago, but it was a female friend who only brought a few EUR, and also claimed that they have no access to any other money. There were also many excuses about not being able to access savings, no online banking etc. They just expected the travel partner to pay for everything.

How convenient.

Id tell them I hope they sort it out, otherwise they're going to get mighty hungry because no fucking way will I be manipulated into funding their holiday with an oops I've travelled here and gosh I somehow didn't understand how money works

Fuck off. Do they think you're a fool?

Why is it unwise to dip into savings? Isn't that what they're for?

this list is BS, I've been to Romania, Lithuania, Belarus and Bulgaria quite recently and credit cards were accepted everywhere, did not need any cash.

Define partner?

Not living together boyfriend - ditch him

Living in boyfriend with separate bank accounts and finances - ditch him if it is a pattern and there is no valid explanation.

Partner with shared finances - have words about you not being his mum and if he doesn’t understand it is very unattractive.

Which country are you in?

A quick google does give a list of countries which don't/rarely accept credit cards - I was quite surprised

•	Bulgaria.
•	Belarus.
•	Cote d'Ivoire.
•	Indonesia.
•	Lithuania.
•	Macedonia.
•	Pakistan.
•	Romania

Didn't he bring his debit card with him? That's odd. And why can't he use his credit card? Most are universal. I can understand but taking much cash but to go with no means at all is very strange

They had better phone the bank straight away.

Are you staying there @Iwilldestroyyou345? I think I'd be coming home and not mentioning to them where I'd gone.

I'd be googling it to check!

I had a family member who tried a similar trick and claimed all their money was in a fixed-term deposit account.

(I made enquiries and found they would lose 3 months interest on the amount withdrawn, so effectively a few percent charge, but not impossible)

I don't suppose it was true anyway.

Well...depends. did he know the card won't work there? How did he react when he found out? Does the card not actually work or does he claim it doesn't? Does he usually expect you to pay or is this the first time and he's mortified?

"ooops, lol, what a coincidence I also forgot to bring any cash and my credit card doesn't work either"
Fight fire with fire and grift the grifter.

Acc to Natwest, there are currently only a handful of countries that do not take visa or mastercard (Cuba, Iran, Burma (commonly known as Myanmar), North Korea, Sudan, Syria), so I would seriously question whether the issue is that he doesn’t actually have any credit on his cards or money in his bank account as both cards should work.

He may need to go on line and notify both card providers that he abroad, but he can do that on his phone. Or does that also not work where you are?

I've been to outer Mongolia and was still able to use a credit card in a few places and certainly was able to get cash out with it!

I'd tell him to call is parents or siblings to transfer him money. You are not a bank. If you need money you withdraw it from your savings you don't try to doing of your girlfriend/ partner.

Agree. But there is a chance he’s only 18 and never stood on his own two feet or been abroad without his mum. Very unlikely I admit.