How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

He's lying about the savings. Absolute rubbish. He has to have a bank account surely? So unless he's skint till payday (highly likely) he can call the bank, very handily google will give him a number to call, but I'm going to guess he won't remember his account number or sort code....

His credit card is maxed out which is why it doesn't work.

Get rid of him ASAP.

Maybe you're making up a story to excuse this guy and blame the OP?
Try harder.

A credit card that does not work in the country. A savings account that does not have online access.

Really? Does he live in a developed country?

OP, how long have you known your partner and have you lived with him before?

He is clearly taking the piss if not taking you for a ride/mug.

🤣🤣sure. They live in 1960s?

What's the dim pillock's solution to the problem of his own creation?

What was your conversation about the holiday budget beforehand? When I go on holiday all of the spends are done on my partners CC and he then takes the money back from our holiday savings.

Ask them how they are going to eat. And then just buy yourself food and drinks. I wouldn't be subsidising this cheeky fucker who has done this expecting you to pay.

I had this in the states all I had to do was phone the credit card company and go through security and tell them where I was and it was sorted. Could he get someone to send him money via western union I’ve also done that when I lost my travelers cheques - when they were still a thing

This happened to me once. At the airport, he offered to buy me a drink but only had enough money for a soft drink. He said ‘but you have a credit card you can use, put everything on there and I’ll pay you when we get back’. I dumped him when we got back and made sure he paid me everything he owed me.

Yup, I was recently in a large German city where a fair few restaurants only accepted debit cards issued by German banks. We had some cash with us but needed to top up by withdrawing more from an ATM.

When I was in Cuba they didn't accept cards issued by US owned banks (or possibly those cards didn't work due to US sanctions, I don't recall, I just know you couldn't use them)

Find out which bank account he has his salary paid into. Lend him a phone so he can get those details - or even better check his phone has bank8ng apps on it.

do not give any money to him unless he transfers money over.

no alcohol afte 2 nights …. He may remember his details!

He is a selfish loser. Get rid. No ifs or bits.

Another one wanting to know where you are that a credit card doesn't work?
I know in some countries credit card use isn't as widespread so you might need cash for some things but he could get cash out of a bank using his credit card (it will cost a bit in bank charges but he should have planned better).

I think he's taking the piss.

I bet you that he’s lying and he’s actually broke. Once had to pay for a very expensive weekend away because of a CF like this! He booked a suite in a fancy hotel for the weekend for my birthday. His card got declined at check out and I had to pay!

DH… not HB!! Am on the vino (paid for by aforementioned DH…🤦🏽‍♀️

That’d be some passive aggressive bullshit. He’s a grown man, not a 5 year having a strop.

If he doesn’t want to pay for any/everything, he needs to communicate that to his partner.

if credit card doesn't work he can use his credit card on moneygram or similar and moneygram you some cash. get someone else to do it from the uk for him with his card details if it's also blocked on that country's internet.

surely he has online banking or can get some emergency cash via telephone banking?

@Iwilldestroyyou345

So there's been a lot of good advice on her, how are you handling this situation?

It's always possible that something has gone wrong. Stuff happens. What matters is how the partner is dealing with the problem.

Running through how to transfer money to you in order to provide some contribution is very different to sitting with arms folded waiting for you to pay up.

These are Very very different scenarios. Which is it ?

DH forgot his wallet on one holiday - he transferred a chunk of money over to me for the week.

This is what we do - expectation as a SAHM that HB pays for family stuff, but i have savings for silly things i fancy and I always take current account cards and credit cards in case something happens (DH gets mugged or something). Kids older/teens and will take their cards too. We all have apple pay.

I haven't taken money overseas in 10 years. I use my credit card, so if he was thinking the same thing I have complete sympathy

My adult stepson did this - we were in Spain for 6 weeks - invited him out to stay for a week, paid his flight, picked him up from the airport and he had bought no money at all with him. Spent lots of time suggesting we go out for coffees etc bur never on him. I get that he was with his dad but at late 20s I expected him to buy a round or something occasionally.

Never invited him away again after that... thankfully our joint oldest actually has a morality bone and is always fighting to pay for coffees etc and he's only 17!

An ex once had his card not work in India - not sure why. It was a genuine error and he was really stressed about it and that wasn't a problem. He paid me back straight away when when we got back. What does your DP say about it?