How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

Maybe OP has relied on him to pay for everything and now he's turning the tables?

I’d leave him to starve on holiday and's dump him while there or as soon as we return.

He's either incredibly tight or incredibly thoughtless- neither of which I’d find endearing, so ✌🏾✌🏾.

Exactly what I was thinking.

But either you leave him to eat dust for a week and go and enjoy yourself as best you can - but tricky if he is in the same bed. OR you sub him to a degree to make the holiday manageable and he pays you back the agreed amount when you get back.

But still, what credit card doesnt work abroad? Can he (or you could offer to) call the number on the back of the card and get "roaming"

I’d think he was a squeaky tight arse and I’m afraid I wouldn’t be with any guy like this. To me, meanness and greediness is a massive turn off so I’d be gone I’m afraid.

Fucking hell op. That’s awful.

And Indonesia? Really?

We've just come back from abroad. DH took his credit card so he had a limit to what he spent. He took his bank card also, just in case there were any problems.

I also took my credit card and bank card as I didn't know how widespread Apple pay was but everywhere took it.

I did have to notify NatWest that I was in the country I was from date x to date y but I imagine if I didn't, I still would have been ok.

Can he not go online and transfer money to his current account and then transfer to you, OP?

I’m not in the UK so assume “current” account is the equivalent of my “chequing” account.

This happened to me on a trip to Sicily with my ex BF… I’d paid for flights/hotels and drive us to the airport (paid for parking) and he declared he didn’t have any spending money. We muddled through and he was dumped once home. I can still remember all these happy couples dining out in Taormina and I felt so angry I was with a CF. Bell end.

This

I'd assume said partner wanted to lose a lot of weight quickly, unless it's all-inclusive.

I wouldn't be doing any bailing out.

Well he has to go back home now, what a shame.

I would keep track of what you spent and send him a request to reimburse you for the money you spent on him. If he refuses, dump him and get on with your life.

@jackstini I spent a week in Lithuania recently and only ever paid by card (mix of credit and debit) so that list is not accurate.

At least he's shown what a selfish fucker he is. Now you can make plans to dump him when you get back.

I agree with all the others saying this is his attempt to get you to pay for everything. It’s truly low behaviour and a I’d challenge it and dump him.

My ex did this. “Lost” his credit card on the way to the airport, leaving me to pay for everthing. Sadly, that wasn’t the wake up call it should have been.

Nor was having to lend him money to buy my wedding ring, because he “forgot” it. Nor was the cheque for the pre-marital counselling bouncing. Nor was him “forgetting” to bring all his ID to the appointment with the bank to sort the joint mortgage. Although that last was a blessing in disguise because, when I found the empty gin bottles a month before the wedding, I could tell him to fuck right off out of MY house.

Be smarter than me. Don’t be his rescue adult.

You booked hotel and flights and he can’t even give spring for drinks or a meal? Massive CF!! What if he needs to pop to the shop for blister plasters? He is hugely taking advantage!

I'd bin him off and wish him a lovely holiday.

This I would not do - you’d be leaving him with the free holiday… and then he'd sort his funds out as he’d have to and have a great time.

No, I’d stay but just head out on my own and, if it was a hotel with room service, contact the staff to prohibit charging to the room without my signature.

You make a very good point. Some credit cards cannot be used abroad until you specifically arrange this with the card issuer.

I'd be flying home on the next flight on my own and leaving him to it. I never put up with this shit. I've been treated like an idiot too often in the past.

I feel so sorry for you because your partner is an ahole and you are allowing it. I would rather be on my own than be with a tight fisted lying b*d. Credit card that doesn’t work abroad. Lie. Didn’t transfer funds from savings before holiday. Tight fisted a**hole tactic. Get shot if this behaviour continues.

@TarantinoIsAMisogynist
It's blatantly obvious from the
OP that they are not married and do not have shared finances.

So no further information is needed. No essential context is missing. 🙄

So we have never had a massive drip feed on Mn, that has changed the whole context of a post?
Of course we have and it's made fools out of earlier responders.
I don't assume anything is obvious.

The only element of this I'm prepared to believe is no access to the savings account, as they are not all instant access.
However, he must have a current account, probably overdrawn, and his credit card "not working" probably means it's maxed out.
Practically what you do while away with this guy I dunno, cos presumably you are sharing a room/ apartment?
He's relying on you offering to pay for him on the basis he'll pay you back. Would he? I'd be inclined to say, "oh dear, I'm not sure what you're going to do" and leave him to stew for a day, see what happens. I bet he finds a solution. If he doesn't I'd give him the absolute bare minimum he needs for food and soft drinks and spend the week thinking how you're going to dump him, probably accepting you won't see the money again.

@Iwilldestroyyou345 will you ever update us as to what has happened?